Scared of the gym
marium17khan
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Hi,
New to this so sorry if it's wrong. I have recovered from anorexia through self help techniques. However as I received no help through NHS, I was not entitled to seeing a dietician. I am still the weight I was 3 years ago when I recovered fully and struggling to gain weight. I have heard going to the gym helps bit I am scared to go. Obviously women wear leggings and revealing clothes which is just a complete no for me. Does anyone have any tips to gain weight for anorexics? Also anyone taken protein shakes to help gain weight?
Thanks!
New to this so sorry if it's wrong. I have recovered from anorexia through self help techniques. However as I received no help through NHS, I was not entitled to seeing a dietician. I am still the weight I was 3 years ago when I recovered fully and struggling to gain weight. I have heard going to the gym helps bit I am scared to go. Obviously women wear leggings and revealing clothes which is just a complete no for me. Does anyone have any tips to gain weight for anorexics? Also anyone taken protein shakes to help gain weight?
Thanks!
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Did you the stickies at the top of this board?0
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It doesn't sound like you are fully recovered. Have you tried some of the free online resources? MFP has links to them at the bottom of the page under community guidelines (web browser).
Outside of that, you need to consume more calories than you burn and a good progressive lifting program will help.
Edit, here you go: https://myfitnesspal.desk.com/customer/portal/articles/1575987-eating-disorder-resources0 -
Hello!
I somehow accidentally clicked on your thread, I'm not here to gain weight I'm here to lose 90lbs so I'm opposite side of the spectrum to you.
I wanted to say though, as the fattest person in there usually, don't be scared of the gym! If you want to go to gain muscle then you can do it.
You absolutely don't have to wear revealing clothes. In fact most people wear baggy t shirts. I do heavy weights on my own in a massive t-shirt and trousers. No one will bat an eyelid at you, they certainly don't look at me and they have reason to. If they did I wouldn't notice either because I go with focus and a plan.
I would say though that to gain muscle you have to eat loads of calories and protien, if you're not comfortable yet with that then go see your GP and ask for that referral to the dietician.
In my area the NHS Dietician is always pleased to see people ask for help - no one wants to see her, people cancel appointments all the time etc. I went voluntarily when I was pregnant as I was borderline too big. It was really good to ask her honest questions and get her feedback.
I wish you success. Don't let fear of demanding the help you need or stepping into a room hold you back from the life you want.0 -
First and foremost, I think you should really see a therapist. I know there is a stigma about stuff like that but it would do worlds of wonders for you. It would help you get to the true center of your eating disorder and you never have to say a word about it to anyone.
Second, you don't have to wear leggings to the gym. I wear yoga pants and an over sized t-shirt. There are always other chicks there who are just as much of a hot mess as I am.
Don't be nervous about going to the gym. There will be someone at the gym that can show you how to use all of the equipment and can answer any questions you have.
I would definitely suggest that you see the therapist first, though. If you still aren't eating enough than you definitely don't need to be burning extra calories at the gym.
Unfortunately, I can't help as far as gaining weight goes. That has always come pretty easy for me.
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Pick a reasonable goal weight, and run it through a calculator to get a daily calorie estimate for a starting point.
Eat whole unprocessed foods, get adequate protein (shakes are great), and consume lots of healthy fats (coconut oil, macadamia nuts & oil, Kerry gold butter. Eggs, Deli Turkey are great, along with Broccoli.
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Do your thing and forget everything else. The hell with watching what people look like our what they're wearing. If it makes you uncomfortable, then so be it. Change is uncomfortable. Embrace it.
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You could go with a friend/sibling! Gym buddies make it a lot less intimidating, and you can help each other with weights, treadmills, etc. (: My friend and I usually end up laughing a lot, so my experience has been pretty fun.
I used protein shakes to gain weight at one point, and they helped with muscle gain after the gym, at least they did for me. I can't speak for everyone else. I used a vegan protein powder, because I wasn't trying to bulk. So, I think that's a good starting point! Maybe when you're comfortable with it, try adding a little more food to your plate each day, like at dinner or breakfast? See if you gain a little more weight from that.
