Need supportive friends who get it

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  • illiana45
    illiana45 Posts: 3
    Hi! My name is Blanca.

    I have fallen off as well. The hardest for me is that I eat when I am depressed, blue, bored, or just anxious. I hate it! I have stayed pretty much within 1200 but I know I can do better. My exercise includes 4 to 5 times at the gym and once with a trainer to guide my routines. Even then I feel it is not fast enough and many days I feel discourage and think "what the hell all the work for" I try to stay positive but too many things have happened in the last two years; ex leaves, children off to college, end my education, mother died and youngest off to college in a month. Grieving has been interesting; one day I feel strong the next I am a total slug. But anyways, we keep trying, what else do I have to lose but gain my health and "feel good" hormones. I welcome anyone who wants to add me to your friend's list.
  • illiana45
    illiana45 Posts: 3
    wow congratulations on losing all that weight! How long did it take you?
  • 08kat
    08kat Posts: 51
    I know exactly how you feel. I fell off the wagon about a year ago, just recently jumped back on. Feel free to add me as a friend. I know we can both do this. :flowerforyou:
  • masi4
    masi4 Posts: 6
    New to this site and haven't figured it out yet, but add me too! I have fallen off the wagon & rolled down the hill! I've got 70 lbs to lose. . .support & advice would be fabulous!
  • heidibluegirl
    heidibluegirl Posts: 32 Member
    I felt the exact same way a month ago and have completely turned that thinking around! You can too! So much support here. Just hold yourself accountable and be here. I've lost 9 lbs in 4 weeks and feeling better already! Have about 140 to go! So started at the same place as you. And I also lost 96 lbs a few years ago and gained it all back and more. So yeah, I get that feeling of being tired and not feeling like you have the strength mentally, emotionally or physically to give it yet another go. But you do. And you will continue to until you get it right, or you will give up not knowing what your full potential truly is.
  • heidibluegirl
    heidibluegirl Posts: 32 Member
    Anyone struggling with large amounts of weight to lose or who have lost large amounts feel free to add me! Or anyone else for that matter!
  • heidibluegirl
    heidibluegirl Posts: 32 Member
    Feel free to read my thread on how I felt a month ago and all the great advice I got!
  • jko42
    jko42 Posts: 1
    HELLO, JUST READ YOUR POST. WOULD LOVE TO TRY TO HELP YOU AND GIVE YOU SUPPORT. I TOO NEED TO LOSE A LOT OF WEIGHT BUT I AM MUCH OLDER THAN YOU SO IT WILL BE HARDER FOR ME PLUS IT IS VERY HARD FOR ME TO EXERCISE BECAUSE OF ARTHRITIS. WOULD LIKE TO TRY TO BE A FRIEND TOO
  • sunfirelynn
    sunfirelynn Posts: 186 Member
    You can add me if you would like . I've been here a month and half faithfully every day . The weight is coming off slowly and I will be here a very long time :ohwell:
  • cseckinger1
    cseckinger1 Posts: 64
    You are not needy at all. We have all felt like a failure in this weight loss journey. You just have to get into healthier habits & then it will be easier. What program are you going to do? I do low carb eating bc it is just easier for me. I don't like to log everything & count my calories, but whatever works for you is what you need to do. Take one day at a time & excercise everyday for at least 30 min. & build on that.
  • thenewoc
    thenewoc Posts: 1 Member
    You can do it.

    I've fallen off the bandwagon in the worst way and totally get it. It's a restart to myself. We're all here for each other
  • marcielladozier
    marcielladozier Posts: 1
    Welcome back, as for myself I am a newbie at this site. I am serious about getting healthy and still have 185 lbs to go. I found for myself that each day, hour and sometimes mins. are important to stay focus and on task. This weight loss journey is in no way easy and you are doing Great to pick yourself up and begin again. I am here for you and hope that you to will be here for me, I understand those good days and the bad days when we just want something good which in most cases is high in calories and not good for our bodies. I started out at 364lbs and now weigh 321.8lbs. The weight is coming down slowly and so I focus on how my clothing is getting to big and I am able to walk a little farther. :smile:
  • Fitbodybliss
    Fitbodybliss Posts: 18
    You can do it! You are here and that's what matters :) small changes make the biggest difference ????
  • eileenm777
    eileenm777 Posts: 31 Member
    Feel free to add me - we're all here for you! :)
  • SixFourTwo
    SixFourTwo Posts: 31 Member
    I get it.

    Think bunches of flowers - one dead head doesn't mean you need to throw the whole bunch away.

