Interment or cremation- what's your preference. Oh and Happy Easter!

CooCooPuff

Creamation and whatever is legally possible to be the cheapest for everyone left. And donate whatever is usable.

robertw486

I've decided on cremation, with my ashes scattered where my family sees fit, with at least some going into the ocean. I've always had a connection with the ocean, and my daughter shares it. I'm hoping that by doing it that way she will think of me whenever she is around the ocean.

Lots of interesting thoughts and traditions on this thread.

As for services, I want it to be a party like I was there. Nothing grim or structured to the point of causing anyone to be down.


One thing not mentioned that I have done. Make sure you have your will, living will, and everything else in order. My advance directive (living will) is very structured with a number of provisions. The idea is to take the hard decisions out of the hands of others to ease their burden if and when that time comes. Make sure it's legal, and anyone that might be involved has those directives. Unfortunately I went through an experience where my father did not, and his second wife never showed us the living will. As such, me and my brother could only do what we thought he would want, and can't verify that was the right thing.

Ifitfits

HStheBusyBee wrote: »

I'm pretty much the same. Once I'm dead, I'm dead. Whatever will help my son the most and provide him some comfort is what I would want.

I agree with this , once you dead you are completely gone , but what if science proves that wrong one day and finds a way to prevent death or bring back life some how . could be interesting

enterdanger wrote: »

cremation. no viewings. It's totally creepy. I don't want anyone touching me when I'm dead. Plus, my pop pop used to always make us kiss the corpse goodbye when we were little. I'm scarred for life from that.

I went to a Jewish funeral a couple of years ago. I'm not Jewish but the it was very beautiful and I like their concept of sitting Shiva. Although, jews don't cremate.

Im Jewish and I want to be clinically frozen . Then again , I don't follow any religion .

TheRoadDog

I'm sure my wife will cremate me, but I could really care less what they do with my body. They could put me in a large trash bag and set me on the curb on Trash Pick Up day. I don't care. I'll be dead.

ElizabethAN2017

I'm Muslim, so cremation is not an option; but for me there will be no viewing, no funeral, no fancy coffin (plywood or no coffin at all if legal), no grave marker ... Just a simple prayer when I am buried, God willing, so the costs will not be so great. I do have to make plans though, so it isn't a burden on my son (who is Christian). My mum just passed away February 10 and even with just her cremation, basic ash container (I don't know what it even looks like as she had it prearranged), "no" viewings, "no" funeral, simple burial (not until May) and grave marker, it still runs into a great deal of money. If you do have plots, check on the requirements for a marker. I know in my mums case, the graveyard had specific guidelines that run into thousands of dollars just for the basic grave marker.

I did want to be donated to science (medical school nearby); but I can't count on being accepted as you have to die under very specific circumstances, have no autopsy, have body handled within a certain time frame, so, I still have to plan for the other option, just in case, so my death isn't a burden on others. ~ Elizabeth Maryam

latincoffee

Great post, @ninerbuff

I prefer cremation because it's better than having my family struggle for funeral arrangements along with other decisions. I want to just be gone in peace with the Lord and not having my family to stress over all this. It was an eye opener for me when my mom passed.

latincoffee

MaryamCh2013 wrote: »

I'm Muslim, so cremation is not an option; but for me there will be no viewing, no funeral, no fancy coffin (plywood or no coffin at all if legal), no grave marker ... Just a simple prayer when I am buried, God willing, so the costs will not be so great. I do have to make plans though, so it isn't a burden on my son (who is Christian). My mum just passed away February 10 and even with just her cremation, basic ash container (I don't know what it even looks like as she had it prearranged), "no" viewings, "no" funeral, simple burial (not until May) and grave marker, it still runs into a great deal of money. If you do have plots, check on the requirements for a marker. I know in my mums case, the graveyard had specific guidelines that run into thousands of dollars just for the basic grave marker.

I did want to be donated to science (medical school nearby); but I can't count on being accepted as you have to die under very specific circumstances, have no autopsy, have body handled within a certain time frame, so, I still have to plan for the other option, just in case, so my death isn't a burden on others. ~ Elizabeth Maryam

Sorry for your loss, Elizabeth

madhatter2013

I have advised my husband to cremate me in the bonfire that he will inevitably have while at the BBQ party after my death to celebrate my life.

ElizabethAN2017

latincoffee wrote: »

MaryamCh2013 wrote: »

I'm Muslim, so cremation is not an option; but for me there will be no viewing, no funeral, no fancy coffin (plywood or no coffin at all if legal), no grave marker ... Just a simple prayer when I am buried, God willing, so the costs will not be so great. I do have to make plans though, so it isn't a burden on my son (who is Christian). My mum just passed away February 10 and even with just her cremation, basic ash container (I don't know what it even looks like as she had it prearranged), "no" viewings, "no" funeral, simple burial (not until May) and grave marker, it still runs into a great deal of money. If you do have plots, check on the requirements for a marker. I know in my mums case, the graveyard had specific guidelines that run into thousands of dollars just for the basic grave marker.

I did want to be donated to science (medical school nearby); but I can't count on being accepted as you have to die under very specific circumstances, have no autopsy, have body handled within a certain time frame, so, I still have to plan for the other option, just in case, so my death isn't a burden on others. ~ Elizabeth Maryam

Sorry for your loss, Elizabeth

Thank you. It still hasn't sunk in that she is gone. Sometimes something crosses my mind and I think to call her or go do something with her... and then I remember she's gone ... If I can be 1/4 the woman she was, I would be doing good ... Again, thanks ~ Elizabeth Maryam

ninerbuff

robertw486 wrote: »

One thing not mentioned that I have done. Make sure you have your will, living will, and everything else in order. My advance directive (living will) is very structured with a number of provisions. The idea is to take the hard decisions out of the hands of others to ease their burden if and when that time comes. Make sure it's legal, and anyone that might be involved has those directives. Unfortunately I went through an experience where my father did not, and his second wife never showed us the living will. As such, me and my brother could only do what we thought he would want, and can't verify that was the right thing.

Also include DNR if you don't want to be revived if deemed brain dead. This will make it easier if you survive an event that puts you in the hospital and are diagnosed and then the family has to make a decision on whether to keep you alive or not.

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valente347

I'd like to be cremated, but my best friend is a funeral director (and atheist, so no religious reasoning) and looks down on the idea, as if a "certain type" of person chooses cremation. (Her response, "Oh......don't do that.") She never explains the prejudice, so I'm really curious what the stereotype of a cremation ceremony is in the funeral business. I mean, I know it's cheaper, but does that mean my last impression is that of a miser? I'll probably do whatever I want, but I'm guessing a funeral leaves a lasting impression that's hard to overcome.

ninerbuff

valente347 wrote: »

I'd like to be cremated, but my best friend is a funeral director (and atheist, so no religious reasoning) and looks down on the idea, as if a "certain type" of person chooses cremation. (Her response, "Oh......don't do that.") She never explains the prejudice, so I'm really curious what the stereotype of a cremation ceremony is in the funeral business. I mean, I know it's cheaper, but does that mean my last impression is that of a miser? I'll probably do whatever I want, but I'm guessing a funeral leaves a lasting impression that's hard to overcome.

A funeral director is looking to make a profit. Of COURSE you should choose an option that's higher so profit margin is higher. Why would she only offer the lowest profit margin?
It's like an ad in the paper that says "Cars starting at $19,000" just to get you in. Then the one you want is $25,000. Common sales tactic is usually "Well you shouldn't settle for the cheapest when you're entitled to something more comfortable especially with all the work you've put in. What's money if you don't spend and enjoy it?" Boom, you get the $25,000 car.

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