Trying to stay positive but can't
pefal1
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Has anyone just started losing weight and you see results but it just seems too good to be true and you are second guessing you results/loss? I have been logging for 6 weeks and have lost 12 lbs. I see the results, my pants are smaller but I just keep thinking it's going to stop working or the rest is never going to come off. 
positive thoughts anyone?
positive thoughts anyone? 3
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Try not to over think it - it's going well. It may continue to go well or it may stall, you don't know what will happen yet so don't think about it. Just focus on what you're doing now as it is working well. Take time to enjoy the success you are having now, and be proud of yourself. You're doing great!2
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@MorganMoreaux thanks! It is going well you're right but I can't stop saying well I had a baby not that long ago it's all just the baby weight coming off. But even if it is at least is is coming off, right?!0
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took me seems like forever to lose the 30lbs kept seeing some difference at about 10-15 in my waist and thought well is that enough is that right am I sick what's up with this.. but geez it took I won't say. I felt the same way like this should be over is this over am I done but it came off probably quicker than I thought .I kept at it and still do to keep it off .. just think of the results and ya when I achieved /...wow so happy ..now I look at myself new clothes even my skin looked better, I swear, and again wow so happy and ya ..to good to be true, I was a skeptic. keep at a it another 12 in no time I believe in you.... PS took me longer than 6 weeks cudos to you, way to go and by the way your pants are not smaller haha something else kinda tighten up like mine1
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Has anyone just started losing weight and you see results but it just seems too good to be true and you are second guessing you results/loss? I have been logging for 6 weeks and have lost 12 lbs. I see the results, my pants are smaller but I just keep thinking it's going to stop working or the rest is never going to come off. positive thoughts anyone?
Goodness, that is awesome!0 -
You're averaging 2 pounds a week. That is FANTASTIC! Congratulations!1
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@MorganMoreaux thanks! It is going well you're right but I can't stop saying well I had a baby not that long ago it's all just the baby weight coming off. But even if it is at least is is coming off, right?!
Weight is weight. I don't know from experience, but from reading through this forum losing baby weight seems to be very difficult. Consider yourself fortunate indeed! Congratulations on your baby!
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Lots of people never lose the baby weight. Good for you, I know it's hard to believe. I double check my progress chart fairly often just to remind myself that it's actually working too.1
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You are not always going to feel positive, but the good news is, that's not needed all the time to succeed. What you do need to do is stay consistent. To do that, you need to develop good habits that you will stick to, even when it all sucks donkey balls. No one ever said this was easy, but know the reward at the end is beyond measure. Take it from someone who has invested 3-4 years and lost 50 lbs using this site.4
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Science. Trust it. You eat in a deficit, you lose weight. Now just believe you can do it.5
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arditarose wrote: »Science. Trust it. You eat in a deficit, you lose weight. Now just believe you can do it.
I like that!! You're right. Thanks
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arditarose wrote: »Science. Trust it. You eat in a deficit, you lose weight. Now just believe you can do it.
I like that!! You're right. Thanks
You can't fight the facts 0 -
Alluminati wrote: »You are not always going to feel positive, but the good news is, that's not needed all the time to succeed. What you do need to do is stay consistent. To do that, you need to develop good habits that you will stick to, even when it all sucks donkey balls. No one ever said this was easy, but know the reward at the end is beyond measure. Take it from someone who has invested 3-4 years and lost 50 lbs using this site.
Yea it's not easy and the hardest part for me isn't the actual counting calories or working out its forcing the negativity from my brain. But I have two girls and I really want to be happy with myself (inside and out) so that my girls can learn from me how to love themselves. That's more important than anything to me. It's what keeps motivated. Congrats on then loss btw 2 -
That is true! Do ever look in the mirror and see that you are smaller and think it's all in your head because you know you have been putting forth effort?eveandqsmom wrote: »Lots of people never lose the baby weight. Good for you, I know it's hard to believe. I double check my progress chart fairly often just to remind myself that it's actually working too.
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Yes I am glad/ fortunate I am back to pre pregnancy size! Now it's time to do better than that!MorganMoreaux wrote: »@MorganMoreaux thanks! It is going well you're right but I can't stop saying well I had a baby not that long ago it's all just the baby weight coming off. But even if it is at least is is coming off, right?!
Weight is weight. I don't know from experience, but from reading through this forum losing baby weight seems to be very difficult. Consider yourself fortunate indeed! Congratulations on your baby! and thanks!! 0 -
Alluminati wrote: »You are not always going to feel positive, but the good news is, that's not needed all the time to succeed. What you do need to do is stay consistent. To do that, you need to develop good habits that you will stick to, even when it all sucks donkey balls. No one ever said this was easy, but know the reward at the end is beyond measure. Take it from someone who has invested 3-4 years and lost 50 lbs using this site.
Yea it's not easy and the hardest part for me isn't the actual counting calories or working out its forcing the negativity from my brain. But I have two girls and I really want to be happy with myself (inside and out) so that my girls can learn from me how to love themselves. That's more important than anything to me. It's what keeps motivated. Congrats on then loss btw
It's awesome that you have this as motivation. You have a strong WHY. It's much harder to maintain motivation when your goals are less defined and important to you.0 -
What you seem to be describing sounds like distorted thinking. Your thinking is flawed and doesn't match reality. This can be a major stumbling block for people who aren't aware that their thinking can deceive them and/or that you can choose to change what you think. I would recommend staying aware of this possibility that your negative thoughts might not be accurate. When you start having those negative thoughts, it might be helpful to acknowledge that they represent distorted thinking and focus on the reality of the positive changes you have made and the healthy steps you have taken.
