Lost 30 but it found me again!

angelwrupp

Mom of 3. I am always cheering and helping others with issues and putting myself last. I am looking for friends to encourage me and keep me accountable. I lost 30 pounds 6 years ago with weight watchers and trying to do it on my own now. I am my own worst enemy! This is sooo difficult to ask for help, and how does a stranger give support without knowing that person? So, here I am reaching out. I guess it can't hurt. I am a great at encouraging and motivating others but I loathe myself and only speak negatively of my body. Why can't I accept myself for how I look and who I've become. Can I ever be HAPPY being me?

AtmaKing

Its like being a lifeboat for the Titanic right? You want to save everyone and because of it you've started to sink yourself. Here is the thing, you cannot save everyone on the Titanic in a life boat. You require a boat as big if not bigger.

So your priority now must shift from if I'm to be able to help people I must have a stronger foundation of ME first.

I have a sign for my daughter in her room because she was having some attitude problems it says, "Attitude is everything, Pick a good one." You know what eventually when she started seeing it (yes I for a while made her read it everyday) she started to change for the better.

I propose to you a similar sign. "Thought process is everything, What process do I need to accomplish today's goals?"

The other thing is make plan, and stay consistent. The old saying a watched pot never boils applies to weight loss. Make a Plan, follow the plan, come back later to check the results don't stress over them daily because you'll never see them that way.

angelwrupp

Thank you so much for taking the time to reAch out to me. I'm ready to change but I might need a friend to turn to

Velotarian

Hey angelwrupp. I know just how you feel - the last time I logged on here a couple of years ago I was down to 145 pounds (I'm 5' 7"), having lost almost 60 pounds in total. Now, after a hard year where I've been making bad food choices and literally hiding from the weighing scales I've decided to log back in. I had gained back over 25 pounds of what I'd worked so hard to lose before.

It can be so disheartening, feeling like weight loss is a constant battle, like you can never just lose the weight and forget about it and live contentedly for the rest of your life - but for some of us, that's just how it is, it takes constant work.

The fact that you've logged on here and reached out is a positive step - for you and your body. Deciding to do something about how you feel about your body is a very powerful thing, you should feel proud and determined, and most importantly, in control. You have lost the weight before, you can do it again if you so choose, you are in control of it. So now you have to stop the self-loathing and feel good in the knowledge that you're taking steps in the right direction, to take care of your body, and that you've got it in you to do it.

I feel so much better having just spent a week tracking my food, it's reminded me that I can eat well and lose weight when I watch what I eat and take care of myself, and it's also reminded me of how much happier I am when I'm eating well and how satisfying it is to see the pounds slip away.

Losewtforlife4him

Hi. I know how you feel. I've been there many times to count. It can feel so frustrating to lose the weight only to put it back on again. My frustrations and worry are that I feel like what's the use? But I've prayed about this because to me that's just the enemy of our souls (stupid devil) trying to get us down. Jesus says that we can do ALL things through Him who strengthens us. I will choose to believe this because he's proven that true time and again. I will pray right now for you to know Jesus and his power in you as you allow him. I know this isn't a religious or Christian site but I believe our bodies are made physically (obviously), emotionally, mentally, spiritually, and sexually because our God is a Creator like that!
So...yes, I've done weight watchers years ago and lost 20 lbs and was at my lowest. I gained that back. I did my fitness pal and lost about the same and gained. I'm a stress eater, love food during happy and sad times. I was miraculously healed by a brain tumor a few years ago. I gained lots of weight from the steroids I was on. I lost that weight but then the weight started to come back on this past year...my own doing. Beach trip...Krispy cream donuts, eating tortilla chips (one too many!), a cruise with family, etc. I couldn't say no to eating and let it control me. I got up to 168 lbs and since actively doing myfitness pal since Jan. weighing and measuring my food, and daily exercise, I'm down to 145.6 as of yesterday. I am committed this time realizing that the weight can so easily be regained but I will take control this time with God's help. I will make choices to be nutrient rich and filling foods. It seems like I am able to eat much more now. I even eat an occasional mcds ice cream cone if calories permit. I don't and won't deprive myself of yummy foods but I have made an honest choice to not eat heavily sugared foods such as cake and buttercream frosting except for one piece rarely! That gets me and seems to make me crave more sugar. I've also used almond or coconut flour in quiches and pies or cakes. That helps me too! I'm using swerve or truvia for my sweetners and instead of honey or maple syrup, those sweetners. I could still use those other sweetners as well because they really aren't unhealthy in a normal serving but I like to save up my calories.
I say all of this to encourage you. It is not easy I know this. My family can testify to you! But the rewards of doing it and not turning back are so good. God came to give us life through Jesus and the dumb devil came to steal and take away from us. Speak out to him and tell him no. He has nothing on you because Jesus was victorious when he overcame the grave and he's the same victorious King who has the power to help you in your weight loss struggle. I say this because I know. He's helped me in so many areas of my life. Too many to count. Blessings to you my friend who I don't know. I will pray for you right now!

angelwrupp

WoW! Thank you so much! I have restarted again! And I will continue to look at your post for thoughts and encouragement. You my friend have made a difference! God bless you and your family!!

angelwrupp

You are right! Thank you for helping me realize that reaching out for to others is important. I was scared and embarrassed to admit I am out of control and can't fix my situation myself. Thank you for your time and support. It's amazing that their are kind people like yourself out there to give encouragement. Thank you so much

WalkingQueen1979

Feel free to add me I know the problem of yoyo dieting

Losewtforlife4him

angelwrupp wrote: »

WoW! Thank you so much! I have restarted again! And I will continue to look at your post for thoughts and encouragement. You my friend have made a difference! God bless you and your family!!

angelwrupp wrote: »

You are right! Thank you for helping me realize that reaching out for to others is important. I was scared and embarrassed to admit I am out of control and can't fix my situation myself. Thank you for your time and support. It's amazing that their are kind people like yourself out there to give encouragement. Thank you so much

You are so welcome and if God kept me alive to just encourage you to not give up, I'm thankful for that. I have found that when I start to feel a binge come on, just change my settings to maintenance and then I don't feel the guilt of eating more. I try not to do this often but I have because it's just what happens sometimes. I don't beat myself up knowing that I will change my settings right back the next day! This has to be lifestyle for me so I will need to change my calories around somewhat from time to time and I've still managed to lose and not gain so that's reassuring. There are weeks I don't lose anything and I'm fine with that...I'm not gaining. So...I hope this finds you keeping on and learning how to do this weight loss thing again. You can do it! If I can, you can!! God bless.

dlkfox

Add me as a friend if you'd like.