Husband who is obsessed

Mersie1

I have no idea how to handle the fact that my husband truly cannot keep his workouts, food in perspective. I am in the fragile early stages of recovery from lifelong eating disorders. I am in such a better place now. I am able to eat, obsess about food much less and am to workout moderately as opposed to how I used to. My husband, however, loses his mind if he has to alter or God forbid, skip a workout. He monitors what he eats to within and inch of its life. I've tried to talking to him about this, but he just blows up. He seems miserable. I want to be supportive but can't seem to find a way. When I engaged in that same behavior is was considered an eating disorder, he feels he's just choosing a healthy lifestyle. He is at a moderate weight, but loses it should he gain an ounce.

I worry for him, our marriage and my own recovery. Any suggestions are greatly appreciated.

socioseguro

If you are already recovering from ED, you know an specialist. ask him (her) for help with your husband.
It will not be easy since your husband believes he does not need any help
Good luck and big hug

yourhiddengem

Wow that sounds really rough! Maybe you guys could go to therapy and it could be one of the things you discuss? Sometimes having a third neutral party could be helpful. (sorry if this advice isn't super helpful as I'm not married or anything like that.) I would suggest that you try and get some professional help from either a therapist or a doctor or someone. They might be able to point you in the right direction.

Iguessicandothis

There are programs for families of those recovering from ED's. Perhaps you could tell him that it would help you if he attended some sessions. Definitely talk to your therapist about this too.

pootle1972

Sounds like he's battling his own disorder.....see if he's open to some counselling.

jgnatca

I would say this is a case of a marriage where "like" married "like". You recognize the signs, and he doesn't see it yet. The general rule of thumb if a spouse is in crisis and is refusing help, go get some support for yourself. You'll at least get tips on how to deal with unreasonable behavior, and save your sanity.