Frustrated!

oLeaho

Getting married in four months and for some reason can not find the motivation to eat right and work out. I'm making up excuse after excuse. How do you guys stay motivated? I open to suggestions....I'd like to feel beautiful on my wedding day, but at this rate who knows! AHH!

skygoddess86

I would think getting married would be your motivation.

miqisha

I agree...I would think the wedding day would be your motivation

If you cant get up and eat right and workout to look extra pretty on your wedding day, I honestly dont know what else to tell you

I hope you are able to kick it into gear soon enough

Goodluck

xarrium

I've seen women take a really bad picture of themselves (the picture in which you look the ugliest and fattest you've ever been) and frame it and set it somewhere noticeable (kitchen counter, bathroom, bedroom), so you see every day what you're trying to avoid looking like on the big day. Not sure how successful this technique is, but maybe it's worth a try?

melissaogdenrhode

It's really something different for everyone! For me, when I was getting married, my motivation was to be glowing in my wedding gown and have my body look toned and not jiggly. Everytime I wanted to eat poorly or skip my running or biking I would think about how I wanted to look and feel on that day. My desire to look good and feel good (not to mention the potential look on my hubby's face as I was walking down the aisle...which I must say is permanently embedded in my brain) out weighed my food desires or my wanting to not exercise.

You can do it. Believe in yourself and be stubborn!

20carrots

It's a very stressful time and we put a lot of pressure on ourselves. I tried and tried to lose some weight before the wedding but AFTER the wedding I was able to lose 10 pounds! I would say you have two routes:

1. Don't stress it and focus on the Big Day
2. Try one of those bridal boot camps (DVDs or if there is one in your town)

I am one of those people who holds on to weight when stressed (not like some people who lose weight/can't eat when stressed) so it was pretty impossible to drop much weight pre-wedding.

Hang in there! It'll be a beautiful day either way!

debnu1

I have found that if I look too far in the future it seems impossible. So just focus on today! What is your goal for today to help you reach your ultimate one. What is your goal for the week. Then treat yourself--massage good book or whatever for acheiving this week's goal and start again next week! You can do this...just one step at a time!

Jay_83

Stuff that gets me motivated:
1. I have sales tags from a smaller pair of jeans and shirt on my dresser mirror. It gets me motivated to see that I can fit into those sizes!:bigsmile: OR maybe the size that you would like to fit into?
2. My husband is really supportive and tells me to work out.
3. I watched Biggest Loser for awhile, getting tips off of that show got me going. OR work out at the same time as watching BL, I feel like Jillian is yelling at me. :laugh:
4. Look through the success stories that are on the forum, those REALLY get me motivated to see before and after pics.
5. I have a picture of me from my husband's birthday two years ago, before I started my weightloss journey, on the fridge. It makes me not want to go back.
6. Write NO EXCUSES somewhere that you will see it very often
7. Visit MFP as much as possible to learn more about a healthy lifestyle, or join a team on MFP. I am sure there is a bride to be team on here somewhere. Then you are accountable to someone.

Hope these help!! Good luck!
Jaylene

boomboom011

For years I have struggled with the lack of motivation and excuses. It wasnt until recently when my cousin reached her 50lb weight loss goal (the right way) that I realized if she can do it so can i. So i went to her for advice and guidance along with a friend from high school who has lost 80 lbs and the thing both of them told me was this "either you want it or you dont". Its that simple. I think youre afraid of failing. We all fail its what you do with that failure that counts. Im not gonna lie, changing years of bad habits is a *kitten* but it gets easier and then you have replaced crappy habits with healthy ones. No one can make you do it. But when you start seeing results you will think all that hard work was well worth it. IDK what your weight loss goals are but I have found people on MFP that have lost 100+ pounds and friended them. I want to surround myself with people that have been there and DID IT! They are inspiring to me.

You have to make up your mind one way or another. If you want to look good in your dress then what are you waiting for? If not, then dont waste your time.

I think you are in the right place for all the support and guidance there is. One thing that helped me quick start my weight loss journey was I joined weight watchers. Thats not for everybody. Once I got that down, I started implementing physical activity. I have found that my body craves working out. Its really odd. Not to mention when you start eating better, processed food or fast food doesnt sound good to you. If I had the choice right now for a donut or a sausage roll or an egg white omelet with fresh veggies I would choose the omelet HANDS DOWN! Check out the message boards for motivating stories. Surround yourself with positive people and make the choice for YOU! You can do it, but you gotta want to.

I hope this didnt come off rude, I just know what it took for me to wake up. Plus, I was tired of being a fatty! LOL Good luck to you.

erica79

I'm getting married in October and when I picked out my dress in January I had my mother take a picture of me in it. That picture was more than enough to get me motivated. I have know I was getting married for 3 years but before that point I had no motivation. The dress came in a coupld weeks ago....was way to big!

Hopefully you can find something to motivate you too!

thumper44

I know myself and a lot of others would agree it can seem overwhelming at first to start.
OMG I go so much weight to lose, I can't do t his.

As others said. My wedding was motiviation for myself. You don't want to look back and say that you looked fat and you knew you should have lost weight.

You still have lots of time. You can do alot in 4 months. Don't give yourself impossible goals though, make them realistic.

Log your food, eat enough calories to fuel your body but burn the fat.

Start off walking for 15-30. Whatever you can do.
Then increase it when your comfortable.

More importantly, log back on here, and keep us MFP'ers updated :flowerforyou: