Stressed out help me please

AsrarHussain

Hi there guys
I have had a bad 3 weeks of dieting I was hoping this week would be better. I went to my aunts house and was forced to eat ice cream which put me over my calories because I had eaten before so I had not planned to eat.
I am just angry but I am have been doing running outside and my normal gym routine has started.
I was thinking of doing tomorrow a very low calorie day my daily intake to loose weight is 2400.
You can check my diary its a mess. I was thinking of eating tomorrow 1800 just for tomorrow and then Sunday I am going to stay more strict

pollypocket1021

You don't need to over-restrict tomorrow to make up for some ice cream today. Just start over and stick to your goal. If you restict too much on one day to make up for a "bad" day here or there, you may set yourself up for a binge.

There are times when you will go over and that's OK. Just start over the next day. I did not see your height/weight/age/gender, but 2400 seems like a pretty big # to me. Are you losing at your anticipated rate?

malibu927

How were you forced to eat it? Couldn't you have said no?

Just log it and move on. No need to punish yourself.

rankinsect

One serving of ice cream is hardly going to physically derail you. Do you really think that over the rest of your life, you'll never have days where you eat a bit too much? Log it and move on. Don't restrict afterwards, it's usually counterproductive.

The much more worrisome part here is your attitude - this one serving of ice cream might mentally derail you, if you allow it.

jennifer_417

rankinsect wrote: »

One serving of ice cream is hardly going to physically derail you. Do you really think that over the rest of your life, you'll never have days where you eat a bit too much? Log it and move on. Don't restrict afterwards, it's usually counterproductive.

The much more worrisome part here is your attitude - this one serving of ice cream might mentally derail you, if you allow it.

+1

MoShips

Sure, go for 1800 and then be happy with whatever you manage. My calorie intake is 1200. I manage about half the days, and eat 1400 or so the rest of the time. I'm ok with slow up and down weight loss. Overall I still lose.
If you eat your fave lowest calory meals you can do something like 1800. I think that's an okay practice. But if you are too hungry, you can just add a 100 cal snack. Don't be too angry about the ice cream at your aunt's. Our culture equates love and welcoming with feeding people. She was just confused about how to show love. Right?

misskarne

She held you down and shoved the ice cream into your mouth and then held your mouth closed until you were forced to swallow?

jemhh

Hey guy, it's just one ice cream. Don't freak out. Get back on it tomorrow and you'll be fine.

nutmegoreo

How horribly unsupportive of her to sabotage you in such a way! :noway:

Honestly, one day over cals is not going to alter your overall efforts. Plus, it was ice cream (yum) with a family member who loves you (yay for family members who love you). I had two really high over cal days last week. This week, my weight loss continues as normal. There is no need to go low cal tomorrow, there is no need to do anything other than log it, move on, and remember that ice cream with an aunt who loves you will happen occasionally, and that is perfectly fine to enjoy (both time with the aunt and eating the ice cream).

AsrarHussain

pollypocket1021 wrote: »

You don't need to over-restrict tomorrow to make up for some ice cream today. Just start over and stick to your goal. If you restict too much on one day to make up for a "bad" day here or there, you may set yourself up for a binge.

There are times when you will go over and that's OK. Just start over the next day. I did not see your height/weight/age/gender, but 2400 seems like a pretty big # to me. Are you losing at your anticipated rate?

yes I was loosing weight 1 bad week turned into 2 and this is the 3rd bad week.
I was not working out but iv started again. This week I went jogging 2 days tomorrow will be 3 and went gym twice and boxed once. I will make my split better for next week.
I am 5 ft 11 height and 24 years old 94 kg in weight i think

AsrarHussain

malibu927 wrote: »

How were you forced to eat it? Couldn't you have said no?

Just log it and move on. No need to punish yourself.

I did say no but I was not forced I was guilted into it.
I was 700 calories over on that day it was a bad start to the week which got worse and worse this sunday more strict and workouts will resume

AsrarHussain

thanks guys it was 1 bad week which turned into 2 then 3 time to refocus and get my get back in.
My workout will resume I was busy revising for exams and now exams I am prepared so back to the gym to hit the iron and get back in.

zoeysasha37

Log it and move on. Punishing yourself isn't cool. It can lead to destructive behavior. Recognize that you are human and we make mistakes. Its okay. So what you ate ice cream and had a couple rough weeks , that's not whats important. What's important is that your refocused now and will make tomorrow better. Punishing yourself can turn into a vicious cycle so its not a good idea. We all go through rough times, man up and move on.

AsrarHussain

thorsmom01 wrote: »

Log it and move on. Punishing yourself isn't cool. It can lead to destructive behavior. Recognize that you are human and we make mistakes. Its okay. So what you ate ice cream and had a couple rough weeks , that's not whats important. What's important is that your refocused now and will make tomorrow better. Punishing yourself can turn into a vicious cycle so its not a good idea. We all go through rough times, man up and move on.

Thank you it was a accumulative of everything first I failed my exams but i have a resit then my workout were not going as planned due to the reason I was revising but it ok now.
thank you

nutmegoreo

So you aren't really mad about the ice cream, you are mad at yourself for being off track for three weeks. The truth (in my opinion) is you shouldn't be mad at yourself either. You are human, and when we get stressed, we often make choices that are not in line with our goals. This gets easier with time, but it is important to be more gentle with yourself for going off track. Refocus and get back at it. No need to 'punish' yourself for being human.

