What do/did you hate about being overweight?

MotherShabubu

I hate my double chin in photos.

I hate my total lack of energy.

I hate getting out of breath after climbing one flight of stairs.

I hate feeling twenty years older than I actually am.

I hate being the *only* fat person in my family, and the *only* fat female in my group of friends.

I hate wasting my money on junk food.

I hate sneaking food and lying to people about my diet.

I hate having a strained relationship with my parents, who hate the fact that I've gotten so big.

I hate feeling like I'm being judged whenever I eat in public.

I hate chairs with arms, and cheap plastic chairs.

I hate the seats at old cinemas and old theatres.

I hate university combined chair/desks, and lecture halls with flip-down desks.

I hate the fact that I look huge in all my recent graduation photos, and that I'm embarrassed to show anyone.

I hate that I've been single for almost six years, while most my friends are in long-term relationships. I know it's because of my weight.

I hate that I know several people who are decades older than I am and who are *much* fitter than me.

I hate being fat while also being very tall (5'11''). I feel like a man.

I hate clothes shopping. I hate having to pass up clothes that I like because I look fat in them, and having to settle for clothes that are "slimming". (I hate that word, by the way.)

I hate wearing mostly black clothes because I don't feel confident enough to wear colours.

I hate wearing loose-fitting clothes all the time, because I don't feel confident enough to wear anything even remotely fitting.

I hate feeling like I've wasted my 20s being obese and unhappy, when they should have been the best years of my life.

What about everyone else?

SezxyStef

my health was suffering.

that's it.

PS1000tessa

having to tuck my belly in every time I pose for pictures.
hide by fat under long shirts
having flabby arms
not being able to wear short skirts
always questioning "what do people think of me being fat"
not being able to be physically active without feeling like I am dying.

brb_2013

I can't think in terms like this. I'm changing to become more, not less.

cross2bear

All those hates!! And it is within your power to change every one of them. Good Luck!!

Need2Exerc1se

I didn't like that I felt fat and my favorite clothes were too tight. I didn't have any health problems because I was pretty active but since I'd been thin for so long I just didn't feel like me anymore.

Caroline393

I don't want to be the biggest person in my friend group anymore, I want to be able to wear any kind of clothes and style because I love fashion and dressing up but there are a lot of things that don't look good on me because of my weight. I want to stop being self-conscious about my body in front of my boyfriend. I want to wear a bikini. I want my boobs to be smaller so I can wear strapless dresses. I want to look at myself in photos and not pick them apart. I want to be strong and healthy and able to do anything. I love hiking and I want to be able to climb a mountain without feeling so out of breath as I go. I want to stop feeling like I have to miss out on opportunities because of how I look or because I'm not in shape. I'm in the prime of my life and I want my body and self-image to stop holding me back from new experiences.

RainaProske

The obvious disrespect toward overweight persons.
I shop often at a particular health food store in my little city, and I make sure that I remind them every few months of the following: this store is where one might expect disrespect toward someone who is overweight, but it never happened by any employee or by management. Never! And they need to be reminded of their great attitude. It was and remains both memorable and appreciated.

Bxqtie116

I hated shopping in the plus size section ( I'm now in the misses and hopefully by next year I'll be back in the petite section).

I hated taking pictures and always running from the camera. And if I did take a picture, I was always hiding in the back and holding my stomach in.

I hated seeing my face look so full.

I hated that guys stopped looking my way.

I hated that I lied about my weight on my drivers license.

Fortunately, this has changed or about to change and I'm beginning to feel more confident about myself.

alyssagb1

Being over weight. I was extremely self conscious. Only after I began losing, and becoming more active did being healthy become the larger issue for me.

kbarrett0701

I hated my double chin in photos.

I hated wasting money on junk food drawer(found my old stash the other day).

I hated sneaking food and doing late night runs that were unknown to everyone.

I hated when my grandfather would criticize everything I would eat.

I hated that I was scared to sit on chairs

I hated flying, because I'd have to have a seatbelt extender

I hated that my back roll would always get super sweaty.

