Are you ever embarrased?

rldeclercq4

laur357 wrote: »

I finally admitted to my mother how much my highest weight was because I was so happy I was finally back in the 100s, though I felt uncomfortable doing it. It was too hard to be vague about leaving the 200s behind.

I recently told my family, after I'd checked in at 299, that I'd started at 367. This was a shock to all of them as they knew I was big but not to what degree. It was pretty hard telling them all, I actually broke down in tears when I told my brothers. But I have all of their support to never get that way again.

snowflake930

Not embarrassed to admit it on MFP, but I have never told anyone else the exact amount I have lost.
It is embarrassing to admit I let myself get to the weight I was (290), but I am eager to tell anyone that asks that I have been maintaining at 130 (give or take a few pounds, mostly take) for 30 months.

Quasita

When I still believed that I was disgusting 24/7, I was embarrassed to talk about it. Sometimes, I still feel that way... admitting that feeling is what brought my boy person and I closer together, actually But nowadays, I am defiant.

I'm still fat, and I still get lots of rude comments from people... But my 100+lbs gone has given me something I didn't have before, which is knowing that it is hard but it can be done, and that your body doesn't look like great change even if you have MADE great change. So now I proudly talk about where I was and where I am, and how much I've lost... People often say they don't believe me, and I get on my scale that shouts it out loud just to prove that yes, I *am* over 400lbs still. Why? Because there are so many people out there still struggling with feeling like the fight is worth it and that they can be loved as they are right now... So many people still distracted by the fact that they need to lose 300lbs, so much so that they don't let themselves celebrate when they lose 2lbs. This world is so mean, I cannot continue to be mean to myself and expect my psychological results to change alongside my body change.

You can take off all the pounds in the world but if you cannot be proud of how hard you've worked to make that happen... which does require honesty about the starting point, the downfalls, the wins and the losses... I suspect you'll never find the satisfaction you're seeking in the end results. I may be taking the long road to get to my goal but I really want to arrive there with the mindset of happiness, and not be trying to hide who I once was in some semblance of a guise to convince people that I never was that person.

Josh_lol

I wouldn't say embarrassed but I often never really tell people. I've had a few people tell me they've seen the weight I've lost but unless they ask me how much I've lost, I never really say anything.

Is that just me not knowing how to be proud of my achievements or just being humble?

yusaku02

I've never been embarrassed (online or in person) about what I weight now (172), what I used to weigh (200) or how much I lost* (46).

*I've intentionally put on weight while lifting so the used to weigh number minus the weight lost doesn't equal my current weight

erockem

I tell everyone where I started, where I was during, where I ended. The up's and down's. The failures the triumphs. What I've learned. Where I'm going now. I do it in hopes it gives someone else the motivation to start.

Ready2Rock206

I would never give the actual number - except on here. If people ask me how much I've lost I either say "some" or "a little".

chel325

I don't care at all. My body has changed so much in the last few months that I feel a little disassociated with it at the moment so when I speak about it it's as if I'm speaking about a separate entity.

That's a weird way of putting it but no, I'm proud of how far I've come and I know I will get to the end.

2011rocket3touring

enterdanger wrote: »

Unfortunately, I think I have a character defect where I don't feel embarrassed about anything. ...

..it's not a character defect, it's a gift.

agzram

What I'm more embarrassed about is that I walked around at my before picture for 10ish years of my life.

I felt terrible because of the 100+ extra pounds I was lugging around and I looked terrible too. I'm still hoping to get down another 30 pounds and and then I'll finally be out of the "overweight" BMI and firmly into the "normal" range. I'm slowing my loss down now that I've been at it 9 months and focusing more on my fitness goals and truly maintaining this new and improved lifestyle.

MissusMoon

There is no right or wrong way to feel about this. It's very personal.

amanda_deanne

jen_bush wrote: »

I tell people how much I lose, but never how much I weigh... my boyfriend only found out the other day after a year of us living together. It's nobody's business after all

My husband doesn't even know my weight. He's seen me give birth twice, but he's never seen the number on the scale. He knows when I gain or lose and how much, but I agree it's no one's business. And he's never asked.

Afura

The first time I participated in a MFP group challenge and had to put down my weight was huge hurdle to do. To people I don't really know I'll say how much I lost, but not how much I weigh now.

Smile72

I don't feel embarrassed. I'm just selective on who I disclose my weight loss success to. I'm a w.i.p (work in progress); with that said, I've seen the scale go up and down along this journey and only I am accountable for it. I know who my true supporters are as for all others, thanks for the compliments, but no need for me to go in to extensive details. Not every one celebrates another person's success.

peacemongernc

Ah, vanity! Yes! I don't mind telling people how much I've lost, but I usually pause and get brave a second before I mention what I weigh. That is much easier now that I'm under 180 than when I was over 200! I've lost about 124 pounds, as of today.

