Trying to lose the last ten pounds...again

cjtr1972

hi there,

I am a busy, stay-at-home/work-at-home, forty-something, mom, who is trying to lose ten pounds that I've gained in the past year. I have yo-yo dieted my entire life but lost about 45 lbs after my last child (he was a breast feeding machine!) was born. he is almost two. I also took care of my mother, who died of cancer in October 2014, whilst looking after my kids, so the stress of that helped contribute to my weight loss as well. (who knew stress could do that?!)

I work out lifting heavy weights 2-3 times per week, eat healthy during the week, but late nights and weekends kill me. everything I do to stay healthy goes down the sh*tter once I start snacking at night. in fact, I often can't stop: bingeing and then feeling soooo guilty the next day or usually during and right after!! wtf? on weekends I never feel like cooking and my husband and I like to eat out, so gawd knows how many calories I am consuming. regardless, this destructive path has lead me to gain back 15 lbs of the 45 I lost. I would be thrilled if I could just lose ten of those because anything more is way too hard for me to maintain.

I bought myself a lot of great new clothes but am finding them to be too tight these days. my "fat" clothes are in my attic and I promised myself this time I wouldn't let myself get back into them. (I want to throw them away, once and for all.) I am so close to it happening that the guilt often leads me to console myself by overeating. that in turn makes me "hate myself" and then I don't care what I eat.

I am looking for a person or couple of people who I can be accountable to. someone who can help me stop the cycle before it starts (I might need to message you just to feel like someone out there supports me and can talk me "down off that ledge"). my husband is supportive and loves me no matter what size I am, but it's different. he's always hungry and always snacking so it's hard for me to say no when it's right there. he doesn't have weight issues. so, I would love to have a 'friend' to help me through these times and I will motivate/support you in return. I don't want to go back to wearing my fat clothes.

fiddletime

Have you started to count calories and log them? When you eat out take the plate, ask for a box when you first get your food, and take half home. You'll eat the other half much more slowly if you do that. Once you start counting save some calories at the end of the day for a snack. Try not to go over the calories MFP has set. Set it to lose a half a pound a week so you can ease into this gradually. It isn't a diet, it's a way to build new habits around portion control, that will last the rest of your life. New habits take months to "stick". Be patient with yourself when you have slips.

cjtr1972

thanks. great points! appreciate your time.