Why are people so mean?

tiffanygil
tiffanygil Posts: 478 Member
edited September 21 in Health and Weight Loss
I cant believe it. I'm so freaking mad!!!! I have reached my goal. My self esteam is finally a little above low and then I post pictures on facebook of me and my children and this is the response i get from my brother in law......

"you are losin way too much weight fern. lookin a little rough. or as we say up north,..... LOOKIN LIKE A CRACK HEAD. Eat a damn sandwich lady. Some of us are meant to have some meat on us Lol. Im suprised your hubby aint force fed you yet."


ARE YOU 'EFEN KIDDING ME!!!!!!

I have to admit it hurt my feelings and I got a little teary eyed....This was so much hard work and for someone to tell me I look "rough" or like a "crack head"

I know I am suppose to not care cause he is an idiot but it doesnt take the sting away.....
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  • 3babybeans
    3babybeans Posts: 8,268 Member
    You look great! Your sorry *kitten* BIL can fly a kite. *hugs* (I've been told I look anorexic, too. *eyeroll* The cellulite on my butt diagrees with this statement :laugh: )
  • laughingdani
    laughingdani Posts: 2,275 Member
    Sorry that he was so insensitive to say something like that to you! What a jerk. I hope your husband sets him straight!
    I think you look good!
  • aubuysgirl
    aubuysgirl Posts: 23
    You look great! ignore his ignorant comment girl!
  • LoriT129
    LoriT129 Posts: 312 Member
    Don't let him own your victory! You look fabulous!
  • unknownndoll
    unknownndoll Posts: 161 Member
    ug... yeah people suck... dont listen to them.

    Easier said than done i know... i have some "people" in my life who i dont see often and prefer not to because they have called me a "fat b****" behind my back a few times in the past. I know i have lost over 40 lbs since seeing them, but those kind of people have something negative to say no matter what... so im sure they will still have a negative opinion of me even when they see me at my smallest weight.

    Stupid people.
  • shell1205
    shell1205 Posts: 138
    Some people just suck... and it sounds like your brother in law is the poster boy for that statement!! I checked out your pics, and OMG!!! You look A-MAZING!!! Tell him to stuff a sock in it!!! :bigsmile:
  • XoXoCountryGalXoXo
    XoXoCountryGalXoXo Posts: 41 Member
    Yeah I get that alot! Usually from bigger people than me! You look stunning! You worked hard to get there and there is no way to please everyone, so just concentrate on making yourself happy! :)
  • BrattyLori
    BrattyLori Posts: 101 Member
    I agree with your friends - you look like a super model! I'm sure your bro-in-law is jealous! Just try not to listen to what "the Little" people think. Sounds like he hardly matters.
  • Thinwithin2010
    Thinwithin2010 Posts: 166 Member
    Just tell him I LOVE YOU TOO!!! :flowerforyou: and take him off your Christmas list!!! :drinker: lol Just alittle humor to cheer you up! NEVER EVER let anyone make you feel bad..:sad: . Hes probally jealous.. :angry: I think you look GREAT and you are a good incentive to all of us still with lots to lose!! :love: Keep up the great work keeping it off now and I for one am very Happy and Proud of you!!! :wink: Kathy
  • amymeenieminymo
    amymeenieminymo Posts: 2,394 Member
    OMG I can't believe he said that. I just looked through your pics and you look AMAZING! 97 pounds is a HUGE accomplishment and he is an idiot. Let me guess, he has a few pounds he could lose? If so, he is jealous and is bitter toward other people who can get what they want through hard work and determination. If he is thin, then he is just an idiot.

    Not that facebook fights are mature, but I think you should come back with something to make him look like the idiot he is. If he could stand to lose a few, tell him to put the cheeseburger down and get off the couch and maybe he could look as fabulous as you someday.
  • Jlennhikes
    Jlennhikes Posts: 290 Member
    I agree with BIL being jealous. You look great and healthy! This is good practice in ignoring people who are very worthy of being ignored.
  • mandipandi2010
    mandipandi2010 Posts: 24
    Oooooo Weeeee. Now you already know where Im ready to go. :noway:


    WHY?? I mean WHY break someone down who has invested their entire being on building themselves back up? Are you really that cruel? Do all your friends and family have to live up to your standards and what you or perhaps society sees as accurate or acceptable? Is the notion of allowing someone to have their own thoughts or feelings in regards to THEIR OWN self image just unheard of? Especially one who is still in transition, one who is still working towards the end result or final product. Cut a ***** some slack, DAMN. ( I mean ***** my love in the most dearest of ways, I swear to you :flowerforyou: )

    Girl you already know yourself and I see eye to eye. You are an inspiration to say the least. Continue to do and be what is acceptable to you and yours. I appreciate you every single day....and that is not an exaggeration. Holla back HATERS.

    I'm just sayin...:indifferent:
  • dcerro
    dcerro Posts: 3
    jeaous and threatened! to heck with him....www.poopsenders.com...it will make you feel so much better !!!!!
  • youngs
    youngs Posts: 250 Member
    Hold your head up high! You have everything to be proud of and you look wonderful...(I went and took a peek at your pictures from before and now)...You look beautiful!! ...Look at all the hard work you put into meeting your goal..I am so sorry that your Brother in law had to be so darn stupid to post something like that..If i was you I would send him a message and let him know what you have put into this journey and let him know that if he does not have anything nice or positive to say that you would prefer not to hear his comments! I sure would not set back and let him get by with making a comment like that..I know some will probley say to just ignore him..but he sounds like the type of person that you just need to put in there place..he will either respect what you say or he will get pissed..his choice..But to you keep up the great work and keep a smile on that beautiful face! Congrats to you also for achiving your goal!
  • xarrium
    xarrium Posts: 432 Member
    That sucks... don't listen to what he's saying, you look *fantastic*!! I say you should copy that message to your hubby and see what happens (I'm assuming this BIL is your husband's brother...).

