i am tired

Tsoggo
Tsoggo Posts: 114 Member
in Motivation and Support
All my life I am fat, giant and useless. Those are the things people say to me. I am fat giant and useless. And i came to a time where i ask myself, am i really useless? Do i really live for a reason? Im sorry for the drama, but i just can't help it.

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  • Tsoggo
    Tsoggo Posts: 114 Member
    edited January 2016
    Really sorry for the drama. I just need to get this thing off. Need to share to someone and mfp is what i have now
  • Rdsgoal16
    Rdsgoal16 Posts: 302 Member
    edited January 2016
    People do not define you....I was once super fit and have beat myself up more than anyone else around me for slipping into the state I was a few months ago. Not to sound cliché but you have to start loving yourself a little. I would look at myself in the mirror in the morning (kind of like Bruce Willis in "The last Boy Scout style) and tell myself your a looser. I believe God puts us here for a reason, I feel the best when I have helped other people. Volunteer for something, homeless shelter, soup kitchen, church prayer group, you will be amazed the satisfaction of being selfless. I thought my weight defined me. losing 30 pounds has changed my outlook..I wish you the best my friend....you are not useless.
  • Tsoggo
    Tsoggo Posts: 114 Member
    Rdsgoal16 wrote: »
    People do not define you....I was once super fit and have beat myself up more than anyone else around me for slipping into the state I was a few months ago. Not to sound cliché but you have to start loving yourself a little. I would look at myself in the mirror in the morning (kind of like Bruce Willis in "The last Boy Scout style) and tell myself your a looser. I believe God puts us here for a reason, I feel the best when I have helped other people. Volunteer for something, homeless shelter, soup kitchen, church prayer group, you will be amazed the satisfaction of being selfless. I thought my weight defined me. losing 30 pounds has changed my outlook..I wish you the best my friend....you are not useless.

    Thank you for the words man, that's what i really need right now.
  • nineteentwenty
    nineteentwenty Posts: 469 Member
    Hey man, you're not your body. You're a mind and a soul and an infinite collection of thoughts and feelings, and none of that relates to how much you eat or how much you move. Your body is just an anchor, just a shell for who you are. Just because your body isn't keeping up with the rest of you doesn't make you useless.

  • try2again
    try2again Posts: 3,562 Member
    I never had people around me being abusive (and I would say you need to distance yourself from those people real quick), but before I started on MFP, I know I was feeling like my life had become a little pointless by virtue of the fact that I just didn't have enough energy to do anything, never felt good, and was losing my mobility. In my case, it was a good thing- it motivated me to get an account on MFP and start logging that day. I wasn't brimming with enthusiasm or motivation, but I knew this was a problem that could be cured one small step at a time. It has changed my life, not just my weight. You have no idea how much better your life can be! But like Rdsgoal16 mentioned, it helps A LOT to not focus so much on yourself and start seeing what you can offer others. You are young and you have the power to shape your life (and your body) into whatever you want it to be! :)
  • 00EmilyJo00
    00EmilyJo00 Posts: 64 Member
    jadebuniel wrote: »
    All my life I am fat, giant and useless. Those are the things people say to me. I am fat giant and useless. And i came to a time where i ask myself, am i really useless? Do i really live for a reason? Im sorry for the drama, but i just can't help it.

    You are NOT useless, everyone has a purpose in life you just have to find it. Some people are cruel, it makes them feel better about themselves to put others down. Do NOT let those people get to you or let their words define you.

  • Tsoggo
    Tsoggo Posts: 114 Member
    Kkallisti wrote: »
    Hey man, you're not your body. You're a mind and a soul and an infinite collection of thoughts and feelings, and none of that relates to how much you eat or how much you move. Your body is just an anchor, just a shell for who you are. Just because your body isn't keeping up with the rest of you doesn't make you useless.
    Thank you for these words
  • Tsoggo
    Tsoggo Posts: 114 Member
    edited January 2016
    try2again wrote: »
    I never had people around me being abusive (and I would say you need to distance yourself from those people real quick), but before I started on MFP, I know I was feeling like my life had become a little pointless by virtue of the fact that I just didn't have enough energy to do anything, never felt good, and was losing my mobility. In my case, it was a good thing- it motivated me to get an account on MFP and start logging that day. I wasn't brimming with enthusiasm or motivation, but I knew this was a problem that could be cured one small step at a time. It has changed my life, not just my weight. You have no idea how much better your life can be! But like Rdsgoal16 mentioned, it helps A LOT to not focus so much on yourself and start seeing what you can offer others. You are young and you have the power to shape your life (and your body) into whatever you want it to be! :)

    Thank you for this. And congrats btw, you passed the stage where i am right now. yes, i was focused on my self my entire life. I will try to be selfless and maybe that will boost my self esteem. Thanks again man :)
  • Tsoggo
    Tsoggo Posts: 114 Member
    00EmilyJo00 wrote: »
    jadebuniel wrote: »
    All my life I am fat, giant and useless. Those are the things people say to me. I am fat giant and useless. And i came to a time where i ask myself, am i really useless? Do i really live for a reason? Im sorry for the drama, but i just can't help it.

    You are NOT useless, everyone has a purpose in life you just have to find it. Some people are cruel, it makes them feel better about themselves to put others down. Do NOT let those people get to you or let their words define you.
    Thank you emily. I wish i could find my purpose in life. And i still can't figure out how other people feel better when they stepped on someone. Btw thanks again.
  • blues4miles
    blues4miles Posts: 1,481 Member
    Rdsgoal16 wrote: »
    People do not define you....I was once super fit and have beat myself up more than anyone else around me for slipping into the state I was a few months ago. Not to sound cliché but you have to start loving yourself a little. I would look at myself in the mirror in the morning (kind of like Bruce Willis in "The last Boy Scout style) and tell myself your a looser. I believe God puts us here for a reason, I feel the best when I have helped other people. Volunteer for something, homeless shelter, soup kitchen, church prayer group, you will be amazed the satisfaction of being selfless. I thought my weight defined me. losing 30 pounds has changed my outlook..I wish you the best my friend....you are not useless.

    I really like this idea of ending the self pity by going out and helping other people. I've been thinking about it a lot lately.

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