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  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    edited June 2016
    thiosulfate wrote: »
    st476 wrote: »
    Damn people are so rude on here! I can't believe how many people are telling you you need help for being so "insecure" and what not.
    Even if she did post this just for compliments, what's so bad about that? We all want to be complimented. Don't you like being complimented on your body when you worked hard to make it look a certain way and you feel good about yourself? There's nothing wrong with that.
    Why is it so hard to just answer her question and maybe make someone feel good about themselves?

    Because it's attention seeking. People who aren't insecure don't go posting half naked photos of themselves on the internet fishing for compliments

    You just said what I was thinking, but didn't have the nerve to post :+1: 10000000% agree!!
  • ItsyBitsy246
    ItsyBitsy246 Posts: 307 Member
    thiosulfate wrote: »
    st476 wrote: »
    Damn people are so rude on here! I can't believe how many people are telling you you need help for being so "insecure" and what not.
    Even if she did post this just for compliments, what's so bad about that? We all want to be complimented. Don't you like being complimented on your body when you worked hard to make it look a certain way and you feel good about yourself? There's nothing wrong with that.
    Why is it so hard to just answer her question and maybe make someone feel good about themselves?

    Because it's attention seeking. People who aren't insecure don't go posting half naked photos of themselves on the internet fishing for compliments

    Hmmm.... so assuming the OP posted because she is insecure, and could use a compliment/validation. Not sure why that is worthy of wrath???? Please explain.
  • RosieRose7673
    RosieRose7673 Posts: 438 Member
    ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »
    thiosulfate wrote: »
    st476 wrote: »
    Damn people are so rude on here! I can't believe how many people are telling you you need help for being so "insecure" and what not.
    Even if she did post this just for compliments, what's so bad about that? We all want to be complimented. Don't you like being complimented on your body when you worked hard to make it look a certain way and you feel good about yourself? There's nothing wrong with that.
    Why is it so hard to just answer her question and maybe make someone feel good about themselves?

    Because it's attention seeking. People who aren't insecure don't go posting half naked photos of themselves on the internet fishing for compliments

    Hmmm.... so assuming the OP posted because she is insecure, and could use a compliment/validation. Not sure why that is worthy of wrath???? Please explain.


    Wrath is a strong word. People were telling her not to seek external validation and to find happiness within

    No one said anything "mean".
  • DebSozo
    DebSozo Posts: 2,578 Member
    edited June 2016
    RosieRose7673 wrote: »
    ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »
    thiosulfate wrote: »
    st476 wrote: »
    Damn people are so rude on here! I can't believe how many people are telling you you need help for being so "insecure" and what not.
    Even if she did post this just for compliments, what's so bad about that? We all want to be complimented. Don't you like being complimented on your body when you worked hard to make it look a certain way and you feel good about yourself? There's nothing wrong with that.
    Why is it so hard to just answer her question and maybe make someone feel good about themselves?

    Because it's attention seeking. People who aren't insecure don't go posting half naked photos of themselves on the internet fishing for compliments

    Hmmm.... so assuming the OP posted because she is insecure, and could use a compliment/validation. Not sure why that is worthy of wrath???? Please explain.


    Wrath is a strong word. People were telling her not to seek external validation and to find happiness within

    No one said anything "mean".

    To be fair she was asked by the second person on the thread to add more photos.
  • RosieRose7673
    RosieRose7673 Posts: 438 Member
    DebSozo wrote: »
    RosieRose7673 wrote: »
    ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »
    thiosulfate wrote: »
    st476 wrote: »
    Damn people are so rude on here! I can't believe how many people are telling you you need help for being so "insecure" and what not.
    Even if she did post this just for compliments, what's so bad about that? We all want to be complimented. Don't you like being complimented on your body when you worked hard to make it look a certain way and you feel good about yourself? There's nothing wrong with that.
    Why is it so hard to just answer her question and maybe make someone feel good about themselves?

    Because it's attention seeking. People who aren't insecure don't go posting half naked photos of themselves on the internet fishing for compliments

    Hmmm.... so assuming the OP posted because she is insecure, and could use a compliment/validation. Not sure why that is worthy of wrath???? Please explain.


    Wrath is a strong word. People were telling her not to seek external validation and to find happiness within

    No one said anything "mean".

    To be fair she was asked by the second person on the thread to add more photos.


    This is true. I didn't go back, but wasn't she asked to give a straight forward photo? Not a bunch of IG modified photos of posing and twisting?

    Eh. Regardless. Everything still stands.
  • MorganMoreaux
    MorganMoreaux Posts: 691 Member
    ItsyBitsy246 wrote: »
    thiosulfate wrote: »
    st476 wrote: »
    Damn people are so rude on here! I can't believe how many people are telling you you need help for being so "insecure" and what not.
    Even if she did post this just for compliments, what's so bad about that? We all want to be complimented. Don't you like being complimented on your body when you worked hard to make it look a certain way and you feel good about yourself? There's nothing wrong with that.
    Why is it so hard to just answer her question and maybe make someone feel good about themselves?

    Because it's attention seeking. People who aren't insecure don't go posting half naked photos of themselves on the internet fishing for compliments

    Hmmm.... so assuming the OP posted because she is insecure, and could use a compliment/validation. Not sure why that is worthy of wrath???? Please explain.

    No one was being mean or nasty. Judging from the pictures she posted and the thread itself, she is frequently asking/begging for attention. Not all those images are selfies, and not all of them were taken at the same time with the numerous swimsuit changes. So it implies while she is spending time with someone she is asking her friend to take pictures of her, so while she is spending time with others she is focused on herself. This comes off as self absorbed, which is not a positive characteristic.

    Ironically, one of the pictures is captioned with a melodramatic phrase about how someone disappointed her, yet the picture is of her trying to show off. It indicates that she is still focused on herself while the friendship/relationship is in turmoil. It makes me wonder if her relationships suffer because she is so focused on herself.

    Yes, it indicates she has issues and insecurities that need to be resolved, however, rewarding this type of behavior with compliments does not motivate her to work on the root problems. By complimenting her you encourage her to continue to attention seek and continue to seek validation from strangers. Those of us that you are considering "mean" are actually trying to give her valid insight so she can have more substance in her life than just obsessing over her appearance and having superficial relationships. I suspect that her life isn't very fulfilling if she spends her time photographing herself, posting pics online, hoping for positive feedback. It's actually quite sad, as MFP isn't the first site she has posted to.

    I stand by my initial comment as I think her resolving her insecurities will take her a lot further in life than saying something artificial so she can feel good for a minute. If she attention seeks this much in person, she probably doesn't have many friends and is quite lonely, a pretty body isn't going to fix that. What happens when she start aging and tries to gain validation online with an older body...you think people will be kind then? Having one's self confidence be based around random compliments online is not healthy or productive. Learning to accept yourself and be comfortable in your skin seems much more productive to me. I also think most people in general prefer to be around someone who is comfortable with themselves in lieu of someone who is obsessed with their appearance.

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