Friends "helpfulness"

runningalice

i'll start by saying that I love my friends and are very supportive! But since I started my diet I have had a few different responses and don't know what to say/how to stop them feeling awkward around me and my new diet

1. The "I don't want to eat around you friend"
this is making it very hard to socialise, as they claim it makes them feel bad if they eat cake or takeaway in front of me... but the thing is they are all healthy weights! And i don't mind eating before going to the pub or having a starter portion. It is them it seems to bother and I don't know what to do

2. The "why are you always logging" friend
It is quite annoying when they sit there mocking my way of trying to loose the pounds. I started at 217 pounds and am now 199! at 5ft 10 I am very happy with my months progress. They say loosing weight is easy (which is fine if you have never been heavy!) and say just eat salads and that the logging process is very anti-social.

Any help is much appreciated, Id rather not tell them cliches but it is very difficult to approach this topic.

azulvioleta6

Get better friends!

Finding social activities that do not revolve around food might be helpful too.

robingmurphy

Can you chat with them and tell them how their comments make you feel and ask them not to?

Need2Exerc1se

1. I can't understand this behavior at all. Assuming you've never made comments like "Oh I wish I could eat that" then why would anyone not want to eat around you? But I suppose I'd just make it clear that I don't mind them eating whatever they want and then drop it. After that, it's their choice. I doubt it will hurt them to eat less cake or takeaway.
2. For this I'd simply answer "Because I want to.' and again drop it. If they keep pushing you to stop something you want to do then they really aren't very supportive.

Duchy82

1. Is not your problem, it's theirs, if you've told them you're not bothered then though for them.

2. Try and pre-log so your friends that complain don't realise you are logging (you could also do it whilst they have nipped to the ladies room or once you're home).

Opinions are like noses everyone has got one tell them it works for you anti social or not (honestly I don't see how btw) and keep their noses out, its none of their business how you try to achieve weight loss.

I would question their friendship though, my friends have never been anything but supportive and never complained that I was inconveniencing them or making them uncomfortable and I think if they had I would have told them as above.

Azercord

1) I find odd as well but I would agree with @Need2Exerc1se on that one
2) Have you tried pre-logging? I generally have all my meals planed out or close to it by the time I start packing my lunch in the morning and just spend the extra few minutes logging through dinner for the day. Gets it out of the way and lets me know if I have a few extra calories laying around that can turn into something sweet.

cwolfman13

1 - I've never experienced that
2 - None of my friends knew I logged or kept a diary...I pre-logged most of the time the evening before at home...If I happened to go out somewhere that I hadn't pre-logged, I just logged it later or sometimes I just allowed myself a "free" meal and didn't worry about it.

runningalice

Thanks everyone! Will definitely try to start pre-logging
Realised that I am quite an awkward person so alot of these problems are probably in my mind but its just the odd comment that catchs me off guard then i think about it for a week!

callsitlikeiseeit

my friends know i count calories but dont know the specifics.... my boyfriend does, but hes also on mfp so he gets it LOL

seeing as i eat out all the time and eat 'normal' foods and drink like a sailor, no one has ever felt uncomfortable around me. as far as they can see, im the same i always have been. just 'amazingly' getting smaller.

generally people only make a big deal of it if you do....

Alatariel75

My friends are basically unaware that I'm counting calories. I don't make a big deal about it, and when they have something that I don't they simply know that it's because I don't want that thing at that time. I also do leave some calories for something tasty while I'm with them.

The logging is the same, really. If I do log when I'm with them, as far as they know I'm just playing on my phone.

I think it really is only as big a deal as you make it, or let it be.

toe1226

I don't log in front of my friends, I don't think its kind to sit on my phone why we socialize. I take a picture of hte food and then go back and log it later if we are eating out together. That way, they cna't bug me about my habits, and I'm not being impolite with their time.

booksandchocolate12

As to your first point, that's their problem not yours. Unless you're moaning about how you wish you could eat this or that, but you can't, etc. But it doesn't sound like you're doing that.

As to the logging: I never log around anybody. People get weird about it. Maybe they think it's "obsessive". Or maybe they wonder how much they're/actually eating and don't really want to know, kwim? I never thought of it as "anti-social". Do you quickly log in your food, or do you stay on the phone for long periods, agonizing over finding just the right entry? If someone is constantly typing stuff on their phone (be it logging or texting or whatever), I can see how it would seem rude and/or anti-social.

Anyway, either pre-log, or if you can't, log as soon as you get home, as best you can.