To help keep yourself positive and focused on reality, it might be helpful to keep some objective evidence to help you remember how far you've come - a pair of pants that used to fit that are now way too large, a chart showing your weight loss, etc. It helped me to see progress by having an item of clothing that almost fit and trying it on periodically until it did fit. For me, it was best when it was a short term goal - not a final goal weight outfit, just something the next size smaller. This might be enough to help you see that those negative thoughts are false and replace them with positive thoughts that acknowledge the progress you have made and your ability to achieve your goals.
If you find your negative thinking impacting your weight loss and interfering with your life in other areas, it might be worthwhile to consider seeking out the advice of a counselor who can help you better understand and effectively deal with these negative thoughts.0 -
Has anyone just started losing weight and you see results but it just seems too good to be true and you are second guessing you results/loss? I have been logging for 6 weeks and have lost 12 lbs. I see the results, my pants are smaller but I just keep thinking it's going to stop working or the rest is never going to come off. positive thoughts anyone?
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I think that the hardest part of weight loss is accepting that you aren't the person you used to be. You're becoming the person you envisioned! It's really important to look at yourself in the present and not compare yourself to what you were in the past-the more you disbelieve it, the easier it is to reboun unintentionally. You got this!!0
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I have a problem with negativity too. Part of it is to learn to celebrate when the good things -- like a 12 pound weight loss -- happen. Try replacing your negative thoughts with a more positive mantra like I did it before, I can do it again. Keep coming here for support too.0
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That is true! Do ever look in the mirror and see that you are smaller and think it's all in your head because you know you have been putting forth effort?eveandqsmom wrote: »Lots of people never lose the baby weight. Good for you, I know it's hard to believe. I double check my progress chart fairly often just to remind myself that it's actually working too.
Yes, I find myself asking my family if they can really see the difference all the time. I can see the number on the scale as well as the change in my clothing sizes but still question it.
I think my first issue is that it's still shaped the same only smaller for now, and also that it hasn't been as difficult as I imagined. I have treats, I have off days and just my talking long walks and being aware of my calories.
Do you have pictures you can keep around from the start? I wish I had taken some.0 -
Yes, I find myself asking my family if they can really see the difference all the time. I can see the number on the scale as well as the change in my clothing sizes but still question it.
I think my first issue is that it's still shaped the same only smaller for now, and also that it hasn't been as difficult as I imagined. I have treats, I have off days and just my talking long walks and being aware of my calories.
Do you have pictures you can keep around from the start? I wish I had taken some.[/quote]
Yes true! I have most good amount for 6 weeks and still have had my iced coffee in the morning lol been doing good but have had some chest meals/cheat drinks. Yes i have starting pictures and some side by sides from now and 6'weeks ago 0 -
Yep and I still feel the same way and I'm terrified I'm going to gain the weight back.
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YOUR DOING GREAT! I've loss 62 lbs. ( yeah) but sometimes I get bummed/depressed when I think about the other 110 left I have to lose. I've learned a few tricks to over come those feelings to stay motivated. I try to concentrate on the success so far and not what's left, I think about my ultimate goal is getting and being healthy and not so much about the pounds, I weigh only once a week (it's a head thing), I try to trust how I feel physically and in my clothes and try not to look in the mirrors from the neck down (cuz I tend to only see what's left to lose), and also to trust our MFP friends . Most of them have gone thru or are going thru the same things you will go thru. We are here for each other to succeed.
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When I get those thoughts (and it's often...anxiety is a *kitten*) I ask myself if I'd say that to my mama or my bestie. Nope. I'd never be that mean to them! So I'm working hard on being nicer to me.2
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You're relying on how people VIEW you and using that as your gauge for self worth. What you should be doing is working on changing that.
I obviously work on physical fitness, but it's to how I want to do it. If people don't like the way I look and need to comment on it, then it's their issue not mine.
If you always worry about what others think about you, you'll pass that behavior onto your girls.
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You're relying on how people VIEW you and using that as your gauge for self worth. What you should be doing is working on changing that.
I obviously work on physical fitness, but it's to how I want to do it. If people don't like the way I look and need to comment on it, then it's their issue not mine.
If you always worry about what others think about you, you'll pass that behavior onto your girls.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
I've had a lot of realistic talks with my daughter about how unhealthy I was, tired all the time, etc.
I have spent my whole life making sure my eating issues aren't passed on to her. I've never "dieted" this is the first time I've actually put an effort forth to lose weight), I've never even owned a scale before now and it's in my bedroom...I've been researching this particular issue for 15 years.
I don't think asking her "does it look different?" is going to affect her sense of self. Be careful how much you infer from a tiny little post on the internet.0 -
OP has referred to her own negative thinking about herself. And this is conversation that I've encountered MANY MANY times in my profession. So I don't see it as being incorrect advice given that it's the same I would give to any other client who felt the same way.eveandqsmom wrote: »
Be careful how much you infer from a tiny little post on the internet.You're relying on how people VIEW you and using that as your gauge for self worth. What you should be doing is working on changing that.
I obviously work on physical fitness, but it's to how I want to do it. If people don't like the way I look and need to comment on it, then it's their issue not mine.
If you always worry about what others think about you, you'll pass that behavior onto your girls.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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