I hope you find something that works well for you! Good luck!!! (:
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I've been afraid to go to the gym as well. It's really intimidating trying to work around large, sweaty guys grunting and really attractive women wandering around. And I'm fully aware that all that is in my head, and that nobody really cares that I'm there, but you know, I still had that anxiety. What helped was joining a gym that was very explicitly inclusive of everyone that wanted to join, which was the YMCA in my end of town. I could've also gone with a community centre gym and it would've helped. At the Y it's me and yes, sweaty dudes and super attractive women, but also old ladies and teenagers and foreign exchange students and people with disabilities and all kinds of other people. So it's much much less intimidating, I've found.0
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marium17khan wrote: »I have heard going to the gym helps bit I am scared to go. Obviously women wear leggings and revealing clothes which is just a complete no for me. Does anyone have any tips to gain weight for anorexics? Also anyone taken protein shakes to help gain weight?
Thanks!
Yes and yes.
Go to the gym, you will find your zen there, you will find the iron resolves your mental issues and hang ups.
As far as clothing, I hate that women are allowed to wear yoga pants and sports bras. It's unreasonable to expect me to focus on working out when I have a girl in skin tight pink yoga pants and a bright purple sports bra doing kegel exercises right in front of my face while I'm trying to squat. It's a conundrum because I'm pissed that I'm losing gains, but excited at the fact that she took into consideration that purple is my favorite color.
No! I like the girl in a hoodie, a baseball cap, headphones, sweat pants, and Nikes. It screams serious, and there is a certain attraction in that.
As far as protein goes, you need it to put weight on. It will help tremendously with getting your calorie and protein count up. I highly recommend Optimum Nutrion Extreme Milk Chocolate, it tastes awesome and it's one of the highest quality.
If you do those two things, protein and iron, you will be happier than you have ever been.0 -
Don't wear revealing clothes then, that the majority don't really wear0
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First, I would highly recommend that you seek additional help. You might be at a weight you believe to be healthy but it appears that you still have some mental things to work through regarding your weight and comfort level with it. You need to be asking a doctor about your health needs. Look into support groups in your area. I'm sure there are some that are free. It could be beneficial to talk with others going through what you are going through. Second, realize you can wear whatever you want to the gym. Most women do not wear revealing clothes although most wear work out leggings simply because they are more comfortable. Choose what you're comfortable with and what you're able to get a good workout in. Lastly, you don't have to go to the gym. If the gym intimidates you, start with working out at home. Fitness Blender is a good internet resource. Just be very careful and be sure you are eating enough to fuel your workouts.0
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As far as clothing, I hate that women are allowed to wear yoga pants and sports bras. It's unreasonable to expect me to focus on working out when I have a girl in skin tight pink yoga pants and a bright purple sports bra doing kegel exercises right in front of my face while I'm trying to squat. It's a conundrum because I'm pissed that I'm losing gains, but excited at the fact that she took into consideration that purple is my favorite color.
No! I like the girl in a hoodie, a baseball cap, headphones, sweat pants, and Nikes. It screams serious, and there is a certain attraction in that.
are you for *kitten* real?!?!?!
Get *kitten*. my tight pants and my sports bra are none of your god damn buisness and if you can't figure out how to function in a world full of women wearing fitting clothes YOU need to get to a therapist. Because we aren't going away- and we aren't going to change what we do just so YOU don't get distracted- how about you get some focus.
and none- sweat pants and a hoodie don't scream serious. They scream baggy- and in the way- but that's someone's prerogative- it doesn't bother me at all- but it is FAR from my personal choice of clothing.
Seriously- go away with your sexist bullsh**.
PS- is this serious enough for you?
OP- put your head phones on- go with a training plan- and do your work.
See a therapist- and go do the work at the gym- no one is going to hurt you there- you can do what you need to do and ignore the rest.
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Psssst... I'll tell you a secret.
I hate the gym. I don't go to the gym except to swim (our gym is the most affordable pool around). I have resistance bands, handweights, a couple kettle-bells, a barbell and a cheap bench (all accumulated over a couple years at a used sporting-goods store) and do all my lifting/weight stuff at home. No one sees me work-out except my husband and my cats. My husband's a great spotter. The cats are not.0 -
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I know I know...Wheelhouse15 wrote: »
I can't help myself. And I assume that there are ACTUALLY people who believe *kitten* like that- so yeah- sorry not sorry.
