He honked at me and I instantly fell in love...

KDar1988

JoRocka wrote: »

I walked from my office to Rite Aid across the street to drop off some eveleopes- I started my timer because they have been cracking down on us at work about "time arrived- time taken on breaks and time left"-
From my desk to half way outside- was 3 minutes.

In that time I had not one but TWO People hollar at me out of their cars while I was walking.

Seriously. Why. it's annoying. And stupid.

Wait...do you work in the same building as me? I have a Rite Aid across the street too! LOL

lithezebra

Doesn't bother me at all unless they stop, or follow me.

JoRocka

KDar1988 wrote: »

JoRocka wrote: »

I walked from my office to Rite Aid across the street to drop off some eveleopes- I started my timer because they have been cracking down on us at work about "time arrived- time taken on breaks and time left"-
From my desk to half way outside- was 3 minutes.

In that time I had not one but TWO People hollar at me out of their cars while I was walking.

Seriously. Why. it's annoying. And stupid.

Wait...do you work in the same building as me? I have a Rite Aid across the street too! LOL

heh- you live in NJ- then MAYBE!

yesimpson

I totally ignore them and try not to jump even though it really startles me for a moment. Seems to wind up the vulgar-comment-shouters more if they get absolutely no response.

I don't like it. Most of the time it's not complimentary, it's designed to make you jump/feel uncomfortable/make the passengers of the vehicle snigger (not to mention I look a state when exercising, so nobody is really going to be actually thinking I look good). I'm not jogging for their entertainment. And if it's a man who genuinely thinks a honk is a compliment, well... Can't see that working out well for him.

htimpaired

GnothiSeauton23 wrote: »

JoRocka wrote: »

GnothiSeauton23 wrote: »

Whaaaat? Usually all it takes is a honk... Sometimes just a hard stare.

Then again I drive a pretty hot windowless white van so maybe that's it.

you have candy in that white van is the real question.

Candy- or bacon.

Candy lures the wrong clientele...I'm not about that life

Chocolate covered bacon?

arditarose

I get honked an hollered at. I got it when I was overweight too. If it's someone in passing I let it go. What can I do about it? If it's someone in my neighborhood who bothers me day in and day out, I let them know I don't like it and to stop.

michelleepotter

I haven't had this happen, but I wouldn't be able to take it as a compliment because it would startle / scare the *kitten* out of me. Not because I think the person honking is trying to be threatening, but because that's what a car horn is designed to do: to get someone's attention and alert them to danger. Whistling, cat-calling, etc. would not have the same effect on me, because it's not coming in a form that is literally designed to indicate danger.

I mostly just get polite hellos and the occasional stupid joke from my neighbors (one of my neighbors is a real "dad joke" guy, but not as funny as he thinks), and now and then if I leave my neighborhood I get people stopping to ask if I'm ok, because apparently no one in my city actually walks to the store.

KatieJane83

This doesn't happen often to me, and hasn't in a while. I've been kinda hoping for a honk lately cause I figure I'll just start flipping them the bird, lol.

However, a week or 2 ago I was running at a park near me with a biking/walking/jogging path around a big lake. There was a guy riding a bike with a GoPro on his helmet (helmet was only sitting on his head, not buckled, I was tempted to try to knock it off, lol) doing laps of the lake, and he very obviously, and for the entire time he was passing me in the other direction, stared at me with his GoPro. I was seriously tempted to stick a branch in his tire spokes. It's a whole other level of creeper status when you're using a camera.

In happier news, I love the purely positive motivational shouts! Was running in a steady rain, with my baseball cap and rain jacket on, absolutely dripping, and some guy gave me a big thumbs up, a smile, and yelled, "awesome dedication!" Totally brought a smile to my face.

NorthCascades

Holy crap, I won Beth over by being respectful and clever and treating her like she deserved some dignity and adventure. You're saying I should have just drove by and honked at her? I'll tell my single friends.

chocolate_owl

lithezebra wrote: »

Doesn't bother me at all unless they stop, or follow me.

