Are men who say they dislike "high maintenance women"...

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  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
    A guy I was datings mother called me high maintenance once and it bothered me. Sorry I enjoy wearing makeup, getting my hair and nails done and smelling /looking nice... Your son funds none of that so idk what the big deal is. I'm sure some would find it annoying that it takes time to maintain all that but whatevs. I've never thought of a man as insecure for not liking it though.
  • Rabid_Hamster
    Rabid_Hamster Posts: 338 Member
    djeffreys10 wrote: »
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    High maintenance means she EXPECTS those things. If you enjoy doing things for her and she appreciates it, that's one thing. If she expects you to constantly spoil her with material things and can't be happy and just appreciate her time with you without that other stuff, she is high maintenance and not worth it.

    Agree completely. It's a measure of expectation and appreciation. If the appreciation is in proportional measure...
  • Escloflowne
    Escloflowne Posts: 2,038 Member
    My girlfriend is really high maintenance, just the other night she was too lazy to get off the couch so I had to make her pop corn....
  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
    A guy I was datings mother called me high maintenance once and it bothered me. Sorry I enjoy wearing makeup, getting my hair and nails done and smelling /looking nice... Your son funds none of that so idk what the big deal is. I'm sure some would find it annoying that it takes time to maintain all that but whatevs. I've never thought of a man as insecure for not liking it though.

    Yeah that's what I see as high maintenance, and it is what it is.

    I like to feel and look nice
  • jenmar222
    jenmar222 Posts: 9,271 Member
    Escloflowne wrote: »
    My girlfriend is really high maintenance, just the other night she was too lazy to get off the couch so I had to make her pop corn....

    Up your game to pizza, and I'll ask for your hand in marriage
  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
    Escloflowne wrote: »
    My girlfriend is really high maintenance, just the other night she was too lazy to get off the couch so I had to make her pop corn....
    Eh I'd call that being a little lazy or being a princess but not high maintenance lol
  • pie_eyes
    pie_eyes Posts: 12,964 Member
    jenmar22 wrote: »
    Escloflowne wrote: »
    My girlfriend is really high maintenance, just the other night she was too lazy to get off the couch so I had to make her pop corn....

    Up your game to pizza, and I'll ask for your hand in marriage

    Lol
  • sw33tp3a15
    sw33tp3a15 Posts: 1,674 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    Not sure what some would consider "high maintenance". I don't consider treating my wife with respect high maintenance. I love spending money on her. Taking luxurious vacations with her. I bought her a new jeep for Christmas. She didn't ask for or expect any of these things, but it makes my day when I see her reaction. I feel like I do all these things for me, because I am happiest when she is happy.

    Your wife is one lucky lady. Not for the materialistic things you buy her but because you truly are in love with her and you are not ashamed to let people know how much she means to you. That's the best thing you have given her <3

  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    ponycyndi wrote: »
    Wives aren't high maintenance, kids are.

    You obviously never met my ex wife.

  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
    A guy I was datings mother called me high maintenance once and it bothered me. Sorry I enjoy wearing makeup, getting my hair and nails done and smelling /looking nice... Your son funds none of that so idk what the big deal is. I'm sure some would find it annoying that it takes time to maintain all that but whatevs. I've never thought of a man as insecure for not liking it though.

    That's not high maintenance, that's highly appreciated.

  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
    TheRoadDog wrote: »
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
    A guy I was datings mother called me high maintenance once and it bothered me. Sorry I enjoy wearing makeup, getting my hair and nails done and smelling /looking nice... Your son funds none of that so idk what the big deal is. I'm sure some would find it annoying that it takes time to maintain all that but whatevs. I've never thought of a man as insecure for not liking it though.

    That's not high maintenance, that's highly appreciated.

    :) Good!!! I like to look / feel good but even better if someone appreciates the effort.

  • djeffreys10
    djeffreys10 Posts: 2,312 Member
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
    A guy I was datings mother called me high maintenance once and it bothered me. Sorry I enjoy wearing makeup, getting my hair and nails done and smelling /looking nice... Your son funds none of that so idk what the big deal is. I'm sure some would find it annoying that it takes time to maintain all that but whatevs. I've never thought of a man as insecure for not liking it though.

    I guess a lot of people would call me high maintenance because I spend 1-2 hours in the gym 4-6 days a week. I only see things as high maintenance when you expect someone else to provide those things for you. If you provide them for yourself, I see that as enjoying the fruits of your labor. If anyone makes a comment about what I do, I just tell them that maybe I do spend too much time in the gym and too much money on supplements...but you should see me naked :wink:
  • JessicaJS23
    JessicaJS23 Posts: 1,863 Member
    djeffreys10 wrote: »
    JessicaJS23 wrote: »
    A guy I was datings mother called me high maintenance once and it bothered me. Sorry I enjoy wearing makeup, getting my hair and nails done and smelling /looking nice... Your son funds none of that so idk what the big deal is. I'm sure some would find it annoying that it takes time to maintain all that but whatevs. I've never thought of a man as insecure for not liking it though.

    I guess a lot of people would call me high maintenance because I spend 1-2 hours in the gym 4-6 days a week. I only see things as high maintenance when you expect someone else to provide those things for you. If you provide them for yourself, I see that as enjoying the fruits of your labor. If anyone makes a comment about what I do, I just tell them that maybe I do spend too much time in the gym and too much money on supplements...but you should see me naked :wink:

    Hahaha I love that response!
  • motterotter
    motterotter Posts: 701 Member
    A high maintenance person is someone who always possessive of your time or money or always demands your attention to the exclusion of every other thing in your life
    Makeup gym perfume clothes are always secondary although highmay women frequently demand more of those than other women
  • Lone_wolf46
    Lone_wolf46 Posts: 2,709 Member
    _John_ wrote: »
    Really just insecure about their own game?

    No... just don't want to play theirs.

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