What are single people supposed to do other than eat?

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  • Jackie_Paper
    Jackie_Paper Posts: 183 Member
    I eat waaaaaay more when i have a relationship cus i want to go out for dinner all the time!
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    You guys are right. I could have a coffee on my balcony or enjoy myself while single. It cheered me up reading your comments yesterday. But today I feel pretty down and miserable. I just don't see why other women can get married and have kids and I can't. What makes me so much worse than them? Even Hitler and bin Laden were married, how come no one wants to be with me? I haven't killed anyone.
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    I don't understand why men refuse to go on a date with me. Here's the thing. Usually when I meet men at social events or cashiers and random guys like that, I talk to them for only 5 minutes. I tell them my name and hobbies and ask their name and hobbies and then ask if they would like to go on a date sometime and they say no. How can they judge me before t hey even know me? If they went on a date with me and found out I was horrible and rude, OK fine. But they do not even know me. Are you really seriously telling me that they know all about me and what my personality is like within a 5 minutes conversation? It's not even 5 minutes honestly, it does not take that long to say our names and hobbies and what we do for a living. So how can they judge me within 5 minutes? Also I walk past men every single day, I am outside every day for 4-5 hours but no men approach me asking me on a date, why are they judging me when they don't even know me. I guess they don't like how I look?
  • tiptoethruthetulips
    tiptoethruthetulips Posts: 3,369 Member
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    I don't understand why men refuse to go on a date with me. Here's the thing. Usually when I meet men at social events or cashiers and random guys like that, I talk to them for only 5 minutes. I tell them my name and hobbies and ask their name and hobbies and then ask if they would like to go on a date sometime and they say no. How can they judge me before t hey even know me? If they went on a date with me and found out I was horrible and rude, OK fine. But they do not even know me. Are you really seriously telling me that they know all about me and what my personality is like within a 5 minutes conversation? It's not even 5 minutes honestly, it does not take that long to say our names and hobbies and what we do for a living. So how can they judge me within 5 minutes? Also I walk past men every single day, I am outside every day for 4-5 hours but no men approach me asking me on a date, why are they judging me when they don't even know me. I guess they don't like how I look?

    I suspect its less about how you look but more about your personality and their perception of you after five minutes. You come across as being quite self engrossed and negative (based on the history of your posts this time round plus those from a couple of years ago).
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    nope I come across as happy and confident frienda have said. Of course Im going to be a bit more soul bearing on a support forum.

  • Atchmon
    Atchmon Posts: 16 Member
    Pretty much my single life.
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  • Redwineandmuscles
    Redwineandmuscles Posts: 46 Member
    I had better have a chat with my husband, we haven't done most of those things in years.
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    I don't understand why men refuse to go on a date with me. Here's the thing. Usually when I meet men at social events or cashiers and random guys like that, I talk to them for only 5 minutes. I tell them my name and hobbies and ask their name and hobbies and then ask if they would like to go on a date sometime and they say no. How can they judge me before t hey even know me? If they went on a date with me and found out I was horrible and rude, OK fine. But they do not even know me. Are you really seriously telling me that they know all about me and what my personality is like within a 5 minutes conversation? It's not even 5 minutes honestly, it does not take that long to say our names and hobbies and what we do for a living. So how can they judge me within 5 minutes? Also I walk past men every single day, I am outside every day for 4-5 hours but no men approach me asking me on a date, why are they judging me when they don't even know me. I guess they don't like how I look?

    Why do you feel the need to ask every man out after 5 minutes?
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    I don't understand why men refuse to go on a date with me. Here's the thing. Usually when I meet men at social events or cashiers and random guys like that, I talk to them for only 5 minutes. I tell them my name and hobbies and ask their name and hobbies and then ask if they would like to go on a date sometime and they say no. How can they judge me before t hey even know me? If they went on a date with me and found out I was horrible and rude, OK fine. But they do not even know me. Are you really seriously telling me that they know all about me and what my personality is like within a 5 minutes conversation? It's not even 5 minutes honestly, it does not take that long to say our names and hobbies and what we do for a living. So how can they judge me within 5 minutes? Also I walk past men every single day, I am outside every day for 4-5 hours but no men approach me asking me on a date, why are they judging me when they don't even know me. I guess they don't like how I look?

    Why do you feel the need to ask every man out after 5 minutes?

