Always falling off the wagon

stephmckee5

Hi there I am a 25 year old female . I am 5'3 225 pounds . I've tried so many different diets, fads and programs each one with more disappointment . I never seem to lose any weight the harder I try so I eventually give up . Any support or tips ?

queenliz99

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Vicxie86

This is my 2nd time trying to lose weight the normal way. I lost 40lbs between Nov 2013 - May 2014 but after losing my grandma, i lost all will & motivation, i tried to pump myself up but it just didnt work after that. I ended up gaining it all back and i kept saying "ok, next month" and next month never arrived. But on May 31st, i was like "ok, the month is here" and havent stopped since.

For me, i find that i only move when i want to, not because people are telling me i need to lose weight or because of a guy, those things do not motivate me at all. If you really want it, go get it. It's a struggle and it's not easy especially if you have a sweet tooth like mine (i finish ben & jerry ice creams tubs in a sitting) or maybe im just a pig, who knows. My siblings even sprung a "lets go out for dinner" on me yesterday outta nowhere but there was no way i was gonna be the only one not going and ended up eating over 1500kcal (thanks cookies & cream milkshake), i was over my daily intake by 800+ but i got home and worked that elliptical for an hour and woke up today with no weight change.

Even if its just aiming at losing 0.5lb a week, start from there and let your body adjust to it and see if you'd feel like increasing that. If you get the munchies like i do, eat an apple then drink plenty of water. I sometimes read the message boards and i find it occupies any extra time i might have spent thinking about food because there really are some interesting topics on here.

Good luck.

goldthistime

My best tip is to keep the experience enjoyable. Don't starve yourself (I'm happiest at 0.5lb/week), find exercises you like (not actually necessary for weight loss but huge for mood control for many, including me), and don't let falling off the wagon deter you. I fall off all the time. So long as I don't let it frustrate me, and I just keep going as though nothing happened, it doesn't matter one iota. In fact, there are times I wonder whether these "accidental refeeds" help in the long run. Go slow and enjoy the journey.

kommodevaran

Stop trying so hard, stop trying those diets and gimmicks - just set a reasonable calorie goal, weigh your food, log everything, and try to hit your goal every day.

cerise_noir

Maybe try to lose weight without a 'diet'. Diets make me fall off he wagon, too. Instead, eat the foods that you like, but weigh them on the scale and log them. Stay within your calories and you should be fine.
Yes, you can eat chocolate if you wish and still lose weight.

ninerbuff

There are no secret diets. You eat less than you burn. That's it. If you're COMMITTED to it, it will happen. If you're not, it won't.

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ziggy2006

Sometimes people have to fix their thinking about food in order to achieve long term success. I struggled with perfectionism, which led to a lot of distorted thinking when it came to my weight and food. While I was very successful at losing weight, I could never manage to maintain that loss until I addressed the underlying issues.

If you think that your thinking about weight, dieting, and food might be inaccurate, you might want to check out The Beck Diet Solution by Judith Beck or her newest book, The Diet Trap Solution, which she wrote with her daughter. These books do not contain a diet for you to follow; instead, they offer specific strategies and guide you to understand the causes behind your overeating.

MudderGrad

I'm sorry to hear that stephmckee5... Weight loss is not easy at all... It will take work and following a fad diet will NOT work at all. You will need to change your eating habits to include more whole foods and less junk. Yes, you can enjoy a treat from time to time but weight loss is about making life style changes over following a temporary diet.

I found a great article from 27 Weight Loss Experts who didn't agree on a specific diet for weight loss. However, they did agree about eating whole foods and making changes you can stick to. Check out what they said here: http://www.onesteptoweightloss.com/diets-that-work

TheHappyLoser

I am not an expert. As you can see I let myself go when I hit menopause and now I have to lose all the weight.

The word DIETmeans lifestyle. Please don't interpret the word with "starving" or "weight loss."

Your lifestyle will determine if you will successfully lose weight, or if you will gain weight.

I don't think that there are forbidden food. Everything in moderation. Don't try to starve yourself and don't follow miracle cures that promise you success.

There is no easy way out, no magic wand. You want change, then change!

I made a list of things I love to eat and a list of things that I should eat more often and now I have 1600 calories a day to play with. If you want fried chicken, then have one. We all know it's not healthy, but I think (please don't tar and feather me for saying this) you can have the food you love in moderation.

debtay123

ITA with all who said You must finds foods that you love and that work with your body- it takes time and determination and a willingness to ONLY lose a little weight at first- as for me my body does best with more fruits and veggies- especially veggies and i am enjoying learning new ones and how to prepare them- remember the old saying"if at first you don't succeed.........

debtay123

Muddergrad great article-lots of good information- thanks

R1rainbows

I have been off and on the wagon so many times. Fads, starvation, you name it I've probably tried it. The thing that finally worked for me was stopping to realize that it is not instant. It takes time, patience, and dedication. It was just over a month of meticulous calorie counting in conjunction with regular exercise when it finally started to happen for me and after that it was like magic. We must change our habits and our relationships with food and above all: be patient and stick to your plan and it WILL happen, I promise!

mazarasltm

You have to understand food (calories) and how you digest them (eating then sleeping is how sumo wrestlers gain weight). Its a math game. You lose weight if you burn (exercise) than eat period. You never stop exercising. Even if its a daily chincy 20 minute brisk walk (which i do all the time when the motivation slacks). Never deny yourself what you like (just control the portion and total daily intake). Multiple small meals (3-4 hrs). I eat pizza, suishi and beef patties, but never to excess. Emphasize protien (allow carbs more in AM - you'll burn it). I lose 1/2 to 4 lbs per month - no rush. Know which American food is poison - cut down portion, steer it to AM if you must indulge.

WBB55

mazarasltm wrote: »

You have to understand food (calories) and how you digest them (eating then sleeping is how sumo wrestlers gain weight). Its a math game. You lose weight if you burn (exercise) than eat period. You never stop exercising. Even if its a daily chincy 20 minute brisk walk (which i do all the time when the motivation slacks). Never deny yourself what you like (just control the portion and total daily intake). Multiple small meals (3-4 hrs). I eat pizza, suishi and beef patties, but never to excess. Emphasize protien (allow carbs more in AM - you'll burn it). I lose 1/2 to 4 lbs per month - no rush. Know which American food is poison - cut down portion, steer it to AM if you must indulge.

There's a lot here that isn't accurate across the board.

Meal timing doesn't matter for fat loss. Number of meals per day doesn't matter. Having larger meals in the morning doesn't matter. It may make sense for a specific individual who finds they can stick to a caloric deficit easier if they have a big breakfast, but others find it easier to not eat until lunch. You also don't need to exercise to lose fat.

Though I do agree with eating a sensible portion of the foods you personally enjoy.