5'6 fat as *kitten*, expends 1kcal of cardio a day cutting on a caloric intake of 700kcal a day
DannyDo678
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Current macro split 12F/88C/61P. Need help being patient instead of rushing my first cut
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700 calorie intake while burning more than that in exercise per day is rushing it. You're going to burn through lean mass like crazy. You need to set your goal to lose 1 pound per week, then eat all those calories. If you're doing tons of cardio to increase your calorie burn stop. Stick to a progressive lifting routine and if you absolutely must do cardio limit yourself to a few 30 minute sessions per week.
Your protein needs to be around .8-1 gram per pound of lean body mass and that low of fat intake is going to screw up your hormones.0 -
Did you mean a deficit of 700 calories per day?0
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DannyDo678 wrote: »How retarded am I. Current macro split 12F/88C/61P. Need help being patient instead of rushing my first cut
Your not retarded at all, just rushing to try do something but by doing that you will stop yourself getting to where you want to be.
Eating that low will harm your lean muscle.
Take it easy, slow it down and read the starter threads. The info in them is very worth reading and following
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Oh, yeah no. I second .8g/lb lean mass of protein and .35g/lb lean mass of fat as minimums. Carbs you can fill in as you see fit, but you're going to need enough total calories to fuel your workouts (I'm assuming you're still lifting even if you cut volume during your cut).0 -
Your profile shows only 7 lbs to lose. Why the extreme deficit? Why the description as "fat as ****"?0
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You are going to lose a bucket load of muscle and other lean mass. You will be weak. You will lack the nutrition needed to keep you healthy. In other words, stop this, get a moderate deficit, and take your time.0
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More red flags than at Monza on race day here. Abusive self-descriptions, extreme calorie restriction, over-exercise...yeah, no, you need some help, and not the type we can give you.0
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Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health0
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Dude, she's already gone. Eat more.0
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You're not going to be happy with the results at all on an intake like that. Goodbye lean muscle. Stop abusing yourself, both physically and mentally. The girl is gone, she's not worth your health.0
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DannyDo678 wrote: »How retarded am I. Current macro split 12F/88C/61P. Need help being patient instead of rushing my first cut
would be better to do this 0F/0C/200P
lower risk of muscle loss
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DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
Ok, this is going to be a little brutal so I apologize in advance...
If she has left you for him, chances are she is already in love with him.
And generally when someone leaves it's not because of your appearance. Females are humans, not peacocks, we (usually) don't pick partners based off how pretty their "feathers" are. Unless she has made comments in the past that shows she is unsatisfied with your appearance, making the big gesture of changing your appearance won't work.
I've been on the other side of this. I've left a partner for someone else. There was never anything they could've done to "keep" me or "win me back" - I just didn't love them anymore and I had found someone that I loved more than anything.0 -
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Secondly, you have some other issues to clearly work out before weight loss becomes your priority. Why would you want someone back that has hurt you? This is brutal, but there is something the other person is giving her that you did not. And I can assure you that it is not appearance. Reflect on that. Because to honestly think that someone is that shallow to focus only on looks is already a red flag.
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Why would you want to impress someone who is leaving you for another man? I'd be like "Bye, Felicia!" and then work on the fitness/diet goals for myself.
Perhaps you should seek out counseling. You're doing yourself more harm than good and there's alot going on for you. I think it would be beneficial for you to talk things out with a professional. There's no reason to harm yourself physically and mentally over someone who doesn't want to be with you. As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish in the sea.0 -
DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
This sounds like an extraordinarily difficult experience, and it also sounds like there's a lot going on in your life right now. Have you thought about consulting a mental health professional?0 -
Yeah, OP, you're only eating about half what your minimum cal/day should be.
And she's not going to come back to you if you torture yourself.
Read this blog post, and especially click through to the Baylor College of Medicine (BCM.edu) link.
That will help you learn what a healthy weight for your height is, and a healthy calorie intake,
and how many servings of the various food groups you need to eat every day.
Goal setting, including weight, calories, and macros
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/MKEgal/view/2014-06-08-setting-goals-667045
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Yeah, OP, you're only eating about half what your minimum cal/day should be.
And she's not going to come back to you if you torture yourself.
Read this blog post, and especially click through to the Baylor College of Medicine (BCM.edu) link.
That will help you learn what a healthy weight for your height is, and a healthy calorie intake,
and how many servings of the various food groups you need to eat every day.
Goal setting, including weight, calories, and macros
http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/MKEgal/view/2014-06-08-setting-goals-667045
The link to Baylor doesn't seem to exist anymore, but IIFYM has a really good calculator at: http://www.iifym.com/iifym-calculator/0 -
One girl left. Who cares! It has happened to me from both sides. Life moves on and eventually you become happy with yourself and then you can attract the correct partner or decide to be happy single. You may need some therapy but, killing yourself that obviously cares nothing about you is only hurting you.