    Congrats on your success and hard work, and don't let anybody tear you down!
  • mstarrett01
    mstarrett01 Posts: 74 Member
    WOW! I am so sorry dear, I would be hurt to. But you know what you look good! You have done such a GREAT job loosing weight! You look great! Don't let him run on your parade! He is just jealous cause he doesn't have the power to suceed at something so hard! It really just sounds like jealousy to me!
  • Beleau
    Beleau Posts: 143
    Sounds like jealousy to me...you look fantastic...the nerve!!!!
  • RominaSullivan
    RominaSullivan Posts: 42
    He must hang out with some pretty good looking crackheads then. You look GREAT! don't let an idiot/loser like him get you down!
  • stratdl
    stratdl Posts: 303 Member
    Hide his posts on FB or de-friend his sorry butt! You could do what my former SIL did - post a blanket message on your FB wall saying that you're cleaning up your FB friends and unless they "show you some love", they will be history. Of course, you could add that you're taking your life into a new, positive direction and will only keep FB friends who are positive & supportive.

    You are absolutely beautiful and the fact that you have lost so much weight is an inspiration to many of us here on MFP!
  • Яaquel
    Яaquel Posts: 90
    Just got the same comment today... I lost 16 pounds & now I am a Crack head to most people SMH!! F*** them girl you look great,Keep up the wonderful work!!!
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    Is he overweight or is his wife, if he has one?

    You look great. He's an idiot who was probably trying to be funny.
  • SoldierDad
    SoldierDad Posts: 1,602
    I cant believe it. I'm so freaking mad!!!! I have reached my goal. My self esteam is finally a little above low and then I post pictures on facebook of me and my children and this is the response i get from my brother in law......

    "you are losin way too much weight fern. lookin a little rough. or as we say up north,..... LOOKIN LIKE A CRACK HEAD. Eat a damn sandwich lady. Some of us are meant to have some meat on us Lol. Im suprised your hubby aint force fed you yet."


    ARE YOU 'EFEN KIDDING ME!!!!!!

    I have to admit it hurt my feelings and I got a little teary eyed....This was so much hard work and for someone to tell me I look "rough" or like a "crack head"

    I know I am suppose to not care cause he is an idiot but it doesnt take the sting away.....

    You are a hottie and he is just mad cause he can't have you. Screw the loser. Better yet, pray for him that he gets some self confidence and grows up. You are beautiful and amazing darling.
  • AMOMONAJOURNEYTOCHANGEHERLIFE
    AMOMONAJOURNEYTOCHANGEHERLIFE Posts: 170 Member
    First of all congrats! And I love the pics of your kidos and you in your pants! I hope that's me soon. That was really cute.


    Your BIL sucks. Too bad you can't pick your own in laws huh?
  • Kath15
    Kath15 Posts: 165 Member
    You look fabulous and worked hard to get there -don't let anyone take that from you! Ignore his lame comments. He needs to grow up.
  • tiffanygil
    tiffanygil Posts: 478 Member
    Thanks everyone...You guys are so awesome and really do know how to bring a gal up. I'm better now sometimes you just gotta vent it out....

    I posted back

    "I have to say pudge that wasnt very nice...."

    He is over weight and 'Pudge" has been his nick name forever so I wasnt trying to be mean, just driving home the point. I usually dont call him pudge even if my husband and his wife does. My hubby did try to call him but he didnt answer..

    Thanks again to everyone yall all have a very special place in my heart :love:
  • david1956
    david1956 Posts: 190 Member
    You look absolutely hot, and your hubby is one lucky guy! I can see why you married the one with taste and not the BIL!
  • ChellieIrish
    ChellieIrish Posts: 593 Member
    Honestly I am in shock reading this he must either be very jealous or :noway: need glasses not to see how FABULOUS!!!! you look :love:

    I've seen your pics here and seriously you are an inspiration to a lot of us :flowerforyou:

    Be strong and know yourself what you have achieved A LOT!!! and be proud of it as I am sure your friends and the rest of your family have probably told you :heart:

    Let him live in his own glass bubble :laugh:

    Be strong and know that we are all here for you :heart:
  • Shayleah05
    Shayleah05 Posts: 17 Member
    Omg!! your brother in law is an idiot!! You look Great!! I have 87lbs to lose and have been overweight my whole life and seeing your before and after pictures and know you did that, gives me hope that i can do that to. So thank you for sharing you story here:)
  • luly727
    luly727 Posts: 202 Member
    OMG! ignore it, I looked at yr pics and u have done an incredible job!!!! You look fantastic , happy & Healthy !!!
    Congrats to you and yr Bil can blow smoke somewhere else LOL LOL
  • BetterVersion
    BetterVersion Posts: 459
    I think he just sounds like an outright idiot. *shrug* If he does NOT have an IQ below 100, then he's just outright hateful. Either way, don't you let his words bother you for a moment longer, because no one can know what this struggle has been like for you, and the fact is, most people will never do what you have done... and that's something no one, especially hateful idiots, can ever take away from you.
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