I'm on a diet and my boyfriend is not!!!

gracepostie

So my boyfriend is a little skinny Minnie. Eats whatever he wants whenever he wants and is a stick!! So it's so hard to not eat the stuff he eats and to stick with my diet!! I have all my meals planned. But he'll come home with pizza. While I eat my veggies. How do i not just eat the pizza too?!?! Does anyone else have their significant other not on a diet? Tempting them? What do you do to resist?

booksandchocolate12

Eat what he eats, only less?

No reason you can't have pizza, just not as much as you used to.

SoDamnHungry

You should probably have a slice of pizza and a nice big salad to go with it so you don't eat like six slices of pizza. Because that's what happens when pizza is around.

VeryKatie

booksandchocolate12 wrote: »

Eat what he eats, only less?

No reason you can't have pizza, just not as much as you used to.

Yep! 1 slice of XL is plenty, and you can supplement with your veggies. even 1.5 is easy to fit into a day.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

callsitlikeiseeit

i eat what everyone else in my house eats, just less of it.

it's not hard. lol

zombiemomjo

I cook for four other people in my house, and none of them are on my diet. It's hard to not eat the mashed potatoes with butter that I make for them, but it all comes down to liking how I FEEL about myself when I'm successful at this more than I like the taste of their tater tots. And I try to make healthy food for me that I really, truly enjoy. Also, if it fits in your calories to enjoy a small slice of pizza, then have the pizza. Ultimately this journey is about balance. Being able to enjoy the foods you love as part of a more healthy lifestyle.

flabassmcgee

booksandchocolate12 wrote: »

Eat what he eats, only less?

No reason you can't have pizza, just not as much as you used to.

This as hell.

Of_Monsters_and_Meat

Just break up.

peleroja

My husband eats about 3000 calories a day to maintain his weight, whereas I'm more like half that. We make it work by eating different portions, and with calorie-dense stuff I often just take a couple hundred calories worth and have a large portion of vegetables with it. It's not a big issue for us, honestly, as we know we have very different nutritional needs.

williams969

I have three sons (two are very lean, active teens) and a husband who have massively larger caloric needs than me. When we have pizza, I eat pizza. Just less (one or two slices). I fill the rest of my plate with veggies and salad.

I learned right quick that if I denied myself any of what they were eating, I'd get resentful and hateful. So, no denying myself yummy stuff. Pizza, tacos, burgers, etc. can be fit into any daily intake. Just choose a portion that fits.

provencal73

My hubs isn't as strict as I am so I feel you. Try guzzling your water and eating your veggies as filler first. It helps me.

gracepostie

Of_Monsters_and_Meat wrote: »

Just break up.

Oh yeah SURE. Hahaha

gracepostie

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

timberowl

I have this same problem. My boyfriend is 6'4" and can eat a large pizza by himself and not gain an ounce. All he has to do is say "hm, I should lose some weight" and it seemingly instantly comes off in a few days.
The only semi-solution I've found so far is to INSIST on doing all of the grocery shopping and all of the cooking--for both of you. That's what we do.

williams969

Ha, everyone said the same thing at the same time lol! Get it yet, OP? Tens of 1000s of long term successful people here.

Seriously though, moderation works. Strict is not necessary (can even be detrimental) for success.

devil_in_a_blue_dress

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

There's nothing unhealthy about a slice of pizza. Unless it's deep dish or covered in meat, it's usually 250-350 calories a slice and the macro breakdown usually pretty balanced. Being able to eat normal foods within your calorie goal is actually a skill, learning it now will benefit you greatly in the future.

Being too strict with yourself will only lead to you getting frustrated and quitting.

Stop thinking in terms of diet. You are adopting a new lifestyle.

dfranch

I lost nearly 100 lbs when my wife was not on a diet. I plan my meals around dinner, if dinner is pizza, then I sacrifice at lunch. I usually ate a really lite lunch (no more than 500 calories, sometimes as low as 290). A 6" ham sub at Subway is 290 calories That allowed me to eat a mostly normal dinner (slightly smaller portions, but not much). Certain things I cut out almost entirely (french fries, pepsi), others I cut way down on (milk, bread). If I had a few calories left at the end of the day I'd have fruit for dessert instead of ice cream. You can eat a ton of fruit foe very little calories.

coreyreichle

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

The biggest healthy habit you can get down is to learn to eat anything, just in moderation, as long as it fits your caloric goals, and hopefully macros.

Nuke_64

You got plenty good advice here on what to do with regards on what to eat when he brings home pizza. I want to add some regarding how you perceived others eating habits.

gracepostie wrote: »

Eats whatever he wants whenever he wants and is a stick!!

He may eat whatever he want and is a stick but realize the amount he eats is maintaining his weight. If you were to track all that he ate in a day and his activity you will probably find he is eating a lot less than you think or is a lot more active than you realize.