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DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
Ok, this is going to be a little brutal so I apologize in advance...
If she has left you for him, chances are she is already in love with him.
And generally when someone leaves it's not because of your appearance. Females are humans, not peacocks, we (usually) don't pick partners based off how pretty their "feathers" are. Unless she has made comments in the past that shows she is unsatisfied with your appearance, making the big gesture of changing your appearance won't work.
I've been on the other side of this. I've left a partner for someone else. There was never anything they could've done to "keep" me or "win me back" - I just didn't love them anymore and I had found someone that I loved more than anything.
It's terribly painful losing someone. I got left after 17 years of trying to make a loveless relationship work. I just couldn't let it go. Instead, he left me, for a mutual friend. Holy *kitten* that hurt, but I should have been braver and got out sooner. I didn't have the skills to be confident and feel worthy of finding someone to love me properly.
OP, don't take it personally, chances are its all about her and her new love, rather than about you.
Don't change you. Just get busy finding someone that loves YOU.
Work on self improvement by all means!
Good luck me lovely.
Katetii thank you for sharing - it helps. Love comes and goes. It's life.0 -
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OP - I am sorry you are going through this, but it does get better. Your girlfriend leaving you isn't about your appearance, so there is no need to risk your health by rushing to lose weight. Don't try to "win" her back as she's already proven she is not loyal or trustworthy, you can find someone better! Give it time, things will work out!0 -
DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
Yeah, forget this plan.
It sucks but she's gone. She probably won't be back. Let it go.
The best revenge is to live well. Get a solid plan in place and go about your business.
It will get better. I promise.0 -
kshama2001 wrote: »Dude, she's already gone. Eat more.
This.0 -
DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
This sounds like an extraordinarily difficult experience, and it also sounds like there's a lot going on in your life right now. Have you thought about consulting a mental health professional?
This.
She's gone, and hurting yourself (and this extreme food restriction and overexercising will definitely hurt you in both the short and long terms) will not bring her back. You're already hurting, and you're punishing yourself still further with this extreme but ineffective plan. Ineffective in that it won't make you cut, and it won't make her come back.
Stop. Take some time to heal. Talk to a therapist, and eat enough food to fuel your body.
This is rough- the end of relationships is rough even when you agree it was a good idea to end it, it's even more so when it was unilateral and not your idea- but it will get better. That is, life and your feelings will get better.
The relationship is probably over for good. I haven't ever met someone who left a partner over wanting them to lose seven pounds. By the time someone has made up their mind to break an engagement and start a new relationship, for whatever reason, they're usually not in the "let's give this another chance" mindset, certainly not over something like a couple percentage points of body fat. I don't know what happened in your relationship- maybe she left for a reasonable reason, maybe she left because she's shallow and awful, but either way- she left. Do you want to be with someone who would leave you? Would you ever trust her again, if she did come back? Probably not.
Starving yourself in an attempt to make her come back isn't going to be what fixes this pain- and I know it's painful, I've been there. Time and processing it and realizing that for one reason or another it was not a good fit anymore and that you can and will be happy again with someone else- that will fix it, and sooner than you think, if you let yourself start healing.
Please eat some food and then make an appointment to talk to someone who can help you sort through this stuff.0 -
emmycantbemeeko wrote: »DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
This sounds like an extraordinarily difficult experience, and it also sounds like there's a lot going on in your life right now. Have you thought about consulting a mental health professional?
This.
She's gone, and hurting yourself (and this extreme food restriction and overexercising will definitely hurt you in both the short and long terms) will not bring her back. You're already hurting, and you're punishing yourself still further with this extreme but ineffective plan. Ineffective in that it won't make you cut, and it won't make her come back.
Stop. Take some time to heal. Talk to a therapist, and eat enough food to fuel your body.
This is rough- the end of relationships is rough even when you agree it was a good idea to end it, it's even more so when it was unilateral and not your idea- but it will get better. That is, life and your feelings will get better.
The relationship is probably over for good. I haven't ever met someone who left a partner over wanting them to lose seven pounds. By the time someone has made up their mind to break an engagement and start a new relationship, for whatever reason, they're usually not in the "let's give this another chance" mindset, certainly not over something like a couple percentage points of body fat. I don't know what happened in your relationship- maybe she left for a reasonable reason, maybe she left because she's shallow and awful, but either way- she left. Do you want to be with someone who would leave you? Would you ever trust her again, if she did come back? Probably not.
