Still have the feeling of failure...

marlanak

I've done so great losing 46 lbs over last three months and still feel like I'm never going to hit my goal. I still have days where I feel so fat and I'm never going to do it. I guess having this mentality for years is hard to overcome even when doing so well. This was the first week I didn't lose anything, though I did really bad on Easter so I shouldn't be surprised. I didn't gain any at least. Anybody else have the negative thoughts even though u are doing so well? I guess people who never try to lose weight understand how hard and mentally and physically stressful it is. Thanks for reading, I just needed to put it out there.

myheartsabattleground

Have you removed things from your home that don't bring you joy ?

smit7633

Journaling might help you understand your feelings and where they come from

RaeBeeBaby

You have to realize that weight-loss is like any other part of life. It doesn't always follow a straight path. Some days/weeks you will lose, others you will maintain, and you might even go up a pound now and again. Don't get discouraged. You've done just amazing so far!! Just pick yourself up, dust off, and move on!

It might help for you to join some groups or challenges on MFP. You'll find a lot of support on here and having specific challenge goals is very helpful. Good luck!

littlewomensmom

I started MFP having 100lbs to loose. I have lost almost 20. I'm happy about it, BUT being at goal is so far away and no amount lost feels "worth" being excited because somehow it doesn't "count" until I'm at a weight I haven't been at in 20 years or something! Even writing it I know it is stupid, but it's what the brain and feelings say....until they don't . I am trying to just enjoy my life and encourage myself to keep going. A year from the day I started MFP will pass either way. Either I will log everyday and be smaller and healthier at the end....or do what I have done all these years and weigh more! So grateful for this app!

rileysowner

marlanak wrote: »

I've done so great losing 46 lbs over last three months and still feel like I'm never going to hit my goal. I still have days where I feel so fat and I'm never going to do it. I guess having this mentality for years is hard to overcome even when doing so well. This was the first week I didn't lose anything, though I did really bad on Easter so I shouldn't be surprised. I didn't gain any at least. Anybody else have the negative thoughts even though u are doing so well? I guess people who never try to lose weight understand how hard and mentally and physically stressful it is. Thanks for reading, I just needed to put it out there.

Please take this the right way, it is meant to let you learn from my mistakes. You say you lost 46 pounds over 3 months. That is 3.8 pounds per week. That is way more than you should be trying to lose. 2 pounds per week is the maximum, and even that is too much for most people which is why 1 pound per week is recommended by Myfitnesspal. Eating as little as you are mean you should not be surprised when you eat a lot, and eating at a small deficit like this increases the stress on you mentally as well. One week of no loss after losing at the rate you have is nothing to be upset about. Weight loss is not liner, it normally goes faster some weeks, slower others, some weeks there will be no loss, and some even small gains. It is at those times you need to trust your logging of calories.

The first time I lost weight due to health issues, I wanted to get the weight off as fast as I could. I ran far bigger deficits than were recommended, didn't eat my exercise calories, and while I lost weight and lost it fast, in the long run I gained much of it back. While my fitness level is still better than it was before I lost the first time, the weight coming back on has made physical activity much more difficult. Fast weight loss may be satisfying in the short term, but long term it does nothing to help learn how to think and eat at an appropriate calorie level. This is where taking your time comes in. It give you time to learn. Realizing I had more than 30 years of bad eating to unlearn, it made sense that losing as fast as I could would not give me the time needed to do so.

There have been some good suggestions given already, but I want you to realize the physical-mental connection. By stressing yourself with an excessive deficit and unrealistic weekly weight loss goals, you are making things harder for yourself. Perhaps it is time to dial by the weight loss goal, go for 1 pound per week, eat back most if not all your exercise calories, and give yourself time to settle mentally and work through what exactly it is that makes you think you will fail to reach your goal.

LKArgh

marlanak wrote: »

I've done so great losing 46 lbs over last three months and still feel like I'm never going to hit my goal. I still have days where I feel so fat and I'm never going to do it. I guess having this mentality for years is hard to overcome even when doing so well. This was the first week I didn't lose anything, though I did really bad on Easter so I shouldn't be surprised. I didn't gain any at least. Anybody else have the negative thoughts even though u are doing so well? I guess people who never try to lose weight understand how hard and mentally and physically stressful it is. Thanks for reading, I just needed to put it out there.

How much weight do you have to lose? Unless it is a very large number and you are just at the beginning, you need to slow down and see the long term goal. 46 lbs in 3 months is a very fast rate, and one that cannot possibly continue for long, unless you are still hundreds of lbs away from your goal. Weight loss to slow down as you get closer to goal is normal. And it is also the only way to finally transition to maintenance. Focus on the big picture, do not expect to see a steady loss every week.