I hated that my new jeans wouldn't last very long because my legs would rub together and ruin them.

I hated that I could never wear a dress, because my legs would rub together and create burns.

I hated trying on clothes and knowing I wouldn't be able to fit in the super cute ones.

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ElJefeChief

I hated looking unattractive, and also the joint pain, getting really gross and sweaty easily.

bmele0

I hated the following:

Going to a crowded restaurant or somewhere with lots of chairs/tables and worrying I couldn't squeeze between them or being seated at a booth I couldn't fit into.

Shopping in the plus size section, I hated feeling like my clothing choices were limited to what looked like something an 80 year old would wear.

Not being able to keep up with my young and active son.

Feeling depressed and crying a lot- I never realized how much my mood/outlook was due to being obese.

Pushing my car's seat all the way back and still filling up the space/having a hard time buckling.

The looks people gave me sometimes.

Doctors not taking me seriously or telling me everything was due to my weight. Turns out I have Familial hypercholesterolemia, but my weight was always blamed. I'll be on meds probably for the rest of my life no matter how fit or healthy I become.

And even though I'm not obese anymore and well on my way to healthy after losing 122 lbs, I still have trouble with the mindset. I still panic for a moment looking at a booth or crowded room. I go into a dept. store and have to remind myself not to head straight for plus size, etc.

KetoneKaren

I want to keep up with my grandchildren.

I want to be able to cross my legs casually, without effort or thought, and sit there with one draped over the other as if I have always been able to do that...

I want to look at myself fully in a mirror and hold my own gaze.

I want to feel great about eating. Not guilty.

I want to sit in the regular sized chairs and not worry about getting stuck.

I want to look down and see my feet.

I want to stand up without my knees hurting.

I want to buy clothes in the regular section of the store.

I want to be able to order a dessert without raising eyebrows.

I want to walk through the house and not hear things rattling and shaking.

I want my hipbones to stick out when I lay flat on my back.

I want to be able to tuck in my blouse.

I want to quit worrying about what people who are behind me are thinking about my rear profile.

I want to pass by a mirror and do a double take.

kommodevaran

I hated the cushions of fat rubbing against each other when I moved (so I preferred to not move).
I hated fearing that my clothes would be so tight that I actually couldn't get dressed tomorrow. I also hated shopping for clothes.
I hated food. I hated cravings, but I hated food more.
I hated that I always was offered leftovers, and I hated that I always accepted.

I didn't realize how lazy I had become, or how much pain was related to the overweight, or that the inside of pants (trousers) thighs aren't supposed to rip through in one week. I didn't realize how stressful it was to never have "enough" "food".

KittyInBoots

Being judged/criticized for "not working out". Not being able to eat without someone scanning my plate with a smirk or a snicker.

I totally get the "wasting my 20s" thing. Agreed for sure.

Not being able to buy riding boots because my calves are too fat. And practically ruining the top of my expensive boots that I was able to actually fit.

Feeling "restricted" with clothing. Automatically looking for the biggest size and then feeling horrible when it is too small. Reaching the plus sizes.

Constantly have to check how "my flab fits", whether trying on new clothes at a store, or at home before I go out somewhere. These questions go through my mind...
1. Is my back flab showing?
2. How does my stomach look?
3. Muffin top hidden?
4. Then then fat legs... the thighs, etc...

Most of all, a general lack of self esteem.

BUT - here is one thing I love/loved about being overweight - it taught me to truly not judge someone on appearance, and to value personality over everything!

LisaKay91

I hate that I am too nervous to get on a roller coaster because I am terrified I won't fit in the seat.
I could be 100lbs and I would still be nervous getting on one. I haven't rode a coaster in like 3 years because of it.

lulalacroix

I hate the fat on my neck

I hate the little pockets of fat on my toes.

I hate that I used to love my appearance in the mirror and now I rarely look at myself.

I hate that I have a very expensive wardrobe that I cannot wear.

