Need motivation or something

meggoleggo89

Tonight felt like a binge (even though it was probably 1300 cals for the day) and I'm super down on myself about it and unsure of how to get out of the negative mindset.

What works for you to get you back on track after an upset?

SideSteel

Great question.

I think there are a number of things that COULD help.

For starters I think it's important to identify why you feel the way you do. Do you think you somehow ruined your chances at success? Do you think you're somehow less of a person because of some food you ate?

I think you're going to be just fine, and your feelings about the calories are probably POTENTIALLY more detrimental than the calories themselves.



I think it's important in the long term to re-frame your thought process around what is considered a normal eating habit and what isn't.

For starters, if you ate 1300 calories in a full day that's not a binge, that's called being in a deficit.

For many people, 1300 calories is called dinner.

As it pertains to day to day stuff, it's perfectly normal to have days where you eat a little more. It's also perfectly normal to have days where you eat a little less.

And once in a while it's probably okay to eat way more than you should.

The problem comes in when the "once in a while" turns into "too much".

I was probably too tired to post, let me know if this makes any sense.

AnthonyX150X

The best advice to give is just look at tomorrow as another day and keep on moving forward.

How many calories do you normally consume if it felt like a binge at 1300 calories? You may be in too deep of a calorie deficit and thus making you feel this way.

meggoleggo89

Thank you @SideSteel it means a lot to me to hear that. I appreciate it a lot. I guess I feel like I hindered my progress in trying to lose, especially since I did better with eating and having less yesterday.

I plan on making it better tomorrow by having a little less and running. I'm trying to balance it out to keep progress going.

meggoleggo89

@AnthonyX150X I usually have about 1000 or sometimes less on a normal day. There are rare days where I have up to 1500 but I've lost hunger recently and get too panicked. I will definitely try to look at it as just another day and move forward with goals tomorrow!

SueSueDio

Please don't punish yourself by trying to eat less and workout more to "make up for it" - just treat tomorrow as a new day and do whatever you would normally do to meet your regular daily goals.

I think you'll be fine if you can manage to put it behind you and move on without letting it affect your general outlook on food.

*hugs* too, just because everyone can use a hug now and then!

meggoleggo89

Thank you @SueSueDio I appreciate your response. I will try to move past it and remember it's just another day.

Hugs back to you!

cbstig

What helps me is knowing that gaining weight is just as hard as losing weight. They take about the same amount of time. Having 1 bad day won't negate all the hard work I've been doing. I think about that and get myself back on track!

meggoleggo89

Thanks @cbstig that's a great outlook! I appreciate it!

stacylyle13

A guy I look at as my coach often tells me. "If you fall down so what. Get back up." Don't let one instance turn o to a whole day. Some of have a bad habit of thinking of we slipped on one meal we have blown a whole day. If you feel like you went over, recognize it and get back right back on don't sweat it. Life has to be enjoyable. If we turn this into a struggle we make it harder to stay motivated.

meggoleggo89

Thank you for that @stacylyle13 ! I appreciate it a lot!!

SueSueDio

stacylyle13 wrote: »

A guy I look at as my coach often tells me. "If you fall down so what. Get back up." Don't let one instance turn o to a whole day. Some of have a bad habit of thinking of we slipped on one meal we have blown a whole day. If you feel like you went over, recognize it and get back right back on don't sweat it. Life has to be enjoyable. If we turn this into a struggle we make it harder to stay motivated.

This is all very true!

@meggoleggo89 You might like to reflect on how you were feeling at the time and what might have triggered this mini-binge, so you can be aware of those situations in the future and be prepared for how to deal with them? But yeah, life happens and we need to develop strategies for things like special occasions, meals out with friends, emotional ups and downs and so on. The main thing, as @stacylyle13 said, is not to think it's ruined everything and let it cause you to throw in the towel.

How are you doing today? Feeling like you can get back on track and be positive about your journey this morning?

meggoleggo89

Thanks @SueSueDio ! So far I'm quite a bit under my calories and will probably workout soon as well so I feel better than I did last night. I drank some coffee as well which always makes me feel better

How are you doing?!

SueSueDio

Doing okay, thank you! I had a fun time a couple of days ago where for some reason I was absolutely ravenous and just wanted to eat all the things (not ToM, no idea what caused it), but thankfully I was back to normal the next day! I'm currently taking a short break from reduced calories so I'm glad I had the allowance to eat more.

meggoleggo89

I'm lad you had fun!!! It's needed!