If a friend of yours said the things you are saying, how would you approach it? Would you say to them "wow, you really suck, you can't stay focused at all, you need to punish yourself tomorrow" Of course, you wouldn't. Give yourself the same courtesy that you would give to any of your friends.

Liftng4Lis

Well if you were forced to eat it, I hope it was chocolate!
Seriously, no one forces us, we make choices. You made it, its over. Log it and move on.

AsrarHussain

nutmegoreo wrote: »

So you aren't really mad about the ice cream, you are mad at yourself for being off track for three weeks. The truth (in my opinion) is you shouldn't be mad at yourself either. You are human, and when we get stressed, we often make choices that are not in line with our goals. This gets easier with time, but it is important to be more gentle with yourself for going off track. Refocus and get back at it. No need to 'punish' yourself for being human.

If a friend of yours said the things you are saying, how would you approach it? Would you say to them "wow, you really suck, you can't stay focused at all, you need to punish yourself tomorrow" Of course, you wouldn't. Give yourself the same courtesy that you would give to any of your friends.

You are right 100% thank you I am harsh on myself for some reason but I have to learn to understand I am a human
I really appreciate the kind words

zoeysasha37

AsrarHussain wrote: »

thorsmom01 wrote: »

Log it and move on. Punishing yourself isn't cool. It can lead to destructive behavior. Recognize that you are human and we make mistakes. Its okay. So what you ate ice cream and had a couple rough weeks , that's not whats important. What's important is that your refocused now and will make tomorrow better. Punishing yourself can turn into a vicious cycle so its not a good idea. We all go through rough times, man up and move on.

Thank you it was a accumulative of everything first I failed my exams but i have a resit then my workout were not going as planned due to the reason I was revising but it ok now.
thank you

It happens to all of us at some point. Life isn't always going to go smoothly. Just make it better from this point forward and remember that mistakes are okay. We all have weeks that are not good for many reasons. Its important to forgive yourself and pick up where you left off.

Sued0nim

Log it move on

And I get the feeling of being forced to eat ...in many families, even cultures, it rejects hospitality to not share food and can be deemed disrespectful. Also how families show love

richardgavel

I say log it an move on as well. But if you feel you need to compensate, I would spread it over several days as opposed to trying to cut an additional 700 or 800 calories in one day. Or maybe add a an extra 10 min to your workouts for a week. You don't have to starve yourself and then feel worse and possibly lose motivation. That's why fad diets often done work, they feel to confining.

scolaris

You're not seeing the forest for the trees. If this diet doesn't work for you I can guarantee that won't hinge on your auntie's unscheduled ice cream...

AsrarHussain

I weighed myself and surprisingly I lost weight lol.

SLLRunner

AsrarHussain wrote: »

Hi there guys
I have had a bad 3 weeks of dieting I was hoping this week would be better. I went to my aunts house and was forced to eat ice cream which put me over my calories because I had eaten before so I had not planned to eat.
I am just angry but I am have been doing running outside and my normal gym routine has started.
I was thinking of doing tomorrow a very low calorie day my daily intake to loose weight is 2400.
You can check my diary its a mess. I was thinking of eating tomorrow 1800 just for tomorrow and then Sunday I am going to stay more strict

Sorry to be blunt, but unless auntie held you down and force fed you, you chose to eat that ice cream. My guess is you are fond of auntie and didn't want to hurt her feelings.

Stop punishing yourself, and don't restrict. Log it, move on, and continue to eat within your calorie goals.

PinkPixiexox

You were not 'forced' to eat the ice cream. You made an active (and frankly, human) choice to eat the ice cream. And what of it? It's not a crime to eat food you enjoy eating. Putting a ban on certain food types and beating yourself up about going over your calorie allowance on a given day is going to make you thoroughly miserable. Take it from someone who has been there and bought the T-shirt.

You went over your calories. Oh well. Move on. No need to starve yourself in the coming days.

amusedmonkey

There is nothing wrong with having less than perfect days. There is nothing wrong with choosing to follow social courtesies or even just indulging because you feel like it from time to time. There is also nothing wrong with wanting to make up for it. What's wrong and may affect your diet in the long run is feeling stressed about it and treating your solution as a punishment rather than a simple fix for an unexpected situation.

You don't live in a cave on an uninhabited island. There will always be situations that you can't control that may present you with difficult choices, and you won't always pick the best choice for your diet. How you learn to cope with these situations and how you manage the consequences is a very valuable skill for long term results.

There are multiple valid strategies to fix a day of overeating like having a low day, exercising more, or just logging it and moving on knowing one day is nothing in the grand scheme of things. As long as you approach these strategies without guilt, self-punishment or stress they will be very helpful. Otherwise your whole dieting experience will become stressful and you won't last long. Expecting to be "perfect" every single day is one of the deadly sins of dieting.

snowflake954

I'm with the posters saying--it's not the ice cream. It's all the rest. 2 or 3 or 4 "bad" weeks? Time to sit down and decide what you can reasonably do. It sounds as if you're rushing from one thing to the next. We all have to juggle priorities. Family is a priority, studies are a priority, exercise is a priority and so on.... Make a list of yours and then work out what you can do and what you can't. When the unexpected happens (ice cream offered by a family member) a slip up will not rerail you. You plan for a few slip ups. That way you can keep your calm and go on from there. Good luck.