What do you say to someone who wants to give up?
knp90210
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Because I feel like this right now. 
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DON'T! Remember the reasons that you signed up to begin with. Remember that is is for your health and and that YOU are NOT a quitter.0
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Why do you want to give up?0
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I'd analyze why you want to give up.
Are you trying to do too much? Pick a level of calorie restriction and exercise more appropriate for you to sustain.
Are you restricting what you eat too much? You really don't need to.0 -
Go to sleep. Wake up tomorrow and realize it is a fresh. New day. Clean. Healthy. Alive. Embrace the new day. Let the failures of the past go. Enjoy the day. So blessed to be alive. My dad just died. So I am trying to be healthier and not give up0
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Read the text of your profile picture. Open your diary. The wise heads in the community, and I'll accuse both queenliz99 and rankinsect of that, can better help you if they see what you've logged, and you can get better help if you log accurately and completely.
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How will you feel if you give up? Better?
Maybe reevaluate your expectations. Perhaps you need to change your menu + fitness routine to something you can easily stick with. Personally, I can't live with the idea of always depriving myself. I do exercises that I like and set my calories higher. Losses are much, much slower-but something I can live with.0 -
PLEASE DON'T give up!!!, I was SO tempted 2 hours ago to go to the kitchen and grab some biscuits and a hot cross bun and feed a major craving I had, BUT I just kept running my goal through my head and reminded myself of why I am doing this. So I drank a heap of water even though I'm drinking plenty anyway and I knew I would be SERIOUSLY proud of myself for not giving in, because I knew I would feel like utter crap if I did. SO PLEASE DO NOT undo all of the hard work you have put in so far. There will always be speed bumps on our road to our better selves, we just have to suck it up and remember the big picture. I am SERIOUSLY sick and tired of looking and feeling the way I do about myself, but I am NOT giving up, we are all here for you!!!!! :-)0
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Don't.0 -
@knp90210 the key to your why is your reason. Why do you want to quit? Is it too boring? Then change it up. Are you hungry all the time? Then eat a little more. Having an argument with the scale after finishing what you thought was a great week? Then chart your average on weightgrapher.0
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Give up what?
- Eating?
- Moving?
- Eating a very low calorie amount?
- Exercising to excess?
- Not exercising?
- Logging food?
- Weighing yourself?
Instead, I'd ask yourself: "why is this hard, what could I change?"
Perhaps you have set yourself an unrealistic goal for eating or for exercise.
You might like to try recalculating your calorie goal for a smaller loss per week. This isn't a bad thing, if you keep on working towards being healthy, I don't think it really matters how long it takes to lose weight. (Unless of course you have specific medical reasons and guidance).
Or maybe look at the exercise you are doing and consider doing less, or doing more or the same amount of something different.
Or maybe find a different way to log your foods (pre-log the night before) or plan your meals.
I'm nearly 50 and I have lost weight and regained it a number of times. Something that is finally sinking in for me is that I can't just "go on a diet" and be done with weight loss*. Reaching and keeping a healthy weight is something I'm going to have to do for the long term. It doesn't mean I have to suffer, I just have to be realistic.
I've "given up" before too, and found myself right back where I was a few years ago. I hope you can do better than I did!
* I know this, I really do. I've said it to other people "this has to be a lifestyle change", "you have to be in this for the long run" but I haven't taken that on board for myself before. I'm hoping this time I can be kind to myself and stick with good habits.0 -
If you had a child or sibling that came up to you wanting to quit education (school, college), what would you say to them? Would you encourage them to quit? Or tell them it's fine to give up on something they want?Because I feel like this right now.
Then go to the mirror and tell yourself.
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Quitting is easy - Crossing that finish line is hard. Which outcome do you want to be remembered for?
I say this to my children whenever they feel like they want to give up on something.0 -
Suck it up princess and keep going.
Can you imagine what your life would be like now if, as a child, you thought that learning to walk was just too hard as you kept falling on your tush all the time? Hello wheelchair.
Or potty training was just too hard? Hello incontinence pads.
Etc
If it's not good enough for kids it shouldn't be good enough for an adult.
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I would advise asking yourself questions.
What do you want to quit and why? What do you care about now? Are you fine the way you are? Is your goal reasonable and healthy? Do you need to choose a new goal? Are you being hard on yourself? What would you advise someone you care about to do?