It didn't bother me until I got followed a couple of times. Now I feel like a honk is an indication I need to be on my guard, and I really hate it. Hate it hate it hate it. I run with my husband as often as possible so I'm not out alone, and I don't run in the dark, ever. If it happens, I ignore it - I don't want to antagonize or anyone or "encourage" more interaction by flipping them off.

JeepHair77

Ha! I only kind of recently started running without headphones, and the first few times I was out, it honestly didn't even occur to me that they were honking at me. I just thought there were a lot of cranky drivers on the road.

I did eventually put two and two together. And it's annoying, but I ignore it. By the time I look up, they're gone, so there's no point in the death stare or the middle finger.

Nnsando

I must look pretty scary when I'm running, because this doesn't happen to me. I do blast my music and get lost in my own little world though.

shelbyzoe91

I find it super annoying! I'm not one to let things slide if they bother me, so I usually tell them to *kitten* off....

RoxieDawn

I have never been honked but I have been gawked at by the driver just looking and looking and veering more and more into the lane I am running and then bam, they swerve back.. they are in more danger of hurting them selves than I am.

I get a good laugh unless I actually have to head toward the ditch which that happened one morning and scarily they turned around to apologize.. I do live in the south and a bit out of the city, so normally folks are pretty nice..

JeromeBarry1

Men like to watch women. Duh.

lithezebra

mskessler89 wrote: »

lithezebra wrote: »

Doesn't bother me at all unless they stop, or follow me.

It didn't bother me until I got followed a couple of times. Now I feel like a honk is an indication I need to be on my guard, and I really hate it. Hate it hate it hate it. I run with my husband as often as possible so I'm not out alone, and I don't run in the dark, ever. If it happens, I ignore it - I don't want to antagonize or anyone or "encourage" more interaction by flipping them off.

It's wise to be on your guard anyway. The people, and possibly animals, you should watch out for probably aren't going to announce themselves by honking. That's why I never wear headphones out in public. I don't go out alone except in daylight and well traveled areas, unless I really need to, and I carry protection. However, I'm not afraid, just prepared.

Fursian

OP, in a few years this will happen to you less and less. Chin up!

GiddyupTim

So, I see women out jogging with earbuds, one in each ear. I think, music and podcast makes the miles go faster. But, then I think, maybe it is like the gym. Maybe they wear the headphones because they really do not like getting bothered.
But, isn't that worse, really? Isn't it dangerous not to be able to hear, especially on a bike path or early in the morning when no one is around?
It is tough, I think.
I am glad my wife likes to run with other people and so rarely goes out alone.

Dannigreen31

Happened today. Makes me jump but I'm not really bothered by it! Unless they are shouting crude stuff then its bothersome

Alluminati

JoRocka wrote: »

I walked from my office to Rite Aid across the street to drop off some eveleopes- I started my timer because they have been cracking down on us at work about "time arrived- time taken on breaks and time left"-
From my desk to half way outside- was 3 minutes.

In that time I had not one but TWO People hollar at me out of their cars while I was walking.

Seriously. Why. it's annoying. And stupid.

Where they hangin' out the passenger side of their best friend's ride?
Total scrubs.

fredgonzini

aceofswords wrote: »

... Said no woman ever.

Seriously though, what is it that compels men to honk at women as they are jogging?

It's not encouraging (although it does help me run faster just to get off the road and back to the safety of my apartment) and it's distracting. If you're honking at me, it better be because my life is in danger because of something you can see that I can't, not because you've decided my puffy, red face and sweat-stained shirt are somehow a turn on.

Ladies, how do you deal with this during your exercise?

(For the record, I usually wear capri-length leggings and a t-shirt when I run, so I am fully covered.)

Ha haha
I am a guy. Sporty girl look so good. I would never honk my horn. I would probably stare and run my car into a tree.
But anyways as a 49 year old male I often see girls working out and wonder if I told them they were looking good if they would be pissed or take it as a compliment. In your opinion if you see a person working out improving yourself should you say something the opposite sex or just leave them be.

sunnybeaches105

Cue the next thread of a woman complaining because men don't notice her, never compliment her, hold the door/don't hold the door, pick up the check/don't pick up the check, how DH does or doesn't do whatever, etc.

