Motivation needed

callensterling815

I'm 31 years old, 145 pounds, and 5'4". I've been struggling with my weight since I was a kid, and felt that I had finally reached a good spot, where I focused more on being healthy, rather than fitting into a size 4. But when my husband and I decided to start a family, I started to worry about my weight again. It seems the more pressure I'm under to lose weight, the harder it is! I exercise regularly, record my calories, but I'm feeling defeated by my lack of progress. Any suggestions for how to stay motivated?

JILLCLI4D

'I've been struggling with my weight since I was a kid'- there's your motivation. Either you want it and will do anything to get it or you will continue telling yourself the same lies you've been listening to yourself say for 25 years. Keep off the scale. It's too unpredictable.
My goals are my own. I don't go to the gym and work my butt off for my husband. Not for my dogs. Not for my family. I go for myself. I feel like I can conquer the world after my 80 minute workout. My pants are feeling looser. Now there's motivation because the numbers on the scale are too comfortable at where they sit... (I weigh myself every other week... remember, it's too unpredictable. Ate a lot of sodium the day prior- you retain water. Water has weight.)
"Rome wasn't built in a day" (Tony Horton, founder of p90x). My goal for 2016 is long-term and will roll into 2017 and possibly 2018. I want to be in the best shape of my life. I don't want to turn 40 and look like a slug. I don't want to look back on my life when I am old and wonder, 'Only if I had done xx'.

tulips_and_tea

Great post by @JILLCLI4D! Also, you don't need motivation. That will come and go. What you need is to establish new, sustainable habits. Baby steps. Make small changes and then build on those. It's a trial and error process so keep track of what does and doesn't work for you.

Doesn't seem like you have much to lose. How much more are you wanting to lose? What is your exercise like? The best thing I did was to shift my focus on fitness goals and off of the number on the scale.