How to Grieve

britt7797

Good morning everyone, on Saturday my 9 month old niece passed away. She had an infection that went to her brain. I went off the rails and was eating pretty bad. But now I'm back home, and I really need some support and encouragement to stay on track. It's so hard. People keep bringing fried chicken to our house... I just want to stay in bed and cry but I want to be someone she could be proud of more. If anyone has any advice on how to avoid totally falling off track I would really appreciate it. Or if you have been through something similar, and want support we can support each other?

mbaker566

i haven't been thru anything like that.
while don't go crazy, don't worry too much about what you are doing diet wise. eat. maybe ask them for something like "i have a hankering for...."
also, find a support group. talking to people who have been thru the same thing is extremely helpful

TheLegendaryBrandonHarris

It's always worse when it's the little ones. I'm sorry to hear about that.

You can let yourself have some time to grieve. It's ok. It's only been three or four days---you'll get back on track. Just be aware of what you're doing and remind yourself it's only temporary. And, I don't mean this to sound horrible, but the people dropping by to bring food ends after a few days.

For right now, let your mind process what has happened and accept it.
Keep a close eye on your family; they'll need someone steady.

Toronto6fan

I'm so sorry for your loss. No real advice, I would allow myself some leeway with food but log it still.

msf74

Speak to a bereavement counsellor or contact a child bereavement charity and they should be able to help you go though the grieving process. It really does help to talk,

There is no right or wrong way to grieve or timescale that anyone can give you.

My sincere condolences for your loss.

dubird

I'm sorry for your loss. Talking to a grief counselor may be helpful for you. And everyone grieves in their own way; there's no right or wrong way to do so. If you're concerned about calories, set your calories to maintenance for a while. That will be less stress on you, which will help.

GuruOnAMountain

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss! It must be a terrible time for you. If I were you, I wouldn't worry about tracking too much at the moment. Just focus on yourself and your family. You aren't going to gain stones and stones in a few weeks and as long as you can try to make some healthier choices, I wouldn't be too obsessive about logging right now.

DrifterBear

Get some help, don't deal with it alone. This is probably not the best time to focus on weight loss, unless you find it exercise helps take your mind off things. Be careful not to use food as a coping mechanism though. Your mental health is the priority right now, focus on that first.

Owlie45

Weight loss is not important right now.
Help be there for everyone.
Msf74 ideas are good.