    Look at the long journey and think about learning new habits, new food, better choices - not "I'm on a diet I cant have this or that".
    Make sure one day a week you have a 'whatever' day - if you feel good then be good but it you don't, let it roll. Its just food at the end of the day.

    Always keep the long goal in mind - its OK to have the odd off day and just be careful you don't make excuses about today thinking you'll be better tomorrow.

    You are so in the right place for people who will understand and support you.
  • CaLaurie
    CaLaurie Posts: 178
    I've been known to fall off the wagon a time or two. Back at it now though- feel free to add me! :smile:
  • 43932452
    43932452 Posts: 7,246 Member
    I fell off track due to injuries and family losses.
    I kept getting back up, even though it's taken

    goal! You are welcome to add me, I understand
    where you,re coming from .. you'll beat this! :)
  • wkrukow
    wkrukow Posts: 26 Member
    Hi there. I'm completely new here too, I just signed up like a few mins ago. I'm in somewhat of a similar situation as you, I can feel your words of the fear keeping you from going forward. I had to deal with the disappointment of falling off the wagon along with the depression from various things such as a horrible break-up, broken self-esteem, difficulties with my studies, being a failure. I turned to food for comfort and now I'm in a terrible place due to my bad decisions. I strongly need the motivation, funny thing is I'm much better at motivating others than offering words of comfort and support to myself. Do add me, I need friends whom I can support amd lean onto as well :)
    Trust me I get it. Be glad to have you as MVP friend:-)
  • wkrukow
    wkrukow Posts: 26 Member
    Stupid auto correct.....MFP friend
  • jackiefrost33
    jackiefrost33 Posts: 25
    I too am back for second time I am also I need of supportive friends!!! Sending you a request.
  • RAEQ127
    RAEQ127 Posts: 106 Member
    I see you have a lot to lose (I do as well). The doubt always rolls around in my mind and it has taken me a long time to get to this point, but I figure I need to learn to deal with the present and small victories. My next goal is 22 lbs away. I would like to do that by the end of the year. Focus on 25 lbs at a time. Focus on small things, let it take years to lose all the weight. I think one of the biggest mistakes I see are people (and I've done it too) who go from 0 to 60 in 2 seconds. You can't run a mile the first day walking,and then eat 1200 calories of carrots and apples. That's not realistic. Making small positives changes that become ingrained in you over time is what will stick. Try starting out by monitoring what you eat the first month or 2. Get to know yourself. Try to add walking a little further. I think that would help more than anything.
  • PoisonedCursed
    PoisonedCursed Posts: 143
    I'm so glad to learn I'm not alone in this struggle. It's really great reading all these comments and posts :)
    However it's nagging me in the back of my mind that this time time around is much harder to lose weight. I've been dieting and exercising but my scales wouldn't budge, is it just me or are there others as well? Any responses would be much appreciated, thanks.
  • melissaamooney
    melissaamooney Posts: 22 Member
    Anything worthwhile is worth doing well. you are worth it. I sent you a friend request . You aren't alone in this.
  • KayaVice
    KayaVice Posts: 24 Member
    Feel free to add me. I don't know how often I'll be on the community part of this website, but I'll do my best to encourage whoever needs it!

    Just remember that you are NOT ALONE in this battle. All of us on this site are trying to fight the same battle as you are. Strength is in numbers.

    I wish you all the best of luck in your weight loss journey!
  • KayaVice
    KayaVice Posts: 24 Member
    I'm so glad to learn I'm not alone in this struggle. It's really great reading all these comments and posts :)
    However it's nagging me in the back of my mind that this time time around is much harder to lose weight. I've been dieting and exercising but my scales wouldn't budge, is it just me or are there others as well? Any responses would be much appreciated, thanks.

    I think that if you've been on the weight loss journey long enough, you will hit a brick wall as you have from time to time. I think that's quite normal. I'm not sure what causes it.....maybe it's our bodies trying to adjust to all the change. In any case, don't get too discouraged, give it a little time, maybe add some extra exercise and/or cut back on 'cheat days.'

    Good luck to you!
  • briersting
    briersting Posts: 21
    Don't look at it as "falling off the wagon". You stepped off to take a washroom break lol. I did it last month. Went on a sugar bender (my weakness) and now I'm back on track. And you're definitely not needy. We're all here looking for support and advice. And you have the strength, you're here now right? That counts for a lot. You're already a success because you made the decision, and are now making the effort to make the change. With ya all the way! Feel free to add me.

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