HELP! I need so much help!

Jmbean84

DECEMBER 2015 UPDATE: so here I am almost four years after I started MFP and I'm so mad at myself! I don't know what my weight is right now because I have not stepped on a scale in almost a year.. I had lost about 62 lbs and 60 inches between February 2012 and march 2013. I hit a plateau and started to lose motivation. Then the holidays rolled around and I didn't track anything. By the time January 2014 rolled around, I had gained back almost 30 of those 62 lbs. ever since then I have hated myself more than I did even before I started losing weight. I can't get back on track, I can't get motivated. I will do good for a few days or a week, then BAM! I screw it up over a weekend and just give up again. I have back injuries from a previous car accident, so sometimes I use the pain from that as an excuse not to work out. It's a vicious cycle. I deleted all my friends on here because I felt ashamed. I didn't feel I could help them with their journey when I couldn't even help myself. I REALLY WANT to do this. For good this time. I need help. Lots of it. I need accountability. I'm 31 and I have three kids who need me. My fiancé is wonderful and wants to lose along with me. He has just as much trouble with motivation as I do. Our kids are thin and healthy but I want us all to be healthy together. What kind of example are me and their dad setting if we just sit around getting fatter then preach to them to get off the video games and go outside and run! Please help me get my motivation back!
Please add me as a friend!!

Expatmommy79

Ok. I hear you... Focus on the positives:
You know how to loose weight
You have the support of your partner and kids
You know what you have to change

So. 1 foot in front of the other. Make a list of 5 habits you need to break and 5 you want to start. Tackle 1 from each group every few weeks until it becomes routine.

Motivation? For me it's my skinny jeans. They last fit in December 2010... For 2 months before I started gaining. Maybe for you it's a feeling you had while thin, having more energy for the kids, a picture. Regardless- you have to want it for you. No one can want it for you.

If you start making small changes you will see the needle move, which may entice you to do more and try harder.

I'm just at the beginning. Logging even on bad days. Surfing the forums. Trying to be conscious all day about moving more and eating less. I'm down 13 pounds and have 30+ to go.

My DH isn't overweight. I still have to cook for him and while he is supportive it would be easier if I stayed out of the kitchen. I also have 3 kids to cook for. Embrace the support you have from doing this with your DH. Lean on each other and find a WOE that suits both of you. Exercise together and with the kids.

You can do this.

holly_roman

I hear you. I just started exercising and I am almost 3 months in on MFP. You don't 'have' to exercise to lose weight. Maybe start with just portion control and logging your food. I hate mornings so it is SOOOOO hard to be motivated to work out. then by the time I am done with work I am so busy with cooking, cleaning, family(children and DH) that I just can't fit it in. So I didn't start with exercise. I am down 14lbs in my almost 3 months. I have found increasing my steps per day has helped also without it feeling like I was 'exercising'. Good Luck!