Words Hurt or do they?

becbec777

It's always a " warm fuzzy feeling" you the closest ones to you in your life are also your source of pain and anger. Being told negative things about your body image can boil anyone's blood and ignite hurtful feelings if you haven't come to terms with yourself as to where you are and need to be on your weightless journey. Yes, I heard hurtful comments but have decided to ignore the idiot and uttered words and just keep reminding myself that one day they will eat those words when I'm in a bikini. How do you self motivate when face with negativity?

lizzelspark

Yes they do hurt but use that in a positive way and get to where you feel good about yourself that it doesn't matter what people say because in some sence it's usually true that's why we get hurt im talking about myself when I say that

tulips_and_tea

If someone says something to you to deliberately be hurtful it speaks volumes about them and nothing about you. Disregard, as you stated. Don't even let those words take up space in your head. Too many other good, positive, and pleasant things to think about.

However, if it happens regularly I'd have a blunt conversation with them and shut them down. Then I'd have no contact with them if at all possible.

lizzelspark

I have spent years people asking me when I was due when I wasn't pregnant it hurt to hear it but wasn't there fault so finally I decided I'm going to do something about instead of eating more I slowly started changing my habits and today I get people asking me if I'm a trainer I'm not bragging but just telling you how important it is to feel good about yourself don't let anyone get you down they are probably trying to help you but don't realize it hurts

2011rocket3touring

My wife called me Shamu a long time ago. It cut. She said it was a term of affection.

rosebarnalice

BZAH10 wrote: »

If someone says something to you to deliberately be hurtful it speaks volumes about them and nothing about you. Disregard, as you stated. Don't even let those words take up space in your head. Too many other good, positive, and pleasant things to think about.

However, if it happens regularly I'd have a blunt conversation with them and shut them down. Then I'd have no contact with them if at all possible.

THIS.

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Actual things I have said to people:

• "I don't know how you intended me to to take that comment you just made, but I feel that I should tell you that it hurt my feelings"
• "I'm taking you off of 'fat cop' duty. Please turn in your badge."
• "Wow! I'm overweight and have bat wings! Thanks for pointing that out to me! I wouldn't have known otherwise. Way to watch my back, girlfriend."
• "I don't like the way you make me feel about myself, so I think I'll leave now."