How often do u think about being fat? Like I think of my weight every time I'm in a room with people

JHALLISGETTINGsmall

If I'm at work sitting in a meeting, I'm thinking about how I'm fatter than most in the room. Right now I'm out eating lunch I am thinking how fat I am compared to others in here. How often do people think about it? Am I weird ? I wonder if people are thinking about how fat I am. Or if I disgust them ?

puffbrat

I do this sometimes, then I mentally slap myself and remind myself that is incredibly unhelpful and unhealthy. It's important to recognize you are doing it. You now need to figure out how to focus your energy elsewhere and build your self-confidence.

Joanna2012B

You certainly do not disgust anyone and if they think that they are shallow and heartless, don't waste time on them!! Don't compare yourself to others, that will just get you down. You are a beautiful woman, don't cut yourself short. However, I do understand what you are saying. I too have been guilty thinking of how much bigger I am than someone else, I do that very seldom anymore. I have realized that we are all different and we are our own worst critics.

treehopper1987

Yes, I do this often to myself. Or more-so I compare how much I am/am not eating compared to others, and if I'm being judged because of that.

JHALLISGETTINGsmall

I'm not like obsessed with it. But it def crosses my mind a lot. Just curious if other think of it.

sanfromny

Please believe there is someone maybe half your size that thinks the same thing about themselves. If you read some of the post here there are ppl are 5'2 115lbs saying how fat they are and wish they can be 95lbs. Part of this journey is going to be to readjust your thinking not only about how you view food but also how you view yourself. I wish you success!

statickey

I think about my weight all day. And I compare myself to other women... I dont have a very good view of myself, even after losing over 40#. It's hard to change mentally.

Rdsgoal16

When I walk into body combat class and 95% of the people in there are at ideal bmi I start to think about it....then the music starts and I just try to make it through.

therealklane

I do think about it from time to time. It was terrible before I started losing weight, and then it got to the point that I barely thought about it because I knew I was a more "normal" size. It's worse now since I've gained weight post surgery..but it's more like "can they tell I've gained x amount of weight..? If they knew I gained weight after my surgery, maybe they'd understand.." I don't know. Ready to be back to where I was (and below) so I can stop thinking so much about it again.

I also see people that are the size I was and wonder if they're thinking about it and comparing themselves as well. It makes me sad.

enterdanger

I almost never think about it. I'm always worried about dumb *kitten* like where my 3 year old left his shoes, did I close the garage door when I left for work, am I late to my meeting, what beer do I have in the fridge, what am I feeding the kids for dinner, did I buy cat food, Is the registration due on my car...yeah. dumb stuff.

zerojunk

People are projecting that onto you. Believe me on that, I put more than one idiot in their place for doing things that can't be proven to bring people down. They used to think I was like them when I was young and fit so they would talk in front of me about their plans. Can't be proven unless you confessed you were doing it on purpose of course.

Kristin2626

I used to feel similarly, but I guess I have accepted that even when I am very thin, I am usually the physically largest woman in the room (I am tall with broad shoulders). I feel like anyone who is judging you is a pretty terrible person. I mean, it would be really unpleasant for you if they were to say something to you or treat you badly because of it. But odds are what they would do instead is avoid you, and that would be to your benefit, since they are a human being of low character. I think people need to stop thinking that being physically small has any bearing on a person's worth -- either our own or someone else's. Lose weight for health or aesthetics, sure, but don't think you have any less worth now. You are not any less deserving of an enjoyable and relaxing lunch out at a restaurant!

janicelo1971

oddly enough it crossed my mind for one of the first time todays...i was in an auditorium and noticed about 75 percent of the adults were not just overweight, but obese! it really shocked me at how many unhealthy people are around us each day...

UnicornAmanda1

In the past this thought would cross my mind a lot. I think i was always trying to reassure myself that i wasn't the fattest person in the room.. Then i would be anxious to go to the gym or take an exercise class because I'd be worried everyone would be thinking "what is this fatty doing here?" now i rarely think about it and if i do i remind myself to cut the *kitten*!

blues4miles

If I find myself thinking this way I remind myself people don't think about you at ALL as much as you think about yourself. I mean, how much are you really focusing on the body types of the people in the room? Or try to think of someone who is much heavier than you. Do you have a negative opinion of that person? Probably not, or not based on size alone. People like you for who you are. Most of the time they are more worried about what you think of them than any opinion on you or your size.

VeryKatie

When I was chubby (as in 1 lb overweight - is when I decided to lose) I rarely thought about it. Every once in a while I'd think I should exercise more or eat less chips. Sometimes wished I could share clothes with my sister (let's face it that will never happen seeing as I'm 6" taller than her haha).

