Eating healthy on weekends with boyfriend

ashleyeatsbetter

I can eat decently healthy every weekday and semi healthy on Saturday but on Sunday when I go to my guys house we eat too much and eat out and drink lots of beer. I can limit my alcohol but how do I get us eating healthier?

LushFix

Cook at home. Its somthing you could do together. Pick a recipe within your calorie and nutritional goals and make a date night of it.

arditarose

I bank some calories so that I can be a little more free when I'm with my boyfriend on the weekend. So if I shave off 100 calories per day during the week, I can eat closer to maintenance on Saturday and still lose weight. I still have to be pretty mindful even to stay at maintenance calories though. I can usually order from wherever or eat whatever he cooks, but might have to make some adjustments (no rice, less carb, more veg, no sauce, etc) to help me stay at goal.

Sabine_Stroehm

A healthy life together starts with a healthy lifestyle together. Start new rituals, new hobbies, new "we do" activities.
Walk to breakfast or brunch. Walk to coffee. Walk to the market to buy food that you cook together. Garden. Do things together that grow you and make you both healthier.

fishshark

i bank calories for the weekends and enjoy life to the fullest.

miss_aims

The key is planning! Decide whether or not you want to go out or cook something at home (we do a combination of the two). If you're wanting to go out, make a plan and stick to it.

My boyfriend and I are major wing fanatics, and we wanted wings this weekend. We counted calories, figured out what we could afford, and enjoyed a great dinner within our calorie limits. We didn't feel stuffed, and we still enjoyed ourselves.

I like utilizing my crock pot because it takes a lot of time out of prep work and it's easy to count the calories, we figure out what we're in the mood for and run with it. He joined MFP with me and it makes it SO MUCH EASIER when we're on the same page. Plus, the support is really what helps keep me going.

pomegranatecloud

Drink less, cook instead of going out to eat, make better food choices when eating out, and control your portions.

brb_2013

I had an adjustment period when moving in with my now husband, and I still struggle because he can eat so much more than I can. It's tough but it comes down to making the tough choices and saying no/suggesting alternatives when the options don't fit into your calorie allowance.

Shawshankcan

Does he want to eat healthier?

ashleyeatsbetter

Shawshankcan wrote: »

Does he want to eat healthier?

He would probably like to but he doesn't really focus on eating healthy

mbaker566

grill food, eat salads, or be active so that the calorie bombs aren't that horrible

perkymommy

ashleyeatsbetter wrote: »

I can eat decently healthy every weekday and semi healthy on Saturday but on Sunday when I go to my guys house we eat too much and eat out and drink lots of beer. I can limit my alcohol but how do I get us eating healthier?

Just plan on having what you need to eat in the fridge and eat it while he eats what he wants when at home. When going out of house to eat look up menus online before heading out or be sure to pick the lowest calorie foods you can while there. As far as drinking, don't do it. It's your life and your body, your choice. But he can continue to do what he wants. If he doesn't support you then I would re-think the relationship.

bscmcse

If I know I'm going out, I take a few minutes and pull up the menu online and pick my meal in advance. It helps me to easily order without the temptation. I also tend not to eat bread or apps since I have already made up my mind on what I'm going to eat. Sometimes I even pre-log it to keep me honest. As for the alcohol, the best thing that I've come up with is to abstain (how boring, but I feel good in the morning ).

ashleyeatsbetter

perkymommy wrote: »

ashleyeatsbetter wrote: »

I can eat decently healthy every weekday and semi healthy on Saturday but on Sunday when I go to my guys house we eat too much and eat out and drink lots of beer. I can limit my alcohol but how do I get us eating healthier?

Just plan on having what you need to eat in the fridge and eat it while he eats what he wants when at home. When going out of house to eat look up menus online before heading out or be sure to pick the lowest calorie foods you can while there. As far as drinking, don't do it. It's your life and your body, your choice. But he can continue to do what he wants. If he doesn't support you then I would re-think the relationship.

Oh he definitely supports me! He tries to keep me on track even when I fall off!

crazymama2both

OR in the alternative, because I LOVE to eat allll the things, you could do an activity together that has you earning calories so you can eat what you want...like hiking. I use hiking as an example because that's what we do. I started the hiking thing a couple of years ago and it's stuck and now we take the kids out with us on every nice weekend weather wise. So an hour of hitting the trails logs you some exercise and now you have wiggle room to get something you want without depriving yourself.

fishshark

crazymama2both wrote: »

OR in the alternative, because I LOVE to eat allll the things, you could do an activity together that has you earning calories so you can eat what you want...like hiking. I use hiking as an example because that's what we do. I started the hiking thing a couple of years ago and it's stuck and now we take the kids out with us on every nice weekend weather wise. So an hour of hitting the trails logs you some exercise and now you have wiggle room to get something you want without depriving yourself.

yup to this!

Ims0

ashleyeatsbetter wrote: »

I can eat decently healthy every weekday and semi healthy on Saturday but on Sunday when I go to my guys house we eat too much and eat out and drink lots of beer. I can limit my alcohol but how do I get us eating healthier?

Hey Ashley, I completely understand where you're coming from. I live with my boyfriend so it's even more difficult (although he recently started logging and cutting as well!), because even without me cutting calories he can still eat more than I can. What really works for both of us is to try and work what we want into our daily allowance. If we want to go out for ice cream on the weekends, we log it and make it work calorie-wise.

Another thing I often do is still have the foods I want but in smaller quantities. Whereas way back when I'd have two burgers and some sides, I now make just one, grilled, with wholemeal bread and only a little bit of cheese, with oven-baked sweet potato fries on the side. This is a meal that, when I make it, is under 500 calories and incredibly satisfying!

I find that when eating with others it might sometimes just be easier to focus on portions rather than content. This way you can make a nice, somewhat indulgent meal, but be flexible enough to allow him to eat more, have a different side, etc.

Shawshankcan

ashleyeatsbetter wrote: »

Shawshankcan wrote: »

Does he want to eat healthier?

He would probably like to but he doesn't really focus on eating healthy

The "probably" makes me think it is more your idea than his. If he doesn't want to, you can't make him. He may support you, but in the end this is your endeavor, not his.

Angocean

I have a smiliar problem. During the week I try to go to the gym and make healthy eating decisions. But I stay at my boyfriends house on the weekends and we only eat junk. Seeing as that's all that is at his place (mostly frozen, processed, unhealthy things). When food is prepared, it's also pretty unhealthy (instant potatoes, shake and bake chicken, lasagna, etc). His mom does most of the cooking so I feel like I can't special request. Literally there's no fruits, veggies or anything I can replace with. Any suggestions?

Pinkylee77

offer to cook and try to make some unprocessed things

enterdanger

I also try to find unfood and booze related things to do on date night...It's frickin hard because all the best social moments in my life have occurred with food or booze, but we are working on it.