What do you do when....

Angela937

My husband hardly works. He hasn't gone in 6 days, and when he does go he only works 5 hours about 4 days a week. He has a contract job where he can make his own schedule, and it doesn't pay enough to be able to work that little.

I stay home with our son, who has autism and he gets SSi. My husband uses all that money to get by instead of working hard. Our car has been repoed and we're being sued for what we owe. The bank is foreclosing on our home. This has been an ongoing issue since November. I finally told him that by June 1st he needs to be making $2000 a month, not using our son's money, or the kids and I are moving to my parents.

Am I being unreasonable? Because my husband says I am.

denversillygoose

Can your husband stay home with your son since it seems he doesn't care for work? Maybe you would do better than him at the income. Really, one of you needs to have a full time job. The fact that he uses your son's SS to support you is pretty disgusting.

Angela937

We have tried that before. He doesn't do anything at home, and I would end up working full time then coming home and doing all the house work.

Owlie45

I'll tell you what my mother would tell me in that situation. "Time to put on the big girl panties". If not enough money is coming into the house then you need to step up. When one was working the other watched the kids.
Should he be working so little? No. But there's no reason you can't be working too.

I don't believe this is the first post I've seen from you wanting to leave him and complaining about him. Maybe it's time to bite the bullet or at least start seeing a marriage counselor.

denversillygoose

Angela937 wrote: »

We have tried that before. He doesn't do anything at home, and I would end up working full time then coming home and doing all the house work.

Well, someone has to support your family and he isn't doing it.

Char231023

Since I have seen you on here before with problems with your husband. I say go ahead and pull the plug already.
No more ultimatums just go and take the kids with you,.

synchkat

denversillygoose wrote: »

Angela937 wrote: »

We have tried that before. He doesn't do anything at home, and I would end up working full time then coming home and doing all the house work.

Well, someone has to support your family and he isn't doing it.

This exactly.

OneHundredToLose

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. Being in a committed relationship means doing whatever it takes to support your half of the life you have together. When one person is a stay at home parent, the other usually needs to be providing an income to support that. I couldn't imagine sitting idly by while my house got forclosed on and my car got repossessed. I get out of bed and go to work every day to make sure that the people I love have what they need to survive, and then and only then to make sure I have the toys and distractions I want out of life.

dfavela1988

If you keep doing your part with no help from the spouse sometimes enough is enough. Pull the trigger and move on. Sometimes people like to keep us close to there issues or problems and they know what they have to do. Just laziness from his part. Life is tough. MOVE ON.

_incogNEATo_

Angela937 wrote: »

My husband hardly works. He hasn't gone in 6 days, and when he does go he only works 5 hours about 4 days a week. He has a contract job where he can make his own schedule, and it doesn't pay enough to be able to work that little.

I stay home with our son, who has autism and he gets SSi. My husband uses all that money to get by instead of working hard. Our car has been repoed and we're being sued for what we owe. The bank is foreclosing on our home. This has been an ongoing issue since November. I finally told him that by June 1st he needs to be making $2000 a month, not using our son's money, or the kids and I are moving to my parents.

Am I being unreasonable? Because my husband says I am.

What is he using it on? Or did you mean, "we use all that money?" Either way, divorce seems imminent (even though it's not what the Lord would want).

sunnybeaches105

No. You're not being unreasonable. Unfortunately, motivation, drive or whatever you want to call it is one of those things that people don't suddenly get.