But the really silly thing is how I came up with my goal weight. When MFP wanted me to choose a goal, I was 304 pounds. It was far too offensive to me to think I weighed twice what I should. I really thought I should put about 150 to 155. I put 164, exactly 140 pounds less, because it was close, but less than 50% of my current weight.

The interesting thing is that as I get closer, it is looking like 164 might actually be a pretty good place to stop, but I'll have to see. I'm 15 pounds away, and I'll decide when I get there.

elisa123gal

It is your personal choice. I don't have that much weight to lose..but I'd be worried I'd be branded the "former fat" girl if i disclosed to people i used to weigh 100 or more pounds. Why put the picture in their head and define yourself as an old self you left behind? I'd never mention it.. our society is silently biased and judgmental of overweight people to begin with. And you are no longer that person so why focus on that.

KevFit413

This is for you, not for them. I wouldn't be embarrassed about that, no matter how many pounds. Each pound you lost was a result of hard work and dedication. Be proud of what you've done.

Madwife2009

When I first started to lose weight, I was too embarrassed to admit to ANYONE how heavy I was. My husband didn't know, nor did anyone in my family. I was too embarrassed to admit how much I needed to lose at that point.

However, now I have lost 65% of what I call my "excess baggage" I am more than happy to talk about what I used to weigh and what I've lost. Including my family. I don't tell anyone how much more I have to go as that's my business. I am very proud of my achievements as far as a healthier lifestyle goes and will happily discuss the changes I have made with anyone who is interested. It does make me sad though, that they all expect me to come up with some miracle weight-loss scheme - the minute I mention "eat less, move more" the eyes usually glaze over . . .

jennypapage

I actually feel proud when i tell people how much i've lost. I'm embarassed only by the fact that i let myself get heavy.

caguitare

I have been committed to getting the weight off since the new year but have to admit I am wavering trying to stay on track and looking to grow my MFP buddy list so if anyone is looking to have and to give a little motivation please friend me!

LORRIE22

I lose weight 1 year at a time. I start a new diet every January 1. I set a goal for December 31. Last year I lost 35 pounds. The year before it was a 20 pound loss. When I told all my chubby friends.... they ALL abandoned me. One sent me very nasty text messages... LOL ... DIET is a 4 letter word to them.

So I joined a couple of social clubs right away and made a slew of new and thinner friends within a week. I haven't told any of them about my former weight loss. So far this year I have lost 6 pounds... but I tell all my new friends I have lost 6 pounds in the last 4 months. Everyone is so very unimpressed! LOL! They don't think 6 pounds is worth talking about!

By the end of the year the number will be 20 to 35 pounds. And I'll be another size smaller. That will get their attention.. And I like my new friends much better. They are all positive and outgoing. Not like the Negative Nellies I was friends with over the last few years.

I'll never mention my total weight loss to anyone. It's no ones business but mine. But I do tell them I will be dieting for the next 2 years....and I've lost 6 pounds so far this year.

arditarose

Why on earth would you need to tell someone how much you have lost if you don't want to?

Once I was fit/in a healthy weight range I started not caring at all about the numbers. More people know how much I weight and have lost than I ever expected to know. I started dating again (like yesterday) and the guy asked for my Instagram account. I was a little nervous because he saw all my progress photos on there....weight loss, specific weights on certain days, tummy progress pics. But I have nothing to apologize for and he was nothing but sweet.

KrissaJane92

I was more shocked when I realized I used to be 375. I lost 70 pounds and look different. But now, my self esteem is climbing!

lorrpb

There is no need to tell people anything you're not comfortable saying.
You also have good insight that weight management is an area many of us will always have to give special attention to.

JeromeBarry1

I have found that telling people how much I've lost and how easy it has been with mfp has led to them deciding to lose weight by joining mfp. Embarrassed? No. It's a unique pleasure to have a really gorgeous young lady thank me for inspiring her to reach for her goal with purpose and patience.

beautifulwarrior18

nlevesque11887 wrote: »

Ok, I have a strange question. I've lost 178 lbs since December 2014. I still have about 75 more to go but I know I'll get there. For the first time in my life, I'm doing this for ME and that is what has made a difference. But, that being said, I'm embarrassed to admit to people the exact amount of weight I've lost and still need to lose. My dh knows as do a few other close friends but does anyone else have the same feelings?

Why tell people. It's none of their business.