I dont usually ask for help

Whitezombiegirl

Hi guys.

I dont usually ask for help but this weekend i have totally emotionally ate, which is unusual for me. The trigger was a colleague ranting at me for being obsessed with my weight because i admitted that i weigh once a week to keep an eye on things , though she couldn't recall me actually ever talking about my weight or weight loss etc.ever. Just ralking about what im having for dinner etc.. Im in maintenence and want make sure my clothes remain fitting. It seemed that she was pretty disgusted with my size - uk 6 and said i needed to gain weight as that was far too tiny. Its not , as im under 5ft tall ( she is 5ft9 by the way). She even called over other colleagues to back her up- which they didnt. It just made me feel bullied and and i left work early. Its not going to make me feel better to gain weight by pigging out so i just need a hug and then to tell the b**tch to go to hell.

I will mention how she made me feel when i see her next. She needs to be told. I just couldn't deal with it at the time.

beautifulsparkles

I think if someone starts ranting at you, the best thing to do is come up with an excuse to walk away like ''sorry, I'm meeting a friend'' or ''gotta pee'' or ''I have to take a phone call.'' Hopefully they'll take the hint.

EvgeniZyntx

Why is your size even a subject of conversation at work?

zoeysasha37

I wouldn't tell her to " go to hell" she could report you to human resources and you could get in trouble for using that language.
Instead just don't engage with her. If she comes up speaking about your weight or foods , just say " I'm fine so please mind your own business . my weight has nothing to do with work and that's what we are here to do !" Or something of that nature. I wouldn't use any vulgar language or insults. She will get the hint and know to back off.
Just make it clear that your weight or foods are not up for discussion and you feel its not an appropriate work topic.

There will always be people who have something to say or have a problem with something. Learn to not take it to heart.

danika2point0

This sounds like an inappropriate work place conversation! Depending upon the situation (it could be widely variable), is this something you might consider reporting? If not, I would steer clear of this woman. How did this conversation even arise? Is it typical for your colleagues to talk like this? I have not had anyone at work say anything inappropriate about my weight loss (one woman at work seems to be making some passive aggressive compliments but I just say 'thanks for noticing' with a smile and scuttle away!). I would also support the previous poster and have prepared tips/tricks for avoiding, re-directing conversation, or getting out of the situation. In your profile picture you look lovely and fit, so try and not let people's own insecurities and projections impact on your success.

jgnatca

I'm just going to give you a hug and tell you, girlfriend, you are beautiful.

Ashtoretet

I'm sorry you had to deal with this. I wouldn't advise talking to her unless it's absolutely necessary and only for strictly work matters. This person is toxic and needs to be kept at a distance.

pootle1972

I woukd report her to human resources ....bullying behaviour like that is unacceptable in the workplace.