I want to be a mom!

DaniDoll57

I am married and ready to have a baby. However I am 233 lbs and not physically healthy to care for one and go through a pregnancy. My husband says if I can get to the 180s, which has actually been a healthy weight for me, we can start trying.

However I am also an Army Vet and suffer from PTSD and depression. Food is my comfort when I have bad dreams or episodes so outside of the therapy I go to, I need to keep motivation and willpower to not slip when things get tough.

Please help motivate me whether it be your own success stories or maybe some tips you have to help out!

jaga13

Wow, thank you for your service, bravery, and honesty. Feel free to friend me!

azulvioleta6

What does your doctor say about this?

It seems odd that you husband has set a weight and is controlling the situation. That is a medical decision.

Has your therapist given you other strategies for dealing with stress? Does exercise help? What about other soothing activities--take a bath, paint your nails, get a massage?

DaniDoll57

Actually my doctor said it awhile ago that I should start eating better and exercising just in general. My husband has placed the stipulation back up because I haven't really listened to the doctor but he knows I want to have a family.

I love getting massages but to me it seems a bit frivolous to spend the money on one. I'm okay with baths but we have a small tub and I'm not really a pamper myself type so getting nails done is meh to me.

Exercise has been suggested of course but I can never stay enthusiastic over it. That's always been my main issue. I can eat well for awhile and portion control but if I'm not active it won't do much.

Ninkyou

I actually had a similar situation. We had a 5 year old daughter and my weight was interfering with continuing our family. I actually wasn't even getting my periods at regular intervals because of my weight. But anyway, when I started June 2013 my husband said (as motivation) that if I could get to 155 lbs (which is still 20 lbs overweight for my height, btw) then we could try for baby #2. I started at 211.6 lbs. So I had a LONG way to go. I worked hard for it, logged everyday, exercised while my daughter was in preschool, etc. As I lost weight my periods started coming more regularly. Because I weighed daily I knew when I ovulated based on water retention and the scale going up for a few days. That's not something I could have ever tracked before. I reached 155 lbs Easter weekend 2014. We began trying that month. And bam, first try I was pregnant with baby girl #2. I gained 24.6 lbs with her and delivered January 2015. I've since gone on to lose the pregnancy weight as well as an additional 20 lbs. So 77 lbs total non-pregnancy plus the 24.6 lbs pregnancy.


My advice is to log consistently, everyday. Follow your calorie goal. Invest in a food scale and weigh your portions. Eat all of your normal foods. Don't cut anything out unless otherwise directed by your doctor or if there's really an issue with something you're eating. You want to go for sustainability not deprivation. Do activities you truly truly enjoy. Exercise shouldn't feel like a chore. It should be fun and engaging. Before you know it, you'll be exactly where you want to be and be better for it.

DaniDoll57

I'm not gonna lie, hearing that story has probably been the best motivation for me! Because I've had a few similar things happen with my body myself that I know now are weight related.

I desperately wanna try for a baby by the end of summer. Tomorrow or Monday I'm picking up this Wii game thing called EA Sports Active 2. Sounds silly but I actually lost thirty lbs the first time I stuck with it; I just fell off the wagon. I'm hoping I can hop back on and get where I wanna be!