HELP i've hit a mental wall, a huge stupid wall, HELP

raynanorthrup

hi
my name is rayna and i've never posted before, but i have an issue i've been struggling with for some time now and need some help. I've been on my health journey for over two years and most of that time i had to go it alone, but recently, the past year or so, i've been connecting with other people and finding support to keep moving. so far i've lost and kept off about forty pounds, which has been great, but for the last six months or so i've hit a wall, i'm still working out and trying to eat right, but i just feel defeated, and everything is starting to taper off, so i need to get some help to figure this mental block out.... Wht is the block? well, it has to do, of course, with my body, particularly my stomach. Here's the issue, after having three really awesome kids, and the current weight loss, my tummy is really wrinkly and has a pooch. ive gone to two separate doctors and have been told that the connective tissue that holds my abs together has been stretched, there's a medical term but i really cant spell it, and will never go back no matter how much i exercise or lose weight and the excess skin i have will never go away. so unless i have a tummy tuck i will forever have to suck in my gut or look like i'm at least three months pregnant, and no, insurance would not cover any of it.... we would have to pay out of pocket, and with three kids, its just not going to happen... the rest of my body is great, but to be told the one area that i really wanted to work on cant be fixed unless i have surgery, is really devastating.... and that is my wall, i have to keep fighting with myself to keep going, because most days i just want to give up and cry... even after six months. has anyone else had this kind of struggle? how did you face it? how do you deal with it? how do you except what you just cant change, and keep going? Please help me out, and thanks!

AwesomelyAmber

Never settle for "never gonna happen"... Ever. Work on it. Do toning and such and see what happens. It will get better. It may not ever be PERFECT... but can be BETTER. Hang in there!

Deflated, but NEVER Defeated. :flowerforyou:

dandelyon

If you're talking about diastasis recti, there are products you can use (kind of like a hernia belt), exercises you can do to help, and exercises that many people do for abs that are NOT recommended for you. Also, not every doctor is going to be equally knowledgeable, so a second opinion may be a good idea. If it does require surgery, maybe that is something to think about down the road. I believe I saw a support group on here for it as well, and I bet if you search the forums there may be more information. You are certainly not the only mom dealing with this! I hope you do find some support

mssierra2u

It's difficult to have unforeseen "side effects" to becoming more healthy. It might not be perfect, but it can get better. There are also new laser treatments that are supposed to help tighten skin, which I'm going to be looking into when I get close to my goals. Go see a plastic surgeon and find out all of your options. You never know. But, please, don't loose sight of the fact that this is a bump on the road... not the entire journey. Today is much better than two years ago, when you began your journey. :flowerforyou: