How many friends is too many?

snowflake954

I have 46 friends on my list. Some are not active, and some come and go. Some write alot everyday about what they think and what they're doing. Some are very young, and a couple have EDs. I don't respond to them all--just those that I think need alittle help or encouragement. I have some that are an inspiration--one guy bikes for 3 hours at a time, alot workout, garden etc... They are very active and busy, and I enjoy them. Some don't show up on my feed, but I see them posting on the boards and they make me smile. Yes, I have some awesome friends, and I'm honored that they chose to friend me. I can't bear to "unfriend" someone, even if they don't log in for months. Sometimes people are going through a difficult patch, or are just plain too busy, or, like me, go to the beach for 3 months. If I had a 100, I don't know, but alot don't log in or drop out after awhile.

chocolate_owl

One thing that dawned on me last night... I usually use a PC to for the forums, but if someone is exclusively an app user, profiles aren't displayed the same way. You can't see people's blurbs about themselves, so maybe that's why so many FR with no message. I still consider a message polite and a sign that they're interested in interacting.

zoeysasha37

mskessler89 wrote: »

One thing that dawned on me last night... I usually use a PC to for the forums, but if someone is exclusively an app user, profiles aren't displayed the same way. You can't see people's blurbs about themselves, so maybe that's why so many FR with no message. I still consider a message polite and a sign that they're interested in interacting.

This is true. I'm on the Android app and it's very different from logging in through a PC.
I'm sure lots of newcomers are just eager to find friends and don't send notes along because they don't know it's expected and some probably can't see full profiles anyway if they are Android app users.
If I send one, I try to at least say hello or something of that nature but I'm sure many just don't know any better.
When I first started, I accepted requests from anyone and everyone. I was just so happy to be here.

Machka9

mskessler89 wrote: »

One thing that dawned on me last night... I usually use a PC to for the forums, but if someone is exclusively an app user, profiles aren't displayed the same way. You can't see people's blurbs about themselves, so maybe that's why so many FR with no message. I still consider a message polite and a sign that they're interested in interacting.

Yes, I just checked on my Android. I clicked your name to see what I could see. It gives me your photo, your name, first visit, most recent, and number of comments. From there I could either send you a message (there's a button that says, "Send a Message") or ignore you (there's a button that says, "Ignore"). If I click your name again, then I can send a message or add as friend.

But you're right, there's no profile.

I wish there could be a "comment to potential friends" or something.

jkal1979

I also ask people to include a message with a request. I have been accepting them without one recently because I don't think that information is viewable on the app. It's the same reason why I don't fault them for not having their own profile filled out.

If someone unfriends me for whatever reason I don't take it personal. I would find it odd if they felt the need to message me the reason why or announce it on the forums.