You can't eat that!

ummijaaz560

So many people actually believe that one must starve themselves while trying to lose weight. Yesterday I made a coffee crumb cake that was on the counter cooling. My sister in law comes by and smells the cinnamon glory wafting through the house.
She asks what's that delicious smell? I said I made a coffee crumb cake and I can't wait to taste it. "Oh did you give up already? Because you can't eat that!
Why can't I? Because you're on a diet right? I'm fine don't worry I say, not feeling like explaining it's accounted for because it's not like she'll believe me. Smh, I purposely took a giant bite and watched her head explode like those jet commercials
Is there a way you explain to ppl I don't have to starve and can eat what I want within my calories? Or do you just ignore it?

Rocknut53

That's why I don't tell people I'm doing this. When they notice I've lost they always ask, "how much?" and I reply, "a few pounds."

booksandchocolate12

I just ignore it. It doesn't matter to me what other people do or believe.

If people get pushy with me, I'll push back, but that doesn't happen that often.

lizzy_satellite

You already said it - "I don't have to starve and can eat what I want within my calories". If people can't wrap their heads around that simple statement, it's their issue!

ummijaaz560

I haven't directly said I'm dieting to anyone. They all have noticed my weight loss, or have seen my new gym equipment set up in my dining room.
And for goodness sakes don't I dare pass on a meal from the food pushers. The "are you on a diet" questions start flying.

shabaity

Food pushers make me so glad that most of my family can't cook. The only ones who would notice are my co workers and most just brush it off as being tired of smelling the food we make

StrongAndHealthyMommy

I would of done the same. Usually I take a little extra and say uummmmm yummy yummy. And take another bite and laugh

Maxematics

Unfortunately most people losing weight or trying to be fit in general will hear this from time to time. I'm 5'3.5" and 110 pounds. A certain coworker reminds me I need to keep a "womanly" figure constantly. Whenever there is cake at work, she will say "Oh, but YOU don't/can't eat stuff like THAT!" and my response is always "Oh, I can/do and I will!" as I cut a nice sized piece and eat it. I try to be civil to keep the peace, but sometimes it's annoying. I think subconsciously certain people want to believe that deprivation is the only way to be successful with regard to weight loss/physical health. That way they don't have to take responsibility for their own shortcomings while simultaneously trying to instill guilt in others to feel better about themselves.

ummijaaz560

It's funny how no one ever told me what I couldn't eat when my meal plate was enough for 3 people. No one gave a crap.

kommodevaran

synacious wrote: »

Unfortunately most people losing weight or trying to be fit in general will hear this from time to time. I'm 5'3.5" and 110 pounds. A certain coworker reminds me I need to keep a "womanly" figure constantly. Whenever there is cake at work, she will say "Oh, but YOU don't/can't eat stuff like THAT!" and my response is always "Oh, I can/do and I will!" as I cut a nice sized piece and eat it. I try to be civil to keep the peace, but sometimes it's annoying. I think subconsciously certain people want to believe that deprivation is the only way to be successful with regard to weight loss/physical health. That way they don't have to take responsibility for their own shortcomings while simultaneously trying to instill guilt in others to feel better about themselves.

I truly believed that thin people never eat cake. They just pose with cake. It's just that when I eat cake, I eat the whole cake, and I'll eat cake every day, and I'll also eat large amounts of chips, ice cream and chocolate. Eating lots of sweets makes me lethargic. Thin people don't usually eat the whole cake, and when they eat chips, they don't also eat lots of ice cream, candy and chips, at least not without moving more, a lot more, or skipping meals, to compensate.

For me, it was just a disconnect. At last understanding dosage and frequency and totals, I have no trouble keeping to my calorie goal (most of the time).

AspenDan

I get that crap all the time at work..people see me eating "clean" foods so often that when I do have mac n cheese or reeces or whatever, they give me sht, and say I'm being bad..dude, back off, I lost this weight by myself, and I don't need your opinions lol.

arniedog74

I never tell anyone what I'm doing as far as trying to lose weight. No one thinks I need to lose. It's not up to them. I may not be terribly over weight, but I am uncomfortable with myself. So, I just do what I want and keep my mouth shut. They notice that I don't eat all the junk that is brought into work. But, they have no idea I'm actually trying to lose weight. I also don't say anything, because I always have the struggle of giving up. If they don't know I'm trying, they can't give me crap when I quit.

lemonychild

Lol their eyes almost bulging out when they see me with ice cream everyday ...

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upoffthemat

I have stopped caring what others think about my food choices. I used to binge and hide what I ate from people all the time, now I just eat what I choose to eat. For the most part people are actually more concerned about having food I will eat available and when I tell them I will manage they seem surprised.

PaulaWallaDingDong

ummijaaz560 wrote: »

[snip]

"Oh did you give up already?"

[snip]

That right there is worthy of a busted lip. (just because I'm a pacifist, it doesn't mean I don't feel rage.)

ummijaaz560

PaulaWallaDingDong wrote: »

ummijaaz560 wrote: »

[snip]

"Oh did you give up already?"

[snip]

That right there is worthy of a busted lip. (just because I'm a pacifist, it doesn't mean I don't feel rage.)

I can't even with that shade she tried to throw in!
I'm going to let her believe I've given up until she sees me at goal.

STEVE142142

My opinion that's why diets don't work. Diets have a negative connotation and you're constantly sacrificing something you enjoy. I've been on diets before and had a miserable time and that's why I failed.

