How to cope when a parent dies

MyWeigh94

I'm going through the same thing. Just recently lost my dad, and it's very tough. He raised me. And I'm trying to use it as motivation. We used to do jiu-jitsu together as a child. And I want to get back into it to help myself heal, and feel more connected to him.

WinoGelato

I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed 3 years ago this month and not long afterwards I stumbled on this site. I set up a profile and have logged every day since. My mom had a lifetime of medical ailments and battled her weight for much of her adult life until becoming quite frail in her old age. I realized when I found this site that committing to being healthier would be a great way to honor her, to make sure I was healthy, fit and active for my children. I know my mom would shake her head and laugh at me diligently logging my food and turning down things like second helpings of her lasagna, but I also know she would be thrilled at how much happier and healthier I am (and believe me I still make and enjoy her lasagna).

I agree with others that the grief hits you when you least expect it. For me, the first year was hard because there are so many firsts, (first Holidays without her, first birthday, kids birthdays, etc). But then in subsequent years, when the reminders aren't quite so sharp, it often hurts worse when you don't remember them as often... Or when others don't still acknowledge how hard it is to make it through those holidays because people assume you shouldn't still be missing them.

Good luck OP.

Cynsonya

I'm so incredibly sorry for your loss. I can't even begin to imagine the pain you're feeling. It sounds like she was taken much too soon. At least you had a wonderful bond. Not all are so lucky.

Just remember her happiness and sense of pride in your accomplishment thus far. No other advise really. But if you need someone to listen just message me. I'm here for you.