Wedding Planning Stress

musicalityrnb

Hi everyone,

I just wanted to take this opportunity to vent and perhaps get some ideas and support.

I'm getting married in August and it's practically crunch time at this point. For the past 5 days, I've been extremely stressed about the final preparations that I've begun to eat emotionally again. Due to my hectic work and wedding planning schedule, I've barely worked out either in the past 5 days. Although I don't care too much about the wedding dress not fitting, I'm moreover concerned with my behavior and that I'm clearly not handling the stress well. Every time I've tried to make an effort to take a long walk, I'm met with storms out the wazoo. I'm very frustrated and upset with myself because both my self control and will power are out the window and I don't know when I'm going to be able to successfully reel them back in.

If I knew that wedding planning would be this stressful, I would've done a courthouse thing months ago. It's just that now family has booked their flights and tickets, a lot of the stuff for the wedding has already been paid for... And.. Ugh... I don't know.

vespiquenn

As someone that had a destination wedding in March, first just take a deep breath. Things will go wrong. That's just the way it is. Remind yourself this and give yourself flexibility to deal with the stress. The amount of brides I see snap because they want everything to be perfect is disappointing. Then again, I'm a realist in that I don't understand why a single day, which eventually ends up catered to guests rather than your Union, is so important. Anyways, I digress..

One thing to aid in the emotional eating is prepackage your snacks that you reach for in measured portions. It's normal to be stressed before, so to lessen the damage is important. You might not care about fitting in your dress now, but if you go to put it on the day of to find it doesn't fit right, you will definitely be stressed. I would also try to do some at home workouts. Maybe not for the sake of weightloss, but just for endorphins. It might help calm the nerves, especially during a stressful time. Fitnessbender has many good at home workouts for free.

musicalityrnb

vespiquenn wrote: »

As someone that had a destination wedding in March, first just take a deep breath. Things will go wrong. That's just the way it is. Remind yourself this and give yourself flexibility to deal with the stress. The amount of brides I see snap because they want everything to be perfect is disappointing. Then again, I'm a realist in that I don't understand why a single day, which eventually ends up catered to guests rather than your Union, is so important. Anyways, I digress..

One thing to aid in the emotional eating is prepackage your snacks that you reach for in measured portions. It's normal to be stressed before, so to lessen the damage is important. You might not care about fitting in your dress now, but if you go to put it on the day of to find it doesn't fit right, you will definitely be stressed. I would also try to do some at home workouts. Maybe not for the sake of weightloss, but just for endorphins. It might help calm the nerves, especially during a stressful time. Fitnessbender has many good at home workouts for free.

Thank you for responding. I don't care for the perfect wedding, and all the more I'm seeing that the wedding and reception are much more catered to the guests, and it's infuriating both myself and my fiance.

The pre-portioning snacks is something I do but I end up not eating them and somehow a stack of cookies ends up on my desk. I suppose that's where the self control and will power come into play. I do workouts at home, but I have been too tired to do them as of late. I will really try to do something tonight because I do feel a little better after I work out. It's just that walks also help with clearing my mind -- so that's why I've been placing all of my eggs in its basket, but I do understand where you're coming from.

pondee629

I'm married (hence in the wedding), have been in several weddings and attended many more (one where the officiant didn't show up and another had to be retained an hour before the ceremony after all of the guests had arrived, many from across the country). Everyone will have a great time whether you stress or not. Things will go wrong whether you stress or not. Things will go better than expected whether you stress or not. Relax, enjoy the moment. Nothing will be perfect, everything will be great. I really don't understand "wedding stress": Although it's stated like one of lifes givens. Are you really worried that your officiant, caterer, limo driver, et.al, are really going to "kitten" things up? Relax, no matter what happens, you'll have great stories, and, hopefully, a spouse you'll love forever.