I figured out how to lose weight

april_khalia

But I haven't figured out how to be confident. Im co-dependent and I want to learn to not be. Im 34 with a Significant other. I have 3 children ages 15, 10 and 1. I have a college degree and work as a chemical dependency counselor. Any of you have these struggles, or knowledge?

BrownEyeAngel

On my profile I have posted words of confidence that I use everyday on the ALL ABOUT ME section. Go and check it out. I have committed to myself to build me, myself and I up everyday and today I am all these! My confidence has grown a lot and as a woman we do struggle in the area and now I am able to motivate others. You are beautiful and you can do anything you set your mind too! Keeping pushing yourself to become a better you and you will see a change.

RobynLB83

Learning how to not be codependent is as simple as recognizing codependent thoughts and behaviors and stopping them. You should talk to your partner about this, because he might be able to give you feedback and / or reestablish and maintain more healthy boundaries. You should also try to find a workbook or something on the topic to work through. I like workbook formats because they make you apply the information, and give you things you can actually DO to work on changing your behavior-- rather than just a book format, that might be enlightening, but not very useful.

clobern

I am a codependant person in most aspects, I love being with my wife every second that we can be together. And it makes it even better to know that she is going to the gym with me and getting up early to workout and going to aqua aerobics...

But if she didn't want to go, it's something I can do myself. Because I am doing this for me. Sure, I am doing it to be a better father, a better husband, to be around longer... but I am doing it because it is for ME.