Obesity Vs Rejection

chamansrv176

I'm 170cms weighing 90kgs. I have been obese all my life but now things will need to be changed. I want to lose those extra 10-12kgs and be in shape. I'm looking for people with similar goals. Please feel free to add me.
PS: I'm 25 and got rejected by the love of my life.

BuddhaB0y

If she rejected you then she isn't the love of your life.

Girls come and go, the right one will come along when you stop looking so hard.

Don't lose weight for anyone else but yourself. Get in a healthy mindset and lose it for the right reasons.

Don't fool yourself into believing if you lose the weight she will suddenly like you. She's not into you dude....

mwise9811

My husband and I have been married for three years. Within that three year time span he has gained about 50 lbs. and myself about 20lbs. We still love each other as the same day we met. Is it a good thing for us to have let ourselves go...no!! However, the moral of the story is that if she was truly the "love of your life" she would not care about your weight. She would care about the person you are inside, not out. You may think she is the love of your life but five years from now you will look back on her and think "wth was I thinking." I went through a lot of rejection in my past due to people judging me because of me being a little on the heavy side and now I Iook at where they are in their lives and I am thankful that they rejected me because I would not give them the time of day in the present.

tomatoey

BuddhaB0y wrote: »

If she rejected you then she isn't the love of your life.

Girls come and go, the right one will come along when you stop looking so hard.

Don't lose weight for anyone else but yourself. Get in a healthy mindset and lose it for the right reasons.

Don't fool yourself into believing if you lose the weight she will suddenly like you. She's not into you dude....

+1000

melonaulait

You have to do it for yourself only, otherwise it'll be extra hard sticking with weight loss goals.

Colorscheme

I'm really sorry it happened to you. My boyfriend is obese and while I would like for him to eat better for the sake of our child, it doesn't really matter to me as he is pretty healthy otherwise.

Someone who rejects you because of your weight is not worth it. You deserve better.

misskarne

Pro tip: she didn't reject you because you were fat.

I'm not denying that weight loss is a good idea, I'm just stating facts. You liked her. She didn't feel the same way about you. She is not obligated to return your feelings and you losing weight is not going to wave a magic wand and make her suddenly fall in love with you.

Lose the weight for yourself, and no-one else.

bmayes2014

misskarne wrote: »

Pro tip: she didn't reject you because you were fat.

I'm not denying that weight loss is a good idea, I'm just stating facts. You liked her. She didn't feel the same way about you. She is not obligated to return your feelings and you losing weight is not going to wave a magic wand and make her suddenly fall in love with you.

Lose the weight for yourself, and no-one else.

^^^^^^ THIS!! I could not have said it better myself. It may or may not have been about the weight but you have to do this for yourself. I am an attractive woman and I like guys of all different sizes and shapes and fitness (or lack thereof) levels. Just do it for you. The right girl will like you for you!

dhimaan

There are billions of girls on the planet. Go find another one.

holly_roman

ok first, OP I am sorry that happened. It is rough but you will get through it. promise :-) I don't care what anyone says, losing someone is a good motivator to start. It doesn't mean it will stay your motivator, you will do it all on your own eventually. In fact, I remember a blog piece going around recently about a guy that lost a bunch of weight and his initial motivator was a lost love then he started to just love being fit. I wish you luck on your weight loss.
Secondly, I want to point out to everyone else that people do leave thier BF's/SO's because of weight. Not everyone is accepting of it. This guy just got his heart broke, try not to be so callous.

VykkDraygoVPR

dhimaan wrote: »

There are billions of girls on the planet. Go find another one.

Wow.