Anyone else hate having sex and going out because of their weight?

idreamskinny85
idreamskinny85 Posts: 38 Member
in Motivation and Support
I stand at 186lbs, 5ft8. I am almost 60lbs from where I want to be. I feel so disgusted with myself that I don't want to go out or have sex with my boyfriend. Like, I feel so sorry for him that he has to see me naked. I have gained so much weight and having issues getting it off. Anyone in the same boat????

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  • RespectTheKitty
    RespectTheKitty Posts: 1,667 Member
    I was that way with my boyfriend (we just broke up, so he's technically not my boyfriend anymore). I hate being naked because of my weight, and I feel like anyone who sees me naked is going to run away screaming. My boyfriend insisted that he thought I looked fine, but I never believed him...
  • ValerieMartini2Olives
    ValerieMartini2Olives Posts: 3,024 Member
    Even when I was 280-300 pounds, I never felt too fat for sex. I always had great sex.

    However, without being that big now, my sex is better and I get way hotter guys.
  • enterdanger
    enterdanger Posts: 2,447 Member
    NO. I always like having sex. You can turn the lights off if you're self conscious. It's fun in the dark too, you know.

    The going out thing only makes me want to avoid if my hubs wants to go somewhere with lots of beer and calorific food. I've got minimal will power in social settings.
  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    edited April 2016
    If it's any consolation I'm at a slim weight but I'd be too uncomfortable about myself to want to have sex with anyone. If I had the choice I mean. I guess the lesson is self-esteem and weight loss are not necessarily linked. So working on how you feel about yourself now might be best so you aren't waiting for it to catch up with your weight loss when you get to a weight you're happy with. Happy humping.
  • mawdestmeri
    mawdestmeri Posts: 19 Member
    I only had an issue when I was heavier and with the wrong person...because there were obvious emotional barriers that translated in body image issues. But, once I ditched dude sexytime was/is super important no matter my imperfections (and I have a ton!)

    Here's a secret...it doesn't really matter what you look like, it matters what you feel like and how you make them feel. He is just happy he is touching a naked woman and if he is your BF he is glad it is you! I promise you. If you believe you are sexy and sexable, he will think you are sexy and sexable. Get some confidence bc there is an azz for every seat...and you are someone's flavor just the way you are. And for those you are not, it doesn't matter!

    If it bothers you a ton, just keep doing what you are doing to get to your happy path. Remind yourself, "It's hard to feel bad about a body you take care of".

    And girl, you are fly. So, go pamper yourself, buy some new makeup or a new outfit, drink some wine, put on some Teddy Pendergrass, and let your Freaky Friday Flag show.
  • Scamd83
    Scamd83 Posts: 808 Member
    edited April 2016
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  • Shh_niqua
    Shh_niqua Posts: 106 Member
    This is how I am. Once I get over a certain weight I get so uncomfortable and have such low self confidence that I can't enjoy sex with my husband (we've been married almost 8 years and he's seen me at 145 lbs and as heavy as 250 lbs so honestly he does NOT care) and we have a VERY healthy sex life....at least once a day if not more but if I get over 165 lbs BAM I don't want sex at ALL

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