Husband laughed

natajane

At me doing my dumbell routine.

It's only the 2nd day of me trying this at home. I'm just trying the main movements per Tom Venutos advice. I need a home routine for after the baby is in bed.

What a jeffing JERK!

Moan over.

Ahhh, feels good to get that off my chest instead of eating my emotions away.

kissedbythesunshine

My silly husband use to laugh at me as well while doing my in home exercise dvds. Then he suddenly stopped doing it. I don't know what that was about and never asked. I have bigger things to argue with him about...like not brushing his freaking teeth in the shower (lol). No but seriously just ignore it or ask him what's the problem. I wouldn't let the incident bother me though. Good luck.

natajane

You guys are right, I shouldn't let it bother me. I don't think it will this time, I'm on a fat loss mission!

I called him out on it a moment ago. I was telling him how I'd managed not to snack at a children's birthday party today and he sarcastically commented about how it must have killed me inside. I asked him then to try be a bit more empathetic, or if he can't do that to just say nothing. He's agreed.

I'm feeling positive about my changes this time anyhow, I have support from friends, so it'll be all good.

snowflake954

Just keep going. He'll change his tune when your body starts looking good. My husband keeps following me around and touching my butt. There's no laughing at what I do, especially planks and squats.

Derf_Smeggle

snowflake954 wrote: »

Just keep going. He'll change his tune when your body starts looking good. My husband keeps following me around and touching my butt. There's no laughing at what I do, especially planks and squats.

This is how I help my girlfriend while she's doing Tracy Anderson workouts!

This typically leads to me getting chased around the apartment... Totally worth it.

jgnatca

I remember the landlord laughing that I had my own set of tools. How did he think a single parent undertook home repair? By batting my eyelashes?

jgnatca

rsclause

I would tell him to watch the kid(s) and go out for a run.

VeryKatie

My husband will giggle sometimes, but it's usually when I'm doing some dance and the move looks super silly. At which point I also laugh.

Karen_can_do_this

Keep going! Build up your muscle strength so that next time he laughs at you, throw the dumbell at his head. He won't laugh at you again
Seriously though, husbands (and wives I suppose) can be total buttheads.
My husband used to laugh at me for getting up at 4 am to go to the gym. Now he's used to it.

brb2008

I laugh at myself while I play wii fit and just dance. It adds to the calories. If my partner is in the room we have some rules, he cant touch me while Im exercising because it totally breaks all my focus. And for the same reason he isnt allowed to make comments or start sexy groaning at me while doing downward dog or some hip circle-y dancing with him behind me. Yeah yeah its a great butt, DROOL SILENTLY AND TOUCH YOURSELF, BUT NOT ME!

Haha. Im glad you talked to him though and asked for what you need. Its very important to communicate when we're frustrated especially with our partners

scolaris

Or you could just leave literature lying around about penile implants. Tell him it's not a problem he's smaller than average, but maybe he'd like to consider augmentation down the road... Smile patronizingly or giggle slightly to yourself when you catch a glimpse of his junk in the bathroom mirror...

Karen_can_do_this

^^^^^^ I love the way you think!!!!

Bonny132

Will he laugh when he wakes up one morning and realises what a fit wife he has got?

Working2BLean

Maybe it was funny.

It isn't like a wife never laughed at her husband struggling to put together a swing set.

Stick with it though

Good for you to do the work!

scolaris

I came back because I felt bad about being so harsh... LOL
~hangs head in shame~
But really, that's not okay!
I'm going through a funny situation: All through my forties as I struggled with perimenopause & active menopause and the pounds gradually packed on my husband was busy busy busy with his career and hobby of training for marathons & being a schedule nazi and acting kind of snarky & judgemental as I tried to understand why what had worked for me before was not working while I had a new baby and a torn up half remodeled house and a mom on hospice and the only thing that felt even remotely cozy & reassuring was cooking and eating...and eating... and eating!!!
Well, he has some pretty severe arthritis now & can't comfortably run. And he started taking Paxil for anxiety and he's gaining weight very gradually, and kind of struggling with the fact that what used to work for weight management isn't working for him anymore. I'm here on MFP where I've lost at least 19 lbs, probably more like 25 total, while he has gained that same amount. And I kind of want to be mean to him!! As payback! But that doesn't really solve anything, does it?
So anyhow, that explains my snark. But really, making someone feel bad never works and only hurts oneself so laugh at what I said but don't consider it advice! xo

Working2BLean

scolaris wrote: »

I came back because I felt bad about being so harsh... LOL
~hangs head in shame~
But really, that's not okay!
I'm going through a funny situation: All through my forties as I struggled with perimenopause & active menopause and the pounds gradually packed on my husband was busy busy busy with his career and hobby of training for marathons & being a schedule nazi and acting kind of snarky & judgemental as I tried to understand why what had worked for me before was not working while I had a new baby and a torn up half remodeled house and a mom on hospice and the only thing that felt even remotely cozy & reassuring was cooking and eating...and eating... and eating!!!
Well, he has some pretty severe arthritis now & can't comfortably run. And he started taking Paxil for anxiety and he's gaining weight very gradually, and kind of struggling with the fact that what used to work for weight management isn't working for him anymore. I'm here on MFP where I've lost at least 19 lbs, probably more like 25 total, while he has gained that same amount. And I kind of want to be mean to him!! As payback! But that doesn't really solve anything, does it?
So anyhow, that explains my snark. But really, making someone feel bad never works and only hurts oneself so laugh at what I said but don't consider it advice! xo

That was a very thoughtful post

natajane

Thanks for coming back, that was kind of you. If you were being mean, don't worry about it, I didn't realise! Maybe my English sense of humour thought you were just joking with me, I thought your post was funny.

We're not in too dis-similar circumstances to each other. My husband has always been slim and eaten what he likes when he likes. Never exercises. Lucky him! I unfortunately like the comfort of food haha.

scolaris

It's good to laugh!!
You've got this!

FitGirl0123

I'm sorry he laughed. Tell him to buzz off.

mandipandi75

Mine has never laughed because he's actually been impressed with what I do. He does like to stand right in front of me and watch my intense expressions...also likes to play grab *kitten*... that actually is irritating. If he ever laughed, I'd have to show him how unfunny it really is. Don't mess with a girls workouts!

lessismoreohio

I believe that some husbands and some wives may feel threatened or guilty when their spouse begins to get fit or work on losing weight. This results in a laugh, snide comment or some other subtle slight. I've seen this before. Focus on what is best for you and don't let other's comments distract you.

OkieFitness

lessismoreohio wrote: »

I believe that some husbands and some wives may feel threatened or guilty when their spouse begins to get fit or work on losing weight. This results in a laugh, snide comment or some other subtle slight. I've seen this before. Focus on what is best for you and don't let other's comments distract you.

Couldn't agree more. I'm a guy and my SO recently rolled her eyes when I told her I lost 5 pounds on my goal to lose 30 before my birthday (March 1st). Her response both hurt and annoyed but isn't going to detract me from my focus. Keep your eye on the prize!