How do you get through a stressful time?

Here_I_Am
Here_I_Am Posts: 44
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My Aunt is on life support. This Aunt kind of became my second mom when mine passed away when I was 12. I am three hours from where she is and really I know I can't see her in the state she is in without losing it. My emotions are running in every direction, I don't want to eat, anything I do try to eat makes me feel ill. I am keeping hydrated but that is all.

How do you cope with a traumatic event or stressful time?

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  • MrsSenecal
    MrsSenecal Posts: 312 Member
    Im so sorry about your Aunt. That is awful traumatic for someone to have to go through. I would take some breaths and think about this rationally. She is on life support. You need to see her. Take everything minute by minute and just keep trudging along. Its difficult and hard, but you can be strong for you and for her. Stay strong!
  • Softrbreeze
    Softrbreeze Posts: 156 Member
    I can't imagine getting thru something like that without prayer. I don't know if you're a praying woman, but it helps to calm me when I need it. If not that, then focus on your breathing- big, deep, calm breaths. Give your hands something to do when you're not doing something essential like driving. Having an outlet for that nervous energy is very helpful, whether it's sewing, sketching, crocheting, or what have you. When my husband was in a wreck and was in the ICU for 2 months, crochet helped me immeasurably!
  • legreene515
    legreene515 Posts: 276 Member
    I think you need to go see her. I know it will be hard, but you may regret it if you don't.

    Then you need to throw yourself into something you LOVE and surround yourself with people you love and people who love you. Go to your support centers. For me: that's my husband, my kids, my family, and my friends (not necessarily in that order!).

    For me to relieve stress I blog, write, and I EXERCISE. It makes me feel so much better to exercise and get the angst and emotion out.

    Huge hugs.
  • catrinaHwechanged
    catrinaHwechanged Posts: 4,907 Member
    So sorry to hear about your aunt!!

    Nothing will make it easier, but you will get through it. Focus on getting through the day, the hour, or even the minute. Do whatever is necessary to cope. For some people like me, it helps to stay busy. For others, quiet reflection might help, a good workout, or even just a good cry session. There is nothing wrong with going to your room (or the bath) locking the door and just crying. Sometimes it feels good to let it out. Whatever you feel like you have to do, just do it and don't feel guilty about it!

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