    I don't ask EVERY man out, I haven't asked my father out because I'm not into incest plus I walk past men every day without asking them out. But I ask SOME men out and they say no because they judge me! I am having a very bad day today because I'm ANGRY that I can't have coffee with a man, IT IS NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    I don't understand why men refuse to go on a date with me. Here's the thing. Usually when I meet men at social events or cashiers and random guys like that, I talk to them for only 5 minutes. I tell them my name and hobbies and ask their name and hobbies and then ask if they would like to go on a date sometime and they say no. How can they judge me before t hey even know me? If they went on a date with me and found out I was horrible and rude, OK fine. But they do not even know me. Are you really seriously telling me that they know all about me and what my personality is like within a 5 minutes conversation? It's not even 5 minutes honestly, it does not take that long to say our names and hobbies and what we do for a living. So how can they judge me within 5 minutes? Also I walk past men every single day, I am outside every day for 4-5 hours but no men approach me asking me on a date, why are they judging me when they don't even know me. I guess they don't like how I look?

    Why do you feel the need to ask every man out after 5 minutes?

    I don't ask EVERY man out, I haven't asked my father out because I'm not into incest plus I walk past men every day without asking them out. But I ask SOME men out and they say no because they judge me! I am having a very bad day today because I'm ANGRY that I can't have coffee with a man, IT IS NOT FAIR!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Go ask your dad.

    Why is having coffee with a man the be all and end all to you?

    Maybe they say no because they're on MFP....?
  • Thisnameischosen_
    Thisnameischosen_ Posts: 619 Member
    Wow. Seriously hun. You need to be working on yourself before you bring another person into your life. From what I've read, you have some issues going on and I would use this time with you being single to fix whatever needs fixing before you start a new relationship.

  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    Thisnameischosen_ wrote: »
    Wow. Seriously hun. You need to be working on yourself before you bring another person into your life. From what I've read, you have some issues going on and I would use this time with you being single to fix whatever needs fixing before you start a new relationship.

    what issues specifically, can you be specific so I know what to work on? thanks :)
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    Thisnameischosen_ wrote: »
    Wow. Seriously hun. You need to be working on yourself before you bring another person into your life. From what I've read, you have some issues going on and I would use this time with you being single to fix whatever needs fixing before you start a new relationship.

    what issues specifically, can you be specific so I know what to work on? thanks :)

    Everything you're saying in your other thread....
  • GobletofFlames
    GobletofFlames Posts: 113 Member
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    Thisnameischosen_ wrote: »
    Wow. Seriously hun. You need to be working on yourself before you bring another person into your life. From what I've read, you have some issues going on and I would use this time with you being single to fix whatever needs fixing before you start a new relationship.

    what issues specifically, can you be specific so I know what to work on? thanks :)

    Everything you're saying in your other thread....

    You mean the fact that other women are arrogant and that men are judgmental?
  • TavistockToad
    TavistockToad Posts: 35,719 Member
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    TavistockToad wrote: »
    GobletofFlames wrote: »
    Thisnameischosen_ wrote: »
    Wow. Seriously hun. You need to be working on yourself before you bring another person into your life. From what I've read, you have some issues going on and I would use this time with you being single to fix whatever needs fixing before you start a new relationship.

    what issues specifically, can you be specific so I know what to work on? thanks :)

    Everything you're saying in your other thread....

    You mean the fact that other women are arrogant and that men are judgmental?

    No, that that is your PERCEPTION of what's happening...
  • johnnyb620
    johnnyb620 Posts: 19 Member
    edited July 2016
    I've been single for the majority of my life. Been on dates, clubs, bars, special events, but never have I really enjoyed going to them. I have a great career, I'm college educated, financially stable, and as a matter of fact, I recently closed on a new home. I never thought I would even buy a home unless I got married.

    For the longest time I really thought the reason why I was unsuccessful in establishing a relationship was because I was Asian. Living in a place where there were no other other Asian people didn't help either. So it made me feel unattractive and resulted in low self esteem and confidence. This mentality reflected on my personality, which was the problem to my unattractiveness. The point is, I've learned to accept who I am. I've learned to accept the things that I am in no control over and improve on what I can control. I want to pursue what is ultimately my true happiness, food and fitness. I think if you just focus on improving yourself, everything else will get easier.


  • zoeysasha37
    zoeysasha37 Posts: 7,088 Member
    What about online dating crystal?
  • jkal1979
    jkal1979 Posts: 1,896 Member
    edited July 2016
    If you are meeting someone, asking them a bunch of questions, and then asking them out in 5 minutes or less, then you may be coming off as being desperate and/or too pushy. That can be a big turn off and explain why you are being rejected by these guys.

    It would also be a good idea to adjust your expectations of what goes on in a relationship. It sounds like you have been watching too many romantic comedies and expect life to be the same way.
  • ninerbuff
    ninerbuff Posts: 48,894 Member
    Isn't the point when you're single and looking, to go out looking? That should burn some calories.

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