100th time back on the wagon, 100 pounds to lose

Davy_RockHit214

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galgenstrick

What has been your approach in the past? What is your approach this time?

Davy_RockHit214

You raise very good questions! What hasn't worked, follow through- making a lot of excuses.

I know what I am supposed to do and then bam, life gets in the way.

TeaBea

Don't look at is as "on" or "off." It's not black or white. Let this time be different by cutting yourself some slack. I've been there (many times).

Don't despair when you screw up. We all screw up, we're not perfect. Just pick yourself up and carry on. 2 steps forward and one back is still progress.

Good luck!

galgenstrick

Davy_RockHit214 wrote: »

You raise very good questions! What hasn't worked, follow through- making a lot of excuses.

I know what I am supposed to do and then bam, life gets in the way.

Life gets in the way of everyone. What is it exactly that you know you're supposed to do? I'm only asking because there might be some tweaks to make things easier...

Davy_RockHit214

All the "fresh starts" haven't seemed to help in the past. Looking for a new outlook. Needing the lifestyle change!

TeaBea

Davy_RockHit214 wrote: »

You raise very good questions! What hasn't worked, follow through- making a lot of excuses.

I know what I am supposed to do and then bam, life gets in the way.

Make some smaller - do-able goals. My initial exercise goal was 60 minutes a week. Surely, I could manage that much. After a few weeks of hitting my goal, exercise started to become a regular thing. Adding more minutes was not a major imposition.

Davy_RockHit214

Moderation: sticking with the calorie goal, realistic expectations for 'diet'. Exercise and fitness: finding a routine that works in my very busy work and family schedule. Mental Wellness: reducing the unhealthy choices as a "want to" instead of "have to" or rather "supposed to". Black and White Thinking, All or Nothing traps.

Davy_RockHit214

I usually do great for about 2 or 3 weeks, lose 10 pounds or so and then I fall back into my old habits, before you know it I have gained back double and thus the cycle continues.

Mmarst

I have 214 to lose, well, 213.8, but when you have that much to lose, what is an extra .2 pounds. Would love to take the journey with you! We will make it happen this time!

galgenstrick

Perhaps it's a motivation issue. 100lbs is a big task and can be daunting. The only thing that really helped me was building habits. For me, waking up early and lifting weights is not all about losing weight or getting stronger, it's just something I do and I don't question it.

I also agree with the micro goals. hit small goals and reward yourself. Keep doing that until your habits are formed.

Ims0

TeaBea wrote: »

Don't despair when you screw up. We all screw up, we're not perfect. Just pick yourself up and carry on. 2 steps forward and one back is still progress.

Totally agree with this.

Are there maybe more structural changes that can make it easier for you - joining a different gym, joining a weekly class, buying tools to help you control your diet without making you hate it, such as a kitchen scale and appropriately sized and easy to use food containers? I know this all sounds pretty basic but for me this really helped me get into it and feel good about doing it.

I think a common problem among people looking to change their lifestyle is a tendency to beat themselves up over not achieving magnificent changes immediately and having occasional setbacks. Key is to not let ourselves be sabotaged by that little voice in our heads that says it's a lost cause - it's really not. You can do this (:

mistysangel2014

I decided in life I was taught to make things a certain way. So I decided I just need to change my recipe book and find healthier ways to make the food I already like. Hope this helps.

broomy78

Davy_RockHit214 wrote: »

I usually do great for about 2 or 3 weeks, lose 10 pounds or so and then I fall back into my old habits, before you know it I have gained back double and thus the cycle continues.

This is the story of my life! I'm trying a different approach this time: four weeks of working toward a weight loss goal (both diet and exercise), and then one week of setting my MFP goal to "maintain weight." That way I know the "good" stuff is not gone forever, but I need to focus for a few weeks. Then I can kind of take a break, enjoy the extra calories, but not gain any of the weight back.

Another thing that helped me was dropping my gym membership and buying some Zumba discs. I'm WAY more likely to exercise when it doesn't involve driving somewhere and back (which, for me, added 40 minutes to the task). Try to find something you can do at home, even if it's just circuits you find online. It's easier to commit and find/make the time.

Hope some of that helps. Good luck! You can do this!

Feistychick68

Totally relate to all of you. Been on MFP for awhile on and off. WAtched many succeed while I'm the bridesmaid. I can't seem to get my *kitten* together. I let my emotions and bad relationship rule me. I started again with logging regularly. Then I decided this week to change one thing in my life to be healthy. This week it's drinking all that damn water. I'm thinking if I commit to little changes maybe I will stick with it. My issue is I binge eat. When I do I put weight on and then when I go back to 1200 calories takes me forever to drop one freaking pound.

