Off topic relationships a a confidence

laurenduffy1988

I was seeing a guy who lives an hour's flight away last year and we meet up etc nothing to serious but talking every day and then he just wouldn't speak to me no explaination at all which really upset me about a year later he got on touch and we met twice and I have realjsed he really makes me feel bad about myself - I tried to break it off today and he just sent messages making me *kitten* about myself again why can't I realise I need to let go

cerise_noir

Ignore him.
If he makes you feel bad about yourself, it will never be a happy relationship. *hugs*

There is someone out there that will treat you right. Forget his butt.

Rebekah_89

Lauren,

May I ask why does this guy make you feel bad about yourself??? And also may I ask your age? From the sounds of it, this guy was probably involved with someone else for the reason he just stopped speaking to you with no explanation. Now he wants to occupy his time again that is why he hit you up again. That in itself should be enough information to stop messing with this guy. Trust me when I say, when a guy really likes you, he would pursue you nonstop until he gets you. That is how my current boyfriend treated me, and other guys. I've dealt with deuche bags too, so that is how I know that guy of yours is no good. Let him go. You would only get hurt later on.

laurenduffy1988

Yes the first time when he cut me off he said he starting getting with someone else but I still met him again I think he makes me feel bad about myself cause he says he doesnt want a relationship with me (he was just pretty badly in past) and that makes me think they is something wrong with me, he says I was too available and a bit needy - thing is I don't even really like him I just needed the assurance from someone I think and then when I try to cool it off I feel too guilty ignoring him

laurenduffy1988

Sorry I am 28

Rebekah_89

Yea let him go girl! I think ignoring him should make you feel good. And if he stops hitting you up, DO NOT FEEL BAD! Just wait it out. A good guy would come along girlie. But please leave this guy alone. Let him wonder why you are ignoring him.

laurenduffy1988

Thank you the only reason I feel bad is because he got badly hurt before but he hasn't treated me right so shouldn't feel bad

MorganMoreaux

He sounds toxic - I think you're better off without him. I would just cut all communication with him regardless of what sweet things he may say to try to win you back. Him being hurt in the past is not something you can change or compensate for. You are not responsible for his happiness, and he is not treating you as a priority so move on before you get hurt worse. Significant others are supposed to support you and you should feel good with them, if you have confidence issues around him he is not the person for you.

cerise_noir

laurenduffy1988 wrote: »

Yes the first time when he cut me off he said he starting getting with someone else but I still met him again I think he makes me feel bad about myself cause he says he doesnt want a relationship with me (he was just pretty badly in past) and that makes me think they is something wrong with me, he says I was too available and a bit needy - thing is I don't even really like him I just needed the assurance from someone I think and then when I try to cool it off I feel too guilty ignoring him

Don't feel guilty for ignoring him.
I bet he didn't feel guilty ignoring you for a year.
He sounds like an asshat.

laurenduffy1988

Thanks guys you have made me feel better

suzyjane1972

Run...run away and never look back. The guys a tool and seriously you deserve way better than a guy looking for a filler in between other women.

akamran1

MorganMoreaux wrote: »

He sounds toxic - I think you're better off without him. I would just cut all communication with him regardless of what sweet things he may say to try to win you back. Him being hurt in the past is not something you can change or compensate for. You are not responsible for his happiness, and he is not treating you as a priority so move on before you get hurt worse. Significant others are supposed to support you and you should feel good with them, if you have confidence issues around him he is not the person for you.

There is so much awesome in this I need extra emojis

tatilove1988

I'm with the others on this. The fact that he's been hurt in the past doesn't make you responsible for his happiness in the present. You're responsible for your own happiness and being with him isn't bringing you that. As the first poster mentioned, he's just using you as a rebound and you shouldn't allow someone like him to have such a hold on you.
I know leaving will be hard, despite the fact that you don't even like him, you just have to be brave and know that the sadness you feel will go away very quickly.

Good luck girlie!!