HutchA12

This isn't a temp dieting issue it's a lifelong reality. You and your bf have different Stats and tdee requirements. A 6' guy needs to eat more over a 5'2 gal. It would be good now to eat what you want but to eat less than you used to. Because you and your bf probably will never eat at the same lvl without one of you bulking up or the other losing more weight.

jgnatca

Thursday nights is Quizno's night at our house, and I usually order the flatbread pizza. I eat half. Pizza every week for the win.

cerise_noir

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

You only need to be strict in calorie counting by weighing and logging your foods, not in the foods that you eat. Weight loss is all about calorie deficit. Just like many said, eat what your guy eats, just less of it and add a large salad... And log log log!

dwulet130

I feel you pain - my bf can eat whatever he wants and be slim. Who am I to say no to a pitcher of margaritas. My strategies -

Eat a slice or two of pizza and then cut yourself off (though this does take some advance planning calorie wise). Order 2 pizzas, 1 for for him and a healthier version for me.
Cook - if you can make healthy food delicious he'll eat what you do, not vice versa.

nordlead2005

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

gracepostie

dwulet130 wrote: »

I feel you pain - my bf can eat whatever he wants and be slim. Who am I to say no to a pitcher of margaritas. My strategies -

Eat a slice or two of pizza and then cut yourself off (though this does take some advance planning calorie wise). Order 2 pizzas, 1 for for him and a healthier version for me.
Cook - if you can make healthy food delicious he'll eat what you do, not vice versa.

Good ones!! I like it! Thank you so much

murp4069

My boyfriend is in charge of dinner most of the time because I work a few hours later than he does. Unfortunately he is a bit lazy and loves delivery/take-out! I've had to work with him in either: (1) not ordering me anything and I will fend for myself when I get home (and hopefully after he's already eaten whatever unhealthy food he ordered so it isn't around for me to eat); or (2) eating what he orders, but less of it.

Take pizza for example. He's not going to eat the whole thing on his own, and I love pizza so I want to eat it too. I'm not going to deprive myself because in the past that has always been a sure-fire way of failure for me. So, I eat the pizza. But I eat less of it. A few months ago I could easily put away 3 large slices of pizza without really thinking about it. However, since I've started eating healthier and logging, first I check to see if either the restaurant posts the calories per slice or if I can find something comparable in the MFP database. Once I figure out an estimate of the calories in a slice and how many calories I have left for the day, I'll determine how much I can eat. Normally by dinnertime my calorie allowance is still enough to easily allow me to eat 1-2 slices (depending on the size and toppings of course) plus a salad or veggies on the side. This way, I haven't deprived myself and I've stayed within my calorie goal for the day.

I'd really recommend not depriving yourself of foods like pizza if you really like them. Perhaps just start with a goal of eating a smaller portion - maybe eventually you'll never want pizza again (though I highly doubt that LOL). A lot of the progress I've made can really be attributed to small changes in my diet, primarily through eating smaller portions of the food I've always eaten. Pretty much every time I've failed at weight loss can be traced back to setting way too high of goals for myself (such as saying I'll never have pizza again) instead of smaller lifestyle changes (such as eating less pizza).

gracepostie

nordlead2005 wrote: »

I eat pizza every day (or close to it) and I'm down 45lb. If you want to lose weight eat at a deficit. If you want to be healthy, eat a varied diet and eat less nutritional items in moderation. But there is no reason you have to be strict with anything (not even calorie counting).

Thank you!!!! I always thought in order to loose weight you had to be strict on yourself and suffer. Hahaha

Ninkyou

coreyreichle wrote: »

gracepostie wrote: »

itsfuntobenormal wrote: »

Ask him what days he plans on bringing home dinner and plan around it?

I eat the same food I did when I was fat, just less of them and more vegetables. Are you always going to avoid pizza? Burgers? No? Then why do it now?

Good point!!! I just feel like just starting out on a diet I want to be strict. So I can get the healthy habits down. Then maybe in a month or so. I can have the slice of pizza. Or whatever it is

The biggest healthy habit you can get down is to learn to eat anything, just in moderation, as long as it fits your caloric goals, and hopefully macros.

Yessss.

mlh71_2000

My husband's idea of going on a diet is switching from an IPA to a pale ale! I have tried eating indulgent foods in moderation, but it always tends to trend towards eating more and more of what I shouldn't. My goal right now is to just not let myself think about it. If I do, I'll just end up telling myself I'll work it off later, which usually doesn't happen, then the guilt, and well, we know how it goes from there.

Good luck to you. Stay strong!

gracepostie

Thanks everyone!! I'm happy to hear all of this. Very encouraging! Now if only there was any pizza left over for breakfast lol!