Scared of failing.. again

CynthiaC88

I looked in the mirror today and noticed my face looked smaller.. but instead of feeling happy, I had a straight up anxiety attack. Anxiety that this isn't going to last.. Anxiety that yet again I'll *kitten* up and go back to my old ways. This on and off going cycle of weight loss and gaining madness has been apart of my life for as long as I can remember.. Who would I even be when I'm smaller? I hope the binger in me can stay away so I can figure it out.. Random chatter on a Friday night :-)

sandi_s

I am always scared of failing again

heidimathteacher

Remember that your value as a person has nothing to do with your weight and has nothing to do with your feelings of failure. A good friend reminds me of this frequently! Would you be someone different if you were smaller?

sunnybeaches105

Fear of failure can be a great motivator. Use it and slowly work on turning it into a drive to succeed.

JeromeBarry1

You will be you when you're smaller. Don't worry about being someone else. MFP is a learning tool, and when you learn to live as a person of less weight, it's just who you are.

nadinehof

CynthiaC88...Thank you for your honesty! I too have a fear of success in many areas of my personal and professional life. I discussed this with a friend and she suggested doing something new each day. Like eat 3 carrots at night and do 10 sit-ups at night...and document the small changes which start to be habit forming. Today I am going to start with this app and realize that it is one factor to my success. It's worked before so 'I'll just keep swimming'

x0lcbaby0x

CynthiaC88 wrote: »

I looked in the mirror today and noticed my face looked smaller.. but instead of feeling happy, I had a straight up anxiety attack. Anxiety that this isn't going to last.. Anxiety that yet again I'll *kitten* up and go back to my old ways. This on and off going cycle of weight loss and gaining madness has been apart of my life for as long as I can remember.. Who would I even be when I'm smaller? I hope the binger in me can stay away so I can figure it out.. Random chatter on a Friday night :-)

We can get through this together! Add me if you want!

STEVE142142

I think this is something we all experience the fear of going back to where we were.
What you have to do is find a personal why. Something totally selfish it can't be for the significant other it can't be for the kids it has to be for you. Once you find out why this becomes a piece of cake.

As far as who you become once you lose all the weight you'll decide that yourself. Personally I'll always see the fat man in the mirror even though everybody else tells me I look good now. What you have to realize is that you have to change your attitude about who you are. The hardest thing about life is learning to love ourselves in spite of our faults. Realize that you're worth it

haroldrios1692

If you give up completely then perhaps you've failed but not till then. A little soul searching in regards to why you need to achieve this goal might help you stick to it for life. Stay strong

TavistockToad

Are you seeing anyone to help with the anxiety?

ddgx300

I feel bad myself sometimes. I up and down a lot I like to eat. When I get sad I eat, when I get mad I eat, if I get happy you guessed it I eat. There are only two things that keep me from eating, 1 keeps a smile on my wifes face, and the other is playing music which I can't do constantly. The only advice is something I learned when I played football. You only fail, when you quit. No matter what win or lose, you get up and keep coming back. Stay with it its a journey I guess not a destination or some other cliché lol Good luck