I left my abuser

For those of you that saw my last post about the man i was with calling me fat, etc.. I left him 2 days ago. I'm struggling financially since my only source of income was him.. But I'll be ok. Never tolerate abuse from anyone. You're worth so much more than that

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  • minniemoo1972
    minniemoo1972 Posts: 295 Member
    I'm so happy to hear this news.....so so happy.
  • ccrdragon
    ccrdragon Posts: 3,374 Member
    good for you!!
  • Chef_Barbell
    Chef_Barbell Posts: 6,644 Member
    Good news!
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    My best wishes are winging their way to you now that you find a way to support yourself, stay warm and well fed.

    And that you feel strong and beautiful every day.
  • MarziPanda95
    MarziPanda95 Posts: 1,326 Member
    Happy to hear it. Good luck in the future. You did the right thing! :)
  • jbatinker
    jbatinker Posts: 313 Member
    You did the right thing! Money can be earned but abuse - you need to cut off the source and you did! Great job.
  • jenilla1
    jenilla1 Posts: 11,118 Member
    <3
  • RoseTheWarrior
    RoseTheWarrior Posts: 2,035 Member
    You can always make money. Good for you for leaving a bad situation behind. I know it's difficult, but you'll be better off in the long run. Always remember that real love doesn't shame or abuse or make you feel bad.

    Take care of yourself, first and foremost.
  • puffbrat
    puffbrat Posts: 2,806 Member
    Good for you! While I imagine things will be difficult for at least a little while, caring for yourself is so important. <3
  • skyeonfire
    skyeonfire Posts: 18 Member
    As an advocate for victims, I am proud of you!
  • BarbellzNBrotein
    BarbellzNBrotein Posts: 306 Member
    Good for you. In the future be careful with who you choose to invest your time in. You can never get that time back.
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  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,741 Member
    I did the same thing many years ago and left with absolutely no possessions (idiot destroyed everything I owned). I started again from scratch and it was hard, it was humiliating at times, but it was by FAR the best, most empowering thing I've ever done for myself!

    So happy to see your update. Reach out, seek help. Sadly, so many people have gone through the same thing, but they are the ones that will step up and help because we know how it feels.
  • ouryve
    ouryve Posts: 572 Member
    Nice one.

    If it's available where you are. Have a look into the freedom program. I think it is possible to do it online.
  • mbaker566
    mbaker566 Posts: 11,233 Member
    good for you

    check out shelters as they will have great resources and information.
    social services too
  • 2011rocket3touring
    2011rocket3touring Posts: 1,346 Member
    jdelaroy wrote: »
    Great news. Check into some women's shelters. Some of them have programs to help get you on your feet when you leave situations that are toxic.

    This ^ There are many across the county that will help you get back on your feet.
  • blc1971
    blc1971 Posts: 170 Member
    So glad you took control and got yourself out of a bad situation! I spent almost 17 years in an abusive marriage until I just couldn't take it anymore. It was hard financially and emotionally for a while, but I made it!! Now, 9 years later, I'm remarried to my very best friend and the most amazing guy. I pray you chart a new and exciting course for yourself! Much success!! <3
  • lenoresdream
    lenoresdream Posts: 522 Member
    Loveedove1 wrote: »
    For those of you that saw my last post about the man i was with calling me fat, etc.. I left him 2 days ago. I'm struggling financially since my only source of income was him.. But I'll be ok. Never tolerate abuse from anyone. You're worth so much more than that
    Good for you! Look for support in your community! Food pantries or women's shelters that might know of great resources to help you out. Good lock and many prayers for you!

  • beachgal0626
    beachgal0626 Posts: 1,912 Member
    Fantastic news! Just made my day. Have faith in yourself that you can do this on your own -- one day at a time!
  • tomteboda
    tomteboda Posts: 2,171 Member
    Just stay away. Things always ALWAYS are worse if you go back. Be strong, you can do it!
  • jennifer_417
    jennifer_417 Posts: 12,344 Member
    It's ok, there are other jobs. You did the right thing-congrats! I'm proud of you!
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    You should be so proud of yourself, it took guts to leave. You're stronger than you think :heart:
  • kandi416c
    kandi416c Posts: 13 Member
    That's so amazing, i'm proud of you. I wish more women were so strong to leave their abuser so they can start on their own. I know 2 women that have Husbands that act like handlers and i wish could help them but only you, can get out of an abusing relationship. :#
  • JustMissTracy
    JustMissTracy Posts: 6,338 Member
    So proud of you! Good job looking after YOU! Stay strong in the next couple of weeks, CHIN UP, FISTS UP!!
  • ldowdesw
    ldowdesw Posts: 222 Member
    I have many friends who I'd love to be able to help in different ways, but until they show ultimate strength as you have, I feel useless.. Ask people for help, there are nice people in this world who will be only to glad to help you in your hour of need. Xx
  • Psychgrrl
    Psychgrrl Posts: 3,177 Member
    :heart: I'm so proud of you and happy for you! It will be hard, but you will be better and you'll find a partner who treats you with respect when you're ready to be with someone.

    Please let us know how you're doing!