I hate being out of breath walking up the stairs.

but...

I love that I can run better lately.

I love that I am down a size.

I love that I lift heavy in the gym even if people stare.

I love that I am going to be in great shape.

I love that I'm gonna run my first marathon at 50!

RunsWithBees

I HATED being asked all the time if I was PREGNANT or when the baby was due! Or people assumed that I had just recently given birth. Someone once asked me completely out of the blue "How old is your baby now?" So I answered "My son just turned 18". She said "Oh, he's 18 months?" I said "No, he's 18 years old!"

Machka9

I hated not being able to cycle up hills ... not being able to cycle somewhat fast anymore ... not being able to do the long distance cycling events I love doing ...

I hated not being able to walk up hills without gasping and wheezing for breath and looking like I needed medical attention ...

I hated sitting in soft seats (like sofas and things) and feeling all squished ...

I hated that I had a closet full of my slender clothes which I couldn't fit into anymore.

frankiesgirlie

lulalacroix wrote: »

I love that I can run better lately.

I love that I am down a size.

I love that I lift heavy in the gym even if people stare.

I love that I am going to be in great shape.

I love that I'm gonna run my first marathon at 50!

I LOVE all your loves...especially the last one!!

Idle_Moon

Hated doing this:

Gallowmere1984

Double chin, round face in general, belt slipping below the gut, smelling bad (yes, all fat people stink unless they shower with relatively crazy frequency, and/or use a buttload of masking agents), not being able to properly fit into roller-coaster seats.

LisaKay91

yes, all fat people stink unless they shower with relatively crazy frequency

Such as once a day?

Panda_Poptarts

• My fat cheeks when I smiled in pictures (and so I never smiled)
• Constant self-consciousness about what I look like, from all angles, at this specific moment
• Intense self-hatred towards my reflection
• Needing accommodations, like large booths in restaurants and seatbelt extensions on airplanes
• Total inability to wear a skirt or shorts or tank tops or tight tops or light colored silky tops because my fat would show
• The inability to run after my children. Or run at all. Mom was not a fun mom.
• Fear of being judged. In a dress, in a swimsuit, at a restaurant, while shopping for food.
• The way the guy at the carnival looked at me when I went to get on the ferris wheel. I fit, but just.
• My health troubles

Edit to add: 85 pounds down and still "fat", I've overcome every single one of these hates. My only hate now? I'd like to be in clothing smaller than an XL.

jenilla1

Feeling sluggish and unhealthy.

tlflag1620

Bxqtie116 wrote: »

I hated shopping in the plus size section ( I'm now in the misses and hopefully by next year I'll be back in the petite section).

I hated taking pictures and always running from the camera. And if I did take a picture, I was always hiding in the back and holding my stomach in.

I hated seeing my face look so full.

I hated that guys stopped looking my way.

I hated that I lied about my weight on my drivers license.

Fortunately, this has changed or about to change and I'm beginning to feel more confident about myself.

Ooh! You reminded me I need to change the weight on my license - it says I weight 160 (I was lying, I really weighed 185). Now I'm 140-145.... Need to change that!

I hated clothes shopping. I hated feeling old and frumpy (I'm in my mid 30s). I hated huffing and puffing trying to keep up with my kids. Mostly I worried about my health (I didn't have any health problems, but knew that I was headed that way if something didn't change). I hated worrying about my health at such a young age!

mysticatgal1

I hate how much I let it affect me mentally and how much I hate clothes. I hate that I don't feel comfortable having sex with my husband. I hate feeling so tired and having the worst love hate relationship with food

JessicaMcB

I hate that I let my own excuses and negative self-talk hold me back from moving forward and losing the weight for so long. But I love that I turned that around, the I saw my own value and realized that my body would achieve what my mind believed. Push on OP, silence the negative voices in your head and push on

Gallowmere1984

LisaKay91 wrote: »

yes, all fat people stink unless they shower with relatively crazy frequency

Such as once a day?

I may have an overactive sense of smell, but try three to four.