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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Stressing out over my daughter (12)... she's being harassed at school and we've been working to address the situation. For the longest time, she didn't want to name the kids who've been bothering her because she doesn't want to be a snitch, or make things worse, or be a "baby"... It's caused her to struggle with anxiety and depression and she was referred to a therapist because she was entertaining thoughts of self harm.
She finally named two of the kids, and I took that to the principal and he dealt with it - not sure how - and those kids have been ignoring her... but this past week a third kid has really upped his game.
Yesterday, when his teasing of her didn't get the response he wanted, he told her to "just kill herself already". She was so broken last night, and angry, and it kills my heart. I've already reached out to the school, but, seriously... words DO hurt. So many people say she has to grow a thicker skin... but do we really want more hard assh0les out there? Or maybe, just maybe, we should tell the assh0les to be a bit more empathetic for once?
Sigh.
So sorry you and your daughter are going through this. No way she should have to "just deal with it" or "grow a thicker skin".
Telling someone what she was told to do is an atrocious thing to say. However, I think it's no less awful telling a kid in that scenario they have to grow a thicker skin.
Makes me nuts when people say that like kids are just supposed to shrug statements like that off.
Really does make you wonder if any of those same people ever seriously had anyone tell them something of that gravity as a kid or adult.
Hope for you and your daughter something gets done soon.1 -
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Stressing out over my daughter (12)... she's being harassed at school and we've been working to address the situation. For the longest time, she didn't want to name the kids who've been bothering her because she doesn't want to be a snitch, or make things worse, or be a "baby"... It's caused her to struggle with anxiety and depression and she was referred to a therapist because she was entertaining thoughts of self harm.
She finally named two of the kids, and I took that to the principal and he dealt with it - not sure how - and those kids have been ignoring her... but this past week a third kid has really upped his game.
Yesterday, when his teasing of her didn't get the response he wanted, he told her to "just kill herself already". She was so broken last night, and angry, and it kills my heart. I've already reached out to the school, but, seriously... words DO hurt. So many people say she has to grow a thicker skin... but do we really want more hard assh0les out there? Or maybe, just maybe, we should tell the assh0les to be a bit more empathetic for once?
Sigh.
So sorry you and your daughter are going through this. No way she should have to "just deal with it" or "grow a thicker skin".
Telling someone what she was told to do is an atrocious thing to say. However, I think it's no less awful telling a kid in that scenario they have to grow a thicker skin.
Makes me nuts when people say that like kids are just supposed to shrug statements like that off.
Really does make you wonder if any of those same people ever seriously had anyone tell them something of that gravity as a kid or adult.
Hope for you and your daughter something gets done soon.
Thank you. She messaged again today near the end of the day. The boy was calling her a snitch, and getting his friends to do it to. The principal is going to talk to them, but hopefully in such a way that it's not a "she snitched on you again" moment.
Sometimes I wish that I could go up to these kids and say... What would you do if the kid you just told to go kill themselves actually did? How would you feel? Could you go to that funeral and look their grieving parents in the eyes? What about their siblings and aunts and uncles?
I know they are just kids, but I try to teach my kids to think about potential consequences, and I wish these would... because I think they're probably decent humans - they're just oblivious to the damage they are truly doing... and she's not close enough to them for them to be empathetic.
Empathy is in such short supply.
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KickassAmazon76 wrote: »KickassAmazon76 wrote: »Stressing out over my daughter (12)... she's being harassed at school and we've been working to address the situation. For the longest time, she didn't want to name the kids who've been bothering her because she doesn't want to be a snitch, or make things worse, or be a "baby"... It's caused her to struggle with anxiety and depression and she was referred to a therapist because she was entertaining thoughts of self harm.
She finally named two of the kids, and I took that to the principal and he dealt with it - not sure how - and those kids have been ignoring her... but this past week a third kid has really upped his game.
Yesterday, when his teasing of her didn't get the response he wanted, he told her to "just kill herself already". She was so broken last night, and angry, and it kills my heart. I've already reached out to the school, but, seriously... words DO hurt. So many people say she has to grow a thicker skin... but do we really want more hard assh0les out there? Or maybe, just maybe, we should tell the assh0les to be a bit more empathetic for once?
Sigh.
So sorry you and your daughter are going through this. No way she should have to "just deal with it" or "grow a thicker skin".
Telling someone what she was told to do is an atrocious thing to say. However, I think it's no less awful telling a kid in that scenario they have to grow a thicker skin.
Makes me nuts when people say that like kids are just supposed to shrug statements like that off.
Really does make you wonder if any of those same people ever seriously had anyone tell them something of that gravity as a kid or adult.
Hope for you and your daughter something gets done soon.
Thank you. She messaged again today near the end of the day. The boy was calling her a snitch, and getting his friends to do it to. The principal is going to talk to them, but hopefully in such a way that it's not a "she snitched on you again" moment.
Sometimes I wish that I could go up to these kids and say... What would you do if the kid you just told to go kill themselves actually did? How would you feel? Could you go to that funeral and look their grieving parents in the eyes? What about their siblings and aunts and uncles?
I know they are just kids, but I try to teach my kids to think about potential consequences, and I wish these would... because I think they're probably decent humans - they're just oblivious to the damage they are truly doing... and she's not close enough to them for them to be empathetic.
Empathy is in such short supply.
It seems like stories like your daughter's are all to common nowadays (which is a terrible thing). The one thing I seem to miss or don't find is where the accountability of the parents is called to question.
Going to the principal is a good move, but if the parents aren't getting notified for whatever reason (I know it happens to keep stuff quiet at times...I've seen it in the small town we live in) or they just don't care, pay attention, just don't want to deal with it or believe their kid is incapable of that kind of behavior, then the parents continue to enable it. That's an environment problem. It's got to start at home.
The parental accountability is often something that doesn't happen in these situations and the kids are the ones who suffer (along with their families).
So sorry this is happening. Hope you get some resolve to it soon.1 -
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_Miss_chievous_ wrote: »Waiting for my daughter to finish her homework so we can snuggle and watch a movie.
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