Davy_RockHit214

I do roller derby! I'm pretty freaking incredible at it too. What I suck at, food. Food is so good. My appetite is so big. I love all kinds of food, I love sharing food with friends and family, I love eating when I'm home alone, when I'm up late at night pulling an all nighter to finish paperwork. Food. Every family celebration seems to revolve around food, when hanging out with my friends its martinis and guess what, food.

marykatwise

I need to lose 100 pounds too, and 15 pounds in I have learned this: when you have an 'off' day, and we all know they happen, don't let it consume you! Instead of saying 'well I already messed up what's the point now' just put it in your past and move forward. From here on out there are no more 'on/off periods' just bad days. Learn from your mistakes so that bad days come around less often. What really helps me is is taking healthy snacks with me that I eat throughout the day. I find myself much less likely to get cookies from the vending machine or stop by the drive through when I have a belly full of healthy food

KatrinaGrey

been there. What is helping me now is waking up each day and thinking, what one thing can I do toward my goal? It's surprising how that sets the tone for the whole day. I find myself making better overall decisions with food and exercise just because I focused on one thing, one day, each day. Having long-term goals is great, but sometimes we focus on them too much and after a few weeks it seems like we will never reach them. Pulling back and focusing on the here and now helps me center myself better so I dont feel as overwhelmed.

Davy_RockHit214

The only way to approach this now is with a totally different mindset. How many years though this inner war has been going on!

Ims0

Davy_RockHit214 wrote: »

I do roller derby! I'm pretty freaking incredible at it too. What I suck at, food. Food is so good. My appetite is so big. I love all kinds of food, I love sharing food with friends and family, I love eating when I'm home alone, when I'm up late at night pulling an all nighter to finish paperwork. Food. Every family celebration seems to revolve around food, when hanging out with my friends its martinis and guess what, food.

Food is SO good. But there are ways to still be able to eat things you like, and what is also important is to try and gradually decrease your appetite so your body doesn't tell you it needs so much food. I love food so much that I honestly cannot find it in me to eat food I hate just to lose weight, so instead I try to look for and experiment with recipes that are good but in moderation, or making healthier versions of stuff I love. And I also allow myself some leeway sometimes. I won't call it a cheatday and I'll still log it, but sometimes I'll just be like *kitten* it, today I'm having pizza for dinner.

Davy_RockHit214

I think you make a good point about appetite. Good things to keep in mind. 18 day streak... 7 lbs lost, on a very long way to go.

brenn24179

main thing you are back with it. I am trying to eat healthy and give up junk food which I love but I love being smaller more. The success stories are very helpful, you see others do it, you can also.

Davy_RockHit214

It's a process, not an event. Someone remind me this weekend lol

Davy_RockHit214

10 pounds lost since this thread started. It's a process, not an event!

UG77

I take it one meal at a time, one day at a time. I've got 100+ to lose and the overall scope of the project is too daunting to take in all at once. So, I don't.

I also try to think about food purely in terms of being fuel, not a reward or special treat. My treat is my returning health, my reward is feeling better and being able to do more. Nothing tastes better than being able to enjoy myself.

Davy_RockHit214

That's so true. It's so much of a mindset thing.

MeganDominique

I think for working out maybe you should look into HIIT style workouts as well (try youtube or google to get an idea), you mentioned time/family life balance getting in the way of working out.
You enjoy food, now you just need to balance things differently. try eating things that will fill you in smaller meals, 6 a day say. make it mostly a protein ( which will have fat) and a bit of carbs, specifically rice or veggies. snack only on fruit or veggies if you still need to, or a serving size of nuts/greek yougurt. something that will fill you and help you get through such a busy day.

Davy_RockHit214

I have a personal trainer now. She's actually a roller derby teammate that recently is taking a hiatus from derby. She has me counting my Macros and doing workouts everyday. Ugh... exhausted but my cravings are getting better. Someone mentioned about appetite getting down. That is in the works but the other day I went to Denny's. I ordered the Fit Breakfast which was ok and I stayed within my goal. BUT THEN my family started getting full and I didn't want the food to go to waste. 3/4 pancake and 2 sausages later.... le sigh

Vortex88

Search Scott Abel. The guy is very smart on the reason why people don't make progress.

"The firm but kind mindset is the effective one" - Scott Abel

"You cannot hate your way to a positive outcome" - Scott Abel

It might seem paradoxical but you have to like your body, even a little bit, as it is now in order for it be be okay for it to change. Just try every day giving your body a little liking, a little love, a little appreciation. It's the best, most incredible thing you will ever own.

briannadunn

I did the yo⬆⬇yo thing for years..then I discovered that I had underlying medical reasons why, they tested me for MTHFR genetic disorder...I got tested positive for homozygous C factor where I can not digest folic acid..oh boy..to make a long story short got on prescription strength folate and all of a sudden wham, I am no longer a yo-yo..as a matter of fact it has been my missing link and I feel amazing. I have found if you aren't losing or can't stick to a diet sometimes there is a reason, no more craving sugar either.

Davy_RockHit214

Last night at derby practice I pushed myself as hard as possible. We had one last endurance drill to do, skate 27 laps in 5 minutes. It has been in a pace line and for quite some time I have fallen behind but just keep skating what I can. last night it was in a pack, I started in the front of the pack to try to keep myself accountable and then I fell out because I couldn't push myself any further. I went into the bathroom and had a really good cry.