Maybe I like food more than I like being thin

kendahlj

The absolute key to success in any sustained weight loss program is commitment. You just don't have it right now and that's okay. You'll find it eventually. And we'll all be here to help and support you. I wish you the best!

rainbowbow

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

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Commitment for what? I respectfully disagree with that attitude. None of us are training for a competition or be cast in the next sequel to 300. People can be 25% overweight and still be healthy.

Commitment to diet and self-restraint is not scaleable long term.

I think it requires commitment to our happiness and health. As stated in my (admittedly long) post, when you feel good in life and happy with yourself you just don't treat your body poorly. When you're eating the right number of calories, the right foods, etc. you just don't treat your body poorly.

I think in general, when people start overeating it's generally to cover up or self soothe things like depression, anxiety, and more. In which case they should seek treatment, seek changes to their lifestyle, and seek alternatives (positive ones) that can fill that role that food is playing.

kendahlj

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

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Commitment for what? I respectfully disagree with that attitude. None of us are training for a competition or be cast in the next sequel to 300. People can be 25% overweight and still be healthy.

Commitment to diet and self-restraint is not scaleable long term.

If you're a size 12 and you want to be a size 6, then it takes a commitment to make the lifestyle changes necessary to accomplish that. If you aren't willing to cut calories, eat healthier, etc, then you won't reach that goal. It's not a hard concept. What exactly do you disagree with? If you aren't committed to making changes in your life, then you say things like "Maybe, I like food more than I like being thin."

rainbowbow

Cutaway_Collar wrote: »

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Man but I really, really like to eat. Last time we went to Rainbow Thai I ate my plate and I finished my wife's because she asked if I can finish it. I am not depressed I wish I had more money though.

People who don't love food cannot relate.

I love food. I'm pretty sure this is just a cop-out. There's a difference between truly loving and appreciating food and people who just eat loads of calories all the time on just-okay things.

I think one of the biggest differences would be delayed gratification. i.e. If there's a food that i just LOVE and means a lot to me I will save up calories for it. I will fast that day to accommodate it. Or i will eat it on occasion only (thus re-inforcing it's specialness). I eat foods i love and can fit into my calorie goal on a daily basis. But the "special" stuff, like a fancy cheesecake or something? I actually treat it at special.

What i don't do is eat like a glutton where i eat all of the "special" super high calorie food all the time with no regard for my health. And what's the point of doing this anyway? You can't really appreciate it anymore.

edit: the above is not a dig at you. Just a comment in general. most of the people who claim to "love food", don't actually love and appreciate the food they're eating. In my experience it's usually just people eating tons and tons of fast food and using the momentarily pleasurable experience to fill some void they have.

44to44

Whenever I hear "Nothing tastes as good as thin feels", I think "Well clearly you've never tasted my double chocolate cheesecake." I love food- love cooking, baking, eating. I also am no fan of the gym. I've yo-yoed a lot in my life, and finally I am at a point where I've decided it doesn't have to be all or nothing. I need to work out more to be healthier, but that doesn't mean I have to be the gym for 2 hours every night. I need to watch my calories, but that doesn't mean I can't have some delicious things or splash out once in a while. I will lose weight more slowly, and I will never be on the cover of Fitness, but I can achieve a healthy weight slowly over time and hopefully maintain it for the long term. In other words, I think I can do the things I don't like doing if it means I can do the things I like at least occasionally.

Maybe you're at that same place - where you're ok with never being at your optimal weight, but you're satisfied to be at a healthy weight and balance proper diet/exercise with some Thai food, wine and the occasional couch potato evening. There's nothing wrong with that. Maybe you're comfortable never being a size 6 again but would be more comfortable at an 8 or 10 and can slowly work towards that.