What I've begun is a lifestyle change we are on educating myself on how much and what to eat.
More than anything I've become accountable to myself because I don't want to go back.

Make a long story short I went on vacation ate too much drink too much one month later I'm down 10 and a half pounds from before I went on vacation. Enjoy the crumb cake cuz I've been enjoyed it myself on this journey everything in moderation.

newheavensearth

No one has ever said that to me because I eat almost whatever I want but they still see me losing or maintaining. They also know that I exercise like a mad woman, so the assumption is that I burn off everything I eat, therefore I get to eat what I want. Totally not true. If it's a special occasion, I do extra before and after to earn some wiggle room. If it's a treat, I plan for it. If it's a suprise treat and I really want it, I cut back elsewhere.

All my friends are into juicing and they can't wrap their heads around permanent weight loss being a lifestyle change. They think I'm crazy for still doing this instead of just crash dieting for swimsuit season and that I'm punishing myself. This is how it is for me, I'm used to it, and I've accepted that this does not have to be punishment and deprivation. I'd rather eat 1300 calories of good food than drink 1300 calories of green juice and be crabby.

nuttynanners

My boyfriend knows not to question me. He knows that I carefully consider what I eat.

My friends, however, don't have a clue. When they ask me why I'm not getting a 3am food truck sandwich with them, I just say "No thanks, I'm good"... because otherwise I'd sound judgemental.

miss_ek

I went through the same thing with my weight loss journey and simply I make it clear. you can eat WHATEVER you want its HOW Much you eat.

Owlie45

A friend did that to me once. I was having McDonalds and after I finished my meal I went and got a Oreo mcflurry. And she said I thought you wanted to lose weight? I responded with I do and I am. She just gave me a skeptical look. The next day was my weigh in day. Had lost 2 pounds that week. When I saw her later that day I told her. She never bothered me about my food choices again.

arniedog74

nuttynanners wrote: »

My boyfriend knows not to question me. He knows that I carefully consider what I eat.

My friends, however, don't have a clue. When they ask me why I'm not getting a 3am food truck sandwich with them, I just say "No thanks, I'm good"... because otherwise I'd sound judgemental.

My boyfriend doesn't see the point. He loves me the way I am. Which I am incredibly thankful for. But, it makes it difficult when he can eat an entire King Size Hershey bar and not gain a pound and he keeps offering me more and more. I say no thanks. He just doesn't get it.

CoffeeNCardio

I'm quite proud of my insufferable know-it-all rep. I tell whoever asks exactly what I'm doing and how I'm doing it and what my results have been. But I'm also cool with myself (not implying anyone else isn't), so when or if they choose not to believe me, I would seriously have to put in actual effort to give a #$%^.

I mean, my thought is, this is science. I wouldn't not tell someone that the earth isn't flat, or that the sun revolves around US or sickness is caused by germs and not demons or something. The evidence is 100% on my side. LAW of thermodynamics. I feel very self-assured that way and so I have no problem talking to people about it or outright telling them "Hey, sorry, but that thing you just said is BS, and here's the science why."

I mean, I'm not a jerk about it, I'm nice, and I try to empathize with them 'cause chances are they're just regurgitating lies they themselves were told, it's not like they have some sort of ill intent or malicious motivation here. The world is chock full of deceivers and the deceived, and the second part is who you most often get so there's no reason to be nasty about it. But I feel responsible to "go upright and vital, and speak the rude truth in all ways" so to speak. I just can't help myself. I try to maintain the balance by at least acknowledging my know-it-all-ness and kindly shutting up when people ask me to:)

ACSL3

kommodevaran wrote: »

synacious wrote: »

Unfortunately most people losing weight or trying to be fit in general will hear this from time to time. I'm 5'3.5" and 110 pounds. A certain coworker reminds me I need to keep a "womanly" figure constantly. Whenever there is cake at work, she will say "Oh, but YOU don't/can't eat stuff like THAT!" and my response is always "Oh, I can/do and I will!" as I cut a nice sized piece and eat it. I try to be civil to keep the peace, but sometimes it's annoying. I think subconsciously certain people want to believe that deprivation is the only way to be successful with regard to weight loss/physical health. That way they don't have to take responsibility for their own shortcomings while simultaneously trying to instill guilt in others to feel better about themselves.

I truly believed that thin people never eat cake. They just pose with cake. It's just that when I eat cake, I eat the whole cake, and I'll eat cake every day, and I'll also eat large amounts of chips, ice cream and chocolate. Eating lots of sweets makes me lethargic. Thin people don't usually eat the whole cake, and when they eat chips, they don't also eat lots of ice cream, candy and chips, at least not without moving more, a lot more, or skipping meals, to compensate.

For me, it was just a disconnect. At last understanding dosage and frequency and totals, I have no trouble keeping to my calorie goal (most of the time).

That's what I always thought too. Then I would watch my boss eat the dessert they have at the cafeteria every day at lunch and think to myself "that's totally not fair" as I ate my lunch that I brought from home and tried not to look at the dessert table. Then I really paid attention to what she ate for lunch (in a non-creepy way haha ) and realized how little the rest of her lunch was. I don't know what she eats for breakfast, but I've seen her dinner a few times when we've got out for work-outings and it's again a normal-to-small portion size. Then it clicked.

She's one of the few people at work that does actually know I'm working on losing weight and she's actually really nice about it. She looks at what I bring for lunch and always makes a positive comment about it. I don't tell many others because I know I'll get reactions like some of the rest of you have commented about. I just told her randomly one day when we were talking about running, so I'm glad she's not like most other people.