Starving yourself in an attempt to make her come back isn't going to be what fixes this pain- and I know it's painful, I've been there. Time and processing it and realizing that for one reason or another it was not a good fit anymore and that you can and will be happy again with someone else- that will fix it, and sooner than you think, if you let yourself start healing.
Please eat some food and then make an appointment to talk to someone who can help you sort through this stuff.
Beautiful, smart, and a red head. Hard to beat that.
Anyways, to those harping on the OP's word selection, chill out. I too work with mentally challenged individuals and I really don't take offense to the word 'retard'.
Honestly, sometimes...in the right context, it's hilarious. Sometimes...in the right context...
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ledzeppelinfan1 wrote: »emmycantbemeeko wrote: »DannyDo678 wrote: »Thank you everybody first few post. We're very informative and my fiancé for 2 years left me for someone that's why the rush I just wanted to impress her before she fell in love with him sorry if I offended anyone with the choice of words the caloric deficit is starting to affect every aspect of my physical and mental health
This sounds like an extraordinarily difficult experience, and it also sounds like there's a lot going on in your life right now. Have you thought about consulting a mental health professional?
This.
She's gone, and hurting yourself (and this extreme food restriction and overexercising will definitely hurt you in both the short and long terms) will not bring her back. You're already hurting, and you're punishing yourself still further with this extreme but ineffective plan. Ineffective in that it won't make you cut, and it won't make her come back.
Stop. Take some time to heal. Talk to a therapist, and eat enough food to fuel your body.
This is rough- the end of relationships is rough even when you agree it was a good idea to end it, it's even more so when it was unilateral and not your idea- but it will get better. That is, life and your feelings will get better.
The relationship is probably over for good. I haven't ever met someone who left a partner over wanting them to lose seven pounds. By the time someone has made up their mind to break an engagement and start a new relationship, for whatever reason, they're usually not in the "let's give this another chance" mindset, certainly not over something like a couple percentage points of body fat. I don't know what happened in your relationship- maybe she left for a reasonable reason, maybe she left because she's shallow and awful, but either way- she left. Do you want to be with someone who would leave you? Would you ever trust her again, if she did come back? Probably not.
Starving yourself in an attempt to make her come back isn't going to be what fixes this pain- and I know it's painful, I've been there. Time and processing it and realizing that for one reason or another it was not a good fit anymore and that you can and will be happy again with someone else- that will fix it, and sooner than you think, if you let yourself start healing.
Please eat some food and then make an appointment to talk to someone who can help you sort through this stuff.
Beautiful, smart, and a red head. Hard to beat that.
Anyways, to those harping on the OP's word selection, chill out. I too work with mentally challenged individuals and I really don't take offense to the word 'retard'.
Honestly, sometimes...in the right context, it's hilarious. Sometimes...in the right context...
I don't think the issue is how those who work with mentally challenged or disabled individuals feel about the word, I think the issue is more "How do those individuals *themselves* feel about the word." I have a sister with an intellectual disability and she knows that people use "retard" to mean "stupid." It upsets her, which is all I need to know to not use it myself.0 -
Springfield1970 wrote: »
Pain is no reason to be offensive. What if he used a racial slur to express his pain? I feel like the reaction would be far different.
His use of words and dramatic actions show an extreme immaturity. Yes, being hurt sucks, but every single one of us have been through this. For me, I was left by my fiancé of 6 years because he wanted to be a concert hopping hobo (no joke). I did what I knew I needed and sought mental help, and because others are offended by his immaturity does not mean that they are being cruel in informing his need of mental help, not "love" from random strangers on a forum.0 -
Everybody thank you so much. Really I not to sound pittyful but everything said here has helped no matter how brutally honest it was I feel a lot better some of these post had so much feel in them a tear almost dropped... Or maybe it's the hormones someone said that that would be affected but I digress thank you everyone for sharing and taking the time out of your day to give your opinion I think I just needed to be heard by someone. And just to be clear I apologize for the ill use of the work retard I meant no offense to anyone particularly I was just didn't think long enough to pick a better choice of a word to describe myself at the moment.0
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@DannyDo678, from your last post I can tell that you meant no harm by the word usage and that you are just overwhelmed with emotions right now. Completely understandable. I see from your profile that you are 22 yrs. old. ONLY 22. You have your whole life ahead of you! You will find the right person for you and you have plenty of time to do so. Enjoy your youth and freedom while you have it!
In the meantime, take care of your health. Don't do anything drastic. From your profile pic it looks like you're on the right track. Focus on fitness goals and make sure you eat enough calories and nutrients to fuel your body. Once you feel better physically it is much easier to deal with the emotional stuff.0
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