Support from partner

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  • robininfl
    robininfl Posts: 1,137 Member
    hmclaughlan84 wrote: »
    I find it a struggle to eat healthy working out isn't a problem as I just go to the gym but when it comes to eating I'm at a loosing battle with having to deal with the food she buys and cooks and find myself not wanting to eat some nights

    Have you had a serious discussion about this, outside of mealtime? Like sit down and ask her what the heck is going on? If she shows you love by cooking and you are rejecting this, maybe it hurts her. Whatever it is, you can't work it out without figuring it out.

    Also can't you just eat less of what she cooks? Smaller portions?
  • chunky_pinup
    chunky_pinup Posts: 758 Member
    You need to sit down and have a serious conversation about each of your goals – health/fitness related and otherwise. Discuss how you feel supported or unsupported in your personal goals and suggest ways to motivate each other towards your goals. Your goals and aspirations aren’t always going to be the same as your partners, and just like they may not always understand yours, you’re not always going to understand theirs either. When there isn’t an understanding, sometimes it can be difficult to support, because you just don’t know why that other person is so motivated toward doing something. This is where communication becomes VERY important. You need to talk to your partner and explain WHY your goals mean what they do to you and HOW they make you feel when they are unsupportive. Offer up suggestions on how they can be more supportive, and express your feelings to them when they start to go back to being unsupportive. It is a two-way street though, as you need to open yourself up to also being supportive of things you might not understand for the well-being of your partner as well. In communicating, you may discover some underlying issues that might be causing the unsupported nature in the relationship, which will then give you both an opportunity to work on those things as well and only make you stronger. You gotta tell them how you’re feeling. If you can’t talk to your partner, maybe you need to re-think the relationship…
  • bagge72
    bagge72 Posts: 1,377 Member
    Try being independent, and making your own food, not sure why it's her way or the highway.
  • hannahsadler_tn
    hannahsadler_tn Posts: 77 Member
    In my opinion, getting healthy is SOOO much easier when you have the support of your partner. My husband and I are each others biggest fans when we're in the zone and doing well, and our biggest enablers when we both had bad habits (cookie dough and Game of Thrones marathons LOL). Over the years we've realized that we are stronger when we are working towards the same goal. He and I have both struggled with weight and food issues throughout our lives. We enjoy different activities for health (weightlifting is my thing, cycling is his), but we go on walks several times a week and I cook healthy dinners for us. We grocery shop together and are always encouraging each other to drink more water, make sure we hit our step goal, etc. I could do it on my own but I feel very lucky that I don't have to. Especially when times get rough and I start feeling discouraged by my progress, he is my loudest cheerleader.

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