Now that I've lost weight... I actually worry I'm obsessed. My mind felt healthier when I was heavier, even if my body wasn't. I'm still at a loss of what to do about it. But I kind of feel like time will solve it...

Ninkyou

When I was Obese, I never thought about it. I just hated how I looked in whatever clothes and couldn't find anything flattering to wear.

Now that I'm a healthy BMI, I still don't think about it.

Alatariel75

I admit, I compare a lot. I look at other people and wonder if I'm bigger than them or smaller, or how I'd look in what they are wearing. When I was bigger, I'd take note if I was the biggest in the room.

It's something I'm moving away from, because it's not healthy (I'm far more than my weight) but also probably because I'm a lower weight and less self conscious. But I think there is a big difference between self reflection and letting it colour your interactions. If doing so is making you think you're disgusting or whatnot, you need to work on stopping. Self abuse isn't helpful at all.

musicgirl99

Not weird at all. I think about it every second. Always comparing myself to others. It's awful and no way to live.

Lounmoun

I don't really have a sense of myself being fat... even when I crossed the line into obese. When I looked in a mirror or at pictures of myself I was always kind of surprised because that wasn't my mind picture of myself. I think about being shorter than people more than my weight.
I thought about other people's weight negatively more when I hated myself. When I got more positive I would be thinking their hair looked good or they had a nice smile or I liked their outfit instead.

Isabelle_1929

I think about it all the time. Whether I am with others, or alone. But no only my weight - everything about my look.

coolskeleton95

My weight has practically ruled the way I think about myself and the way I interact with others for years now. I used to avoid socializing and would go out of my way not to exercise in public because I was worried about how I looked to other people, but thankfully that's eased off a little now.

hopeandtheabsurd

Whenever I enter a setting, my weight compared to others is one thing I notice (still remember the time I went to a nightclub in LA at about 15 pounds overweight and was the fattest person in the whole room!). I also notice how old I am compared to everyone else, how I am dressed compared to others, the gender ratio, racial make-up, general mood of the room, etc. I like to fly under the radar so hate to be the most or least of any characteristic.

trinty425

I've had this happen to me many times. I seem to always realize when I am the biggest person in the room / area. Then I start becoming paranoid and conscience about it. Then it sometimes effects my confidence as well, I stay quiet, etc. because I don't want people looking at me...and realize too I am the biggest in the room. It is really frustrating.

soniamemms

It seems that the more I lose weight, the more I am conscious of my weight. You would think it would be the other way around for me. But, I do think, when I walk into a room...am I smaller than this person? I think most people are always comparing no matter what size. We are never really happy about our bodies, even if we do lose weight, the warped mentality is always there. At least for me anyway. I was a 14/16, XL. I am now a 10/12. I'm still just as self conscious as I was before.

rats2010

I've actually had people comment (in restraunts) about the "fat lady eating a salad- too late for her now." When this happens, I tell them what I think ie: none of their effing business, they are not paying my way/ticket, eff off. Other than that, I occasionally think about it, mainly when it's a booth or cramped sitting space that I feel squeezed into. The rest of the time, I'm more focused on conversation or enjoying my food.

tkphotogirl

I tend to do the size comparison thing with other people mainly because I don't have a solid sense of the size of my body. Sometimes in my head I'm not the size I am now, I'm still the size I was 60+lbs ago. I do find myself thinking about it more than I want to, but I'm finding it a hard habit to change.

TehLaughingDog

Yeah I think about this a lot. People treat you a lot different too - you can tell and people are more inclined to make remarks assuming you're dumb as well. And skinny people easily assume you know nothing about eating heathy or exercising when fat but when you're your former skinny self people are "inspired" by your passion. From being skinny and becoming fat due to depression and medication I feel like I can really tell. Guys too are less likely to just be normal and more likely to be jerks or standoffish until they realize that, for myself, I'm a lesbian. As if they're worried the fat chick will like them or something until they realize the fat chick doesn't give a rats *kitten* about them.

I also don't clothes shop for this reason. Nor do I keep in contact with people who knew me before the weight gain - I don't want them to see me again and just remark afterwards on my weight. /sigh.

PlantBasedRnr

I think about it every minute of everyday... I obsess over it. I have been overweight for as long as I can remember and recently lost 70 lbs... but still look in the mirror and see the " fat " me even though people constantly comment on my weight loss - it is HORRIBLE, I truly wish that I could love and accept the body I was given and the new body I have worked for.

sparklebunnbunn

I do the same although I'm getting better at controlling those thoughts. Think of your friends and family, do you immediately think of their size and shape? No you think of their smiling faces and how they make you feel. Anyone worth knowing only cares what's on the inside

T1DCarnivoreRunner

I think about it pretty much all day. If only I could lose enough to be confident about my appearance instead of anxious all the time, then I might instead think about how great I look instead.