Good lord, some women love to complain. Thank you, OP, for reminding me how damned lucky I am.

Forty6and2

There was one time I was running and some guy that I know from my university pulled over and yelled "Do you need a ride?" I stopped and yelled back "You're *kitten* stupid" and kept on running. I think he was serious though. Like he saw me outside, running in active wear, and legit thought I needed a ride. But he always got on my nerves anyway, so I don't feel bad about my response to him

Forty6and2

KatieJane83 wrote: »

This doesn't happen often to me, and hasn't in a while. I've been kinda hoping for a honk lately cause I figure I'll just start flipping them the bird, lol.

However, a week or 2 ago I was running at a park near me with a biking/walking/jogging path around a big lake. There was a guy riding a bike with a GoPro on his helmet (helmet was only sitting on his head, not buckled, I was tempted to try to knock it off, lol) doing laps of the lake, and he very obviously, and for the entire time he was passing me in the other direction, stared at me with his GoPro. I was seriously tempted to stick a branch in his tire spokes. It's a whole other level of creeper status when you're using a camera.

In happier news, I love the purely positive motivational shouts! Was running in a steady rain, with my baseball cap and rain jacket on, absolutely dripping, and some guy gave me a big thumbs up, a smile, and yelled, "awesome dedication!" Totally brought a smile to my face.

On your last point: I have had some experiences where other runners have offered a high five as we're passing each other. That is pretty cool.

jeepinshawn

When I was 100lbs over weight had learning to jog I had a few young people honk, and one redneck truck actually threw a soda can at me. It didn't make me feel good, I'd never honk at a woman good looking or not. Like said above though a high five from another runner or words of encouragement as you go by each other are great.

I also tend to scare people either walking, or running as I pass them, I say on your left or something similar and it makes them jump, just like it does when it happens to me, so now I tend to just try and cough loudly or run around them in the street if possible.

Ladies you can honk or cat call me if you want, it would be nice to be the subject of objectification at least once in life lol.

BiggDaddy58

I know..I mean..here I am out minding my own hot business..looking all tight and all..and women..honking at me all the time..

I'm like Ladies..please..can't you see I'm workin it here????

Seriously, life is too short to get annoyed about things like this..just my opinion..there's plenty of *kitten*..to annoy me on a daily basis...

Don't sweat the small stuff..and it's all small stuff..

grinning_chick

It's all inappropriate. No one should be commenting/honking/whatever at people they don't know in public unless either there's an imminent risk of death, disfigurement, or dismemberment like a small asteroid you spot heading directly for their coordinates or they openly solicit it. And for the record, simply existing in the public space is not solicitation. Personally, I find it mind-boggling anyone finds catcalling complimentary.

Sure, "duh, men will be men". But the men I know also have self-control and are not huge external anal sphincters to other people out on the street, regardless of gender/sex. None of them engage in this kind of low-rent harassing behavior.

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Christine_72

This why i stopped walking around the streets, I got sick of dealing with rude, obnoxious sleaze bags who think women were put on this earth solely for their ogling pleasure :mad:

lemmie177

Most the time, I assume honking is just crazy drivers, or I just don't think about it. BUT I always put my one earbud in the ear facing the street so they can assume I can't hear them. Leave the other one out for safety. For the hollerers, I'm working on perfecting my polite, but dismissive nod. Small enough to discourage interaction, but enough acknowledgement for any entitled ones with anger-management/ego issues.

There was one time a caravan of huge dump trucks was going through town and one of them pulled over honking. I was honestly worried the driver had a heart attack/stroke/seizure or something because he was gesturing kinda frantically and was blocking part of the street and the bike lane. But when I climbed onto the side to peer into the window, all he did was ask me out! Instantly flattered-appalled.