You can change your mind about things. Maybe you are doing some things that are unsustainable right now. It is okay to stop doing those things and do something else. That is not giving up but re-evaluating your goals and how you will get there. Sometimes you need to maintain and refocus before moving on.
Every day is a new day with new choices. What you did or didn't do yesterday is not as important as what you do right now.
Everyone has challenges to overcome.0 -
Time is going to pass whether you do something or not. *shrug*0
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JeromeBarry1 wrote: »Read the text of your profile picture. Open your diary. The wise heads in the community, and I'll accuse both queenliz99 and rankinsect of that, can better help you if they see what you've logged, and you can get better help if you log accurately and completely.
Yup. That.
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Omg youve come so far maybe you should reward yourself like give your self a cheat day or go shopping or something that would help me lol0
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You're on a road trip, you get a flat. Do you hail a cab home and start over or do you fix the flat and keep going? A friend just told me, view today as your rock bottom. Tomorrow you won't be there! Hugs!0
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The time is going to pass anyway, so make choices that you're going to regret the least.0
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I feel this way every night around 11pm. Ask yourself what would be the consequences or the outcome in 6 months if you give up now.0
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Do something to engage your mind away from food. Take a walk, even a mall walk, see a friend, read a book, watch a comedy (watch a comedy on your phone while riding a stationary bike if you're ready for the next level of not giving up), put on music and dance around the house, sext someone, do ANYTHING. Just don't give up right now.0
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This feeling will pass. Trust me, I've been there. Just lay down, watch your favorite tv show, and feel good tomorrow.
Remember WHY you started. Remember how hard it is to start over, and it will not be any easier next time. Just hang in there, get through this, and keep going. You will not regret it!!0 -
The feeling does pass. However, I struggle with keeping the weight off. I emotionally eat. It gets frustrating. I don't gain as much now that I track my weight every week, but it's hard to get off. I gained 37 lbs in college and lost 8 so far. I have been out for a year and gained it after 2012. Graduated 2015 with 37 lbs heavier than I started college. i have over 100 more lbs to lose until i get to a healthy weight and I have already lost 60+ lbs. I forgot the actual total but it's in the 60's. I just get frustrated and sometimes feel like I will never be thin. ( I say thin because I'm HUGE right now for my height.) Or I will look like a deflated version of me and not healthy looking. I have a fear that I won't look the way I am supposed to or be successful. I hope all this makes sense.0
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68.8 is the total since 2010.
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The feeling does pass. However, I struggle with keeping the weight off. I emotionally eat. It gets frustrating. I don't gain as much now that I track my weight every week, but it's hard to get off. I gained 37 lbs in college and lost 8 so far. I have been out for a year and gained it after 2012. Graduated 2015 with 37 lbs heavier than I started college. i have over 100 more lbs to lose until i get to a healthy weight and I have already lost 60+ lbs. I forgot the actual total but it's in the 60's. I just get frustrated and sometimes feel like I will never be thin. ( I say thin because I'm HUGE right now for my height.) Or I will look like a deflated version of me and not healthy looking. I have a fear that I won't look the way I am supposed to or be successful. I hope all this makes sense.
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Makes total sense. I am 4'11 and weigh 224 lbs. Haven't checked my weight and this whole carb counting is a little frustrating. I'm also in depression a lot of times. You have already lost weight. I am also diabetic. Crazy ups and downs, now, more than ever. You have been small before. I never have. Look at the positive. Use that one little positive and stand up with your head held high. I'm gonna use your positive to help me today. Thank you for sharing. I'll pray for you.0
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Makes total sense. I am 4'11 and weigh 224 lbs. Haven't checked my weight and this whole carb counting is a little frustrating. I'm also in depression a lot of times. You have already lost weight. I am also diabetic. Crazy ups and downs, now, more than ever. You have been small before. I never have. Look at the positive. Use that one little positive and stand up with your head held high. I'm gonna use your positive to help me today. Thank you for sharing. I'll pray for you.
Glad I could help I'm far from small lol. I'm just much smaller than I was. 
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kissedbythesunshine wrote: »I feel this way every night around 11pm. Ask yourself what would be the consequences or the outcome in 6 months if you give up now.
I like that idea Thanks 0
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