<but thank you>
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LOL- it's a moment of pride and joy for me- took me almost 2 years to crush that 10 pound mental block. 325 hear we come!!!!
(also- not going to lie- any excuse to post up my 3 plates is a good excuse) 0 -
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also- I'm confused as to how someone sees someone doing kegels- I mean- that's an internal muscle contraction- did you put your face in her whoha? was she okay with that- that sounds really personal and all.0
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but that isn't a kegal- I was thinking maybe he was thinking hip thrusters or bridge lifts- which is still technically incorrect- Kegals engage the pelvic floor.
Abducters/aductors work the inner and outer thigh from hip to knee- and bridge lifts and hip thrusters work the glutes and hammstrings.
again- neither of which qualify as kegels.
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OP ...you wear what you want to the gym, this is your personal confidence zone. Get a trainer or a friend to go with you, plug in headphones and be yourself. Gyms are about effort and personal progress not how you look.
Wow just wow at the douche response - not so easy to check form in baggy, hoody clothes and hot and sweaty happens. Also kegels? Fur real? I bet you're the kind of guy who tries to catch eyeline during weighted hip thrusts
Jo ...now that is something worth staring at in the gym....you fricken Rock!0 -
but that isn't a kegal- I was thinking maybe he was thinking hip thrusters or bridge lifts- which is still technically incorrect- Kegals engage the pelvic floor.
Abducters/aductors work the inner and outer thigh from hip to knee- and bridge lifts and hip thrusters work the glutes and hammstrings.
again- neither of which qualify as kegels.
Yeah, I know. But maybe if she was sitting juuuust right on the machine and wearing......ohh, never mind. I'd end up with bars over my avatar pic for sure. 0 -
also- I'm confused as to how someone sees someone doing kegels- I mean- that's an internal muscle contraction- did you put your face in her whoha? was she okay with that- that sounds really personal and all.
Jo, why do all your posts make me giggle?
OP, wear whatever makes you comfy. Whether it's yoga pants and a sports bra, or baggy sweats, don't worry about it.
It might relieve your anxiety if you were more confident on the equipment. Some gyms offer a tour of the facility where someone will show you the basics of how to operate the equipment. If your gym offers it, take them up on it. It's helpful to not feel so overwhelmed.
Congrats on your continued recovery! Keep going, you got this!0 -
The only way to gain weight is to consume more calories than you burn. If you like protein shakes, then they're great! As far as the gym, wear what you find comfortable. Yes, some women find leggings and more revealing clothing more comfortable, and it can be in terms of allowing range of movement, but you should wear whatever you feel comfortable in.0
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marium17khan wrote: »Hi,
New to this so sorry if it's wrong. I have recovered from anorexia through self help techniques. However as I received no help through NHS, I was not entitled to seeing a dietician. I am still the weight I was 3 years ago when I recovered fully and struggling to gain weight. I have heard going to the gym helps bit I am scared to go. Obviously women wear leggings and revealing clothes which is just a complete no for me. Does anyone have any tips to gain weight for anorexics? Also anyone taken protein shakes to help gain weight?
Thanks!
Talk to a therapist. They gym alone will not help. The gym with diet changes could help, but the gym on its own without appropriate nutrition might do more harm than good. What is your current weight and height?0 -
I know I know...Wheelhouse15 wrote: »
I can't help myself. And I assume that there are ACTUALLY people who believe *kitten* like that- so yeah- sorry not sorry.
<but thank you>
I know what you mean but I was just wondering who would take the bait. I think I'll look for your video again, I loved your celebration when you nailed it!0 -
Don't view those ladies as intimidating, if they look fit then view them as an inspiration. You should stop worrying and go to the gym to work on your goals otherwise you're just prolonging it! Make sure you are eating hearty meals.0
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you are your own worst enemy... keep that in mind. Get out of your head and start making changes for the better. You'll appreciate that kinda mentality later on, I promise!